- Hardcover: 392 pages
- Publisher: Perspectives Press (IN) (May 2002)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 0944934293
- ISBN-13: 978-0944934296
- Product Dimensions: 23.6 x 16.1 x 2.9 cm
- Shipping Weight: 794 g
- Average Customer Review: 4.8 out of 5 stars See all reviews (12 customer reviews)
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#85,221 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
- #36 in Books > Parenting & Families > Adoption
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Proper attachment is the most fundamental issue in a successful adoption, but what exactly does the term mean? Attaching in Adoption answers that question thoroughly, and it provides solutions to a variety of specific attachment problems.
Along with technical explanations of challenges such as self-esteem, childhood grief, and limit-testing, the book includes a tremendous number of personal vignettes illustrating attachment-related situations. Parents who are convinced that only their child has ever behaved a certain way are sure to take comfort in these stories; not only do they include kids from all backgrounds and age groups, but each has an ultimately happy ending. The emotional health of the whole family is also paramount according to the book--with plenty of rest and "alone time," caregivers are more likely to be emotionally available when they are most needed.
Because Attaching in Adoption focuses on special needs, families who are coming together through foster programs, at later ages, or across cultural lines will find it especially helpful. Both psychologically detailed and straightforwardly helpful, it can be of equal benefit to counselors and parents alike. --Jill Lightner
From Publishers Weekly
Gray, a clinical social worker specializing in attachment, grief and trauma, has penned a comprehensive guidebook for adoptive parents, taking an in-depth look at how children and families adjust. The author notes that many of today's adoptions involve older children who may have been abused or neglected, or who may have spent years in institutions or various foster situations; due to their past experiences these children may have difficulty attaching to their adoptive parents. Explaining that attachment forms the template for future adult relationships, Gray stresses how important it is for adoptive parents to be patient in forging this new bond. She advises creating a high structure/ high nurture environment for the child, and instructs parents to find out about their child's background. The book covers many issues, including cross-cultural and interracial adoption, religious concerns and other complications for attaching, such as ADHD and learning disabilities. Gray also includes a detailed exploration of developmental delays common in kids who have been adopted later in life. While the book is densely written, it will nevertheless be invaluable for adoptive parents. Gray compassionately helps readers form realistic expectations, while offering a myriad of suggestions for families and children striving to form lasting, loving relationships.
Copyright 2002 Cahners Business Information, Inc.
Copyright 2002 Cahners Business Information, Inc.
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6 of 6 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars
Must Read for All Adoptive Parents,
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This review is from: Attaching in Adoption: Practical Tools for Today's Parents (Hardcover)
As the parent of 2 adopted children, one who attached easily and one who is proving to be more of a challenge, this book is one that I feel our agency should make required reading. It is not only for those parents of older adoptees, but I found much that was helpful for our 14 month old son. Beyond the obvious helpful ideas and explanations, this book served to help "normalize" this experience for me, and helped me feel less like we are living in our own little hell at the moment. Reading the real-life stories provided me with several "ahh haa" moments, and I now feel much better equipped to handle my son's behavior and understand this is more of a "Long Haul" than a "Quick Fix", but definitely something that can be worked with and helped. This book is very in-depth and comprehensive, and for someone who is at this moment dealing with a month worth of sleepless nights, tantrums, and constant pushing away I can't think of anything more valuable that I have found to help me through this.
1 of 1 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars
Excellent resource!,
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This review is from: Attaching in Adoption: Practical Tools for Today's Parents (Hardcover)
This really is one of the best books you can read to prepare you for adopting a child beyond infancy. It provides insight into the many emotional and behavioral issues that children bring when they have been through trauma. It also helps give parents tools to deal with these issues.Christine Mitchell, author and illustrator of Welcome Home, Forever Child: A Celebration of Children Adopted as Toddlers, Preschoolers, and Beyond
1 of 1 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars
Excellent, best book ever written on this subject,
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This review is from: Attaching in Adoption: Practical Tools for Today's Parents (Hardcover)
As the head of a large private practice counseling group, I read many books on many subjects, including RAD. This is simply the finest and most comprehesive book on attachment I have ever read. It is written by a professional with many years of experience, yet it is easy to read, even for the lay person. The excellent professional reviews are correct, this book is essential to an understanding of this subject and will be helpful to both professional and parent.
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