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Back When We Were Grownups: A Novel Hardcover – 2001


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  • Hardcover
  • Publisher: Alfred a Knopf Inc; 1st Edition edition (2001)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0375412530
  • ISBN-13: 978-0375412530
  • Product Dimensions: 16.7 x 2.9 x 24.2 cm
  • Shipping Weight: 590 g
  • Average Customer Review: 3.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (182 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Bestsellers Rank: #1,119,009 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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"Once upon a time, there was a woman who discovered that she had turned into the wrong person." So Anne Tyler opens this irresistible new novel. -excerpted from novel hard cover jacket

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Format: Paperback
I think I've broken down the Anne Tyler formula. Novels which are narrated by male characters are instant classics, books to be read a hundred times and enjoyed letter by letter. Novels from the POV of female characters are excellent -- but just not quite as memorable.
My introduction to Anne Tyler came with "Accidental Tourist", and since then I rate "Saint Maybe" and "A Patchwork Planet" as two of my favorite books of all time. Tyler gets inside the heads of her male characters with alarming humor and accuracy. I am less fond of the women of "Ladder of Years" and "Breathing Lessons" -- and now, of "Back When We Were Grownups" -- although I still rate them as fine books. Perhaps, as a guy, I just can't bring enough to the table to appreciate the insights and sentiments.
"Grownups" is a bit predictable, as if it followed the same chapter outline as Tyler's last six or seven books. There they are, in all the expected places: Rebecca, the main character who feels she hasn't become the person she always wanted to be; the annoying extended family, with bizarre names (NoNo, Biddy, and Patch -- who for good measure marries a man named Jeep); Rebecca's reluctant relationship with her off-kilter ex-boyfriend; the reluctant parting of ways late in the day; and then finally Rebecca's inevitable acceptance of just who she is, warts and all.
Rebecca's a memorable character, and so are some of the other Davitch family members (especially Poppy, the centegenarian uncle). But my greatest sympathies lay with Will, Rebecca's once and future boyfriend, the insular college professor with the troubled daughter and the completely astray domestic life. There was a time when this book could have been about Will (and it was "The Accidental Tourist"). Instead, Will comes and goes, sometimes funny and sometimes poignant, and at the end of the day I almost wished the book had been about him, instead.
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Format: Paperback
Rebecca Davitch is 53 years old, widowed and rethinking her chosen path. Surrounded by family on more occasions then not, she is the instigator of parties and the glue that holds them all together. Parties have become a business for her over the years, and she is about to give the party of the century for Poppy, her aging relative and roommate who is about to turn 100 this year.
The book travels back through time, and Rebecca relives her past and thinks over her choices, trying to remember who she was and how she has become this woman that stares back at her from the mirror. The author has created some richly illuminated, strong, and intelligent characters. Poppy makes us realize how much joy there is in the everyday sights, sounds, and smells of living. He was by far my favorite character.
The book takes time to get going since the strong point is the development of the characters. Beautifully written she is an author with deep insight into the human spirit. The book reads like a lackadaisical trip through someone's old photo album.
Kelsana 5/03/02
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Format: Hardcover
Hoo boy. I expected much more from Anne Tyler, whose books "The Accidental Tourist" and "A Patchwork Planet" were, to me, unforgettable.
First there is the problem that everyone in this book seems to be required to have some cutsie nickname. it left me begging for someone, anyone, not named something ridiculous.
Beyond the annoying names, no one in this book made me care very much what happened to them. The only character who made me rise from my torpor at all was a workman who adores his wife, but the wife is bipolar and erratic. Nonetheless, he seemed to understand and cherish her. Well, that lasted a couple of paragraphs.
The main character is dull, dull, dull. The premise--that she realizes that she has become the wrong person--is full of possibility. While I liked the occasional touch, such as the fact that her future husband gets the completely wrong first impression of her and she seems to take that mistake and run with it, most of the book just plods along.
As another reviewer here has noted, when I got to the end, I felt cheated, let down. I felt I had invested more time than the novel was worth, a feeling I have never before had when finishing a Tyler novel. The only novel of hers I ever didn't like was "Celestial Navigation", and that was because it was so terribly sad, not because it just didn't deliver, like this one.
Rebecca reminded me somewhat of the older lady the protagonist of "A Patchwork Planet" wastes his time on through much of that book. The difference is, that was one of my all-time favorites, and this was a dud. Try reading the dictionary, or better yet, the obituaries, instead.
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Format: Hardcover
To begin with, the book is slow, hard to get into. Characters w/ odd names come flooding in & throughout the book, it's difficult to keep them all straight.
Rebecca, the main character, is hopelessly searching for something. She flip-flops back & forth from feeling resentment towards her family to appreciating the chaotic way in which they all operate in a much unappreciative way towards her.
That's the main thing that got to me: She's a doormat to her family. Few consider her as a person. There are times where you're thinking, "Surely she's gonna let them have it now!". That would also contribute to some of the plot, but sadly- nothing.
So why two stars even? I loved poor Rebecca & felt such pity for her. I guess I had to finish the book to root her on. I also thought the premise of the story (what she was going through) was very true for so many women & found it comforting, even consoling.
So, yeah, I suppose I would say read it. Only don't expect much to happen.
This is my first book of Tyler's to read. I'll read more, as I suspect this one may not be the full extent as to the quality of her writing.
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