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Bader also interprets common sex fantasies and discusses sexual boredom in ongoing relationships, the power of pathogenic (irrational and self-defeating) beliefs, and sexual fantasies as a therapeutic key to problems that seem independent of sexuality, such as depression.
This provocative book is scholarly yet accessible to the lay reader interested in psychology. Although readers might be drawn in by the gritty, sexy details about Bader's patients, thoughtful readers also will learn about themselves and what their own fantasies may be addressing and revealing. --Joan Price --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
From Publishers Weekly
Copyright 2001 Cahners Business Information, Inc.
--This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.A thirty-two-year- old lesbian patient, Jenny, reported that she liked to be dominated during sex. Read the first page
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Front Cover | Copyright | Table of Contents | Excerpt | Index | Back Cover
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5.0 out of 5 stars
What gets us hot and bothered? -- Bader explains it all!,
By janeyb "janeyb" (Cambridge, MA USA) - See all my reviews
This review is from: Arousal: The Secret Logic of Sexual Fantasies (Hardcover)
I found "Arousal" to be a fascinating analysis of sexual fantasies. Through the use of case studies - the feminist whose biggest turn-on was the idea of being be raped by a custodian, the man whose fantasies involved turning invisible, the fellow who imagined having sex with a bubbly, underage highschool student, and many more - Bader ably demonstrates how a psychoanalyst who is sensitive and open-minded might go about understanding the genesis of a patient's sexual fantasies and turning these insights into something of therapeutic benefit. Each of the fantasies profiled has a very logical premise that Bader explains clearly and believably. For instance, the feminist fantasized about being raped because she felt stronger than most men, and only in the arms of the fantasy rapist - who was all muscles and ruthless about taking what he wanted - could she just think about herself and surrender to her own excitement. With her own husband, she didn't feel nearly as comfortable about being selfish sexually (she was instinctively sensitive to his feelings), and thus didn't experience the same level of arousal as in her fantasies. Bader makes an interesting distinction - between people who have fantasies, and people who act on their fantasies. I would have enjoyed seeing him go into greater detail in this area. However, his explorations regarding the background of various common fantasies - domination, submission, masochism, sadism, fetishism, underage, invisibility (and myriad others) - more than make up for this lapse. This book is wonderful for anyone who is curious about the underpinnings of their fantasies, or who is interested in how a psychoanalyst might dissect those same fantasies (and then put that understanding to work). The book is fascinating, provocative and well worth checking out.
1 of 1 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars
Like having a wonderful, compassionate therapist,
By A Customer
This review is from: Arousal: The Secret Logic of Sexual Fantasies (Hardcover)
What a blessing it was to find this book. For so long I have wondered about whether there was something wrong with me, whether I was different, sick just because I have a rich sexual fantasy life. Reading Dr. Bader's book was such a comfort; he's both knowledgable and sensitive--like a great therapist--which I imagine he is. I recommend this book to anyone who is curious about the place of sexual fantasy in life and especially psychotherapists who need to know a lot more about this subject than I bet they do.
1 of 1 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars
wise, humorous, helpful,
By A Customer
This review is from: Arousal: The Secret Logic of Sexual Fantasies (Hardcover)
I was fortunate already to be familiar with Dr. Bader's academic writings. The same qualities of original thought, humor, and pragmatism are featured in this book for a general audience. Among clinicians, Dr. Bader is best known for his ability to wade skillfully into highly philosophical debates and drag theoreticians back towards a focus on helping people with their struggles. In this book, he ventures into areas of shame and secrecy and once again finds perpectives that are useful, accepting and liberating.
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