Better Love Next Time: How the Relationship that Didn't Last Can Lead You to the One that Will [Hardcover]

"Read it, people. J.M. Kearns's new book called Better Love Next Time... The book's main premise is that people often repeat the same mistakes in successive relationships, but if you can diagnose what really went wrong with your exes, you can have better relationships in the future." (Erin Meanley, Glamour.com)

"If you're searching for love, then you should start with this refreshingly intelligent and insightful dating guide." (Shari Low, Daily Record)

"Self-help books often make me skittish - but not this one. Kearns's advice is sound and good: he tells us to look inward, to be honest with ourselves, to stay the course. A chapter called How Good Matches Go Bad is, alone, worth the book's price…He says our demons will invariably rise up and try to disrupt …It's important to learn to step back when you sense trouble 'and ask yourself, who is talking here?' Are there old grudges in play? Old hurts stinging? False lessons echoing that have nothing to do with the two of you?" (Susan Schwartz, Montreal Gazette)

 

Better Love Next Time offers help in coping with the pain and heartache of a bad breakup, but more than that, it reveals how to overcome the lingering damage that a broken relationship can leave behind – how to heal your romantic soul. J.M. Kearns presents a simple (and entertaining) way to diagnose what went wrong, so history won't have to repeat itself, and explains how to decode the "guide to compatibility" written in your own past. Witty, frank, and full of real-life stories, Better Love Next Time ensures that when you do find a new love, you will arrive whole, renewed, and empowered to make it the one that lasts.

In Better Love Next Time, J.M. Kearns discusses: 

• how to deal with the "wall of pain" that is a broken heart, and what is waiting beyond the wall
• why "falling in love" too often doesn’t lead to love; and how to change that
• how our attempts to avoid being cheated on again can make us choose exactly the wrong partners
• the real key to faithfulness in a partner
• the surprising toll that cheating takes on the cheater
• how a mismatch can trick you into feeling inadequate
• how to replace what you've lost after a breakup
• how good matches go bad – the ultimate scoop on how to make your next (good) match last.

"Read it, people. J.M. Kearns's new book called Better Love Next Time... The book's main premise is that people often repeat the same mistakes in successive relationships, but if you can diagnose what really went wrong with your exes, you can have better relationships in the future."
— Erin Meanley, Glamour.com

"If you're searching for love, then you should start with this refreshingly intelligent and insightful dating guide."
—Shari Low, Daily Record

"Self-help books often make me skittish - but not this one. Kearns's advice is sound and good: he tells us to look inward, to be honest with ourselves, to stay the course. A chapter called How Good Matches Go Bad is, alone, worth the book's price…He says our demons will invariably rise up and try to disrupt …It's important to learn to step back when you sense trouble 'and ask yourself, who is talking here?' Are there old grudges in play? Old hurts stinging? False lessons echoing that have nothing to do with the two of you?"
—Susan Schwartz, Montreal Gazette

The Way Forward

Past relationships contain a map that can lead you to successful love. But that map is written in code and it has to be deciphered.

Better Love Next Time explains how.

When you peel off the false lessons of your past relationship, you'll find surprising hope. It may seem like a humble goal, to sort out the past. But in fact it can lead to seriously wonderful opportunities. You regain the whole person you were meant to be, and you carry that person into your next relationship.

Better Love Next Time reveals:

• the best ways to deal with a broken heart
• the hidden dangers of a breakup, and how to overcome them
• how your ego tries to hijack your heart
• how to stop betrayal from making you choose the wrong partner again
• how a mismatch can trick you into feeling inadequate
• how to find the partner who's really right for you, and make that love last

How to Heal Your Romantic Soul

Failed relationships don't just hurt-they can also make it harder to love and to live.

Whether your breakup was last month, last year, or farther back, there is a way to undo its harm and unlock its lessons-a way to heal your romantic soul.

Better Love Next Time offers help in coping with the pain and heartache of a breakup, but more than that, it reveals how to overcome the lingering damage that a broken relationship can leave behind. It then presents a simple (and entertaining) way to diagnose what went wrong-so history won't have to repeat itself-and explains how to decode the "guide to compatibility" written in your own past.

Witty, frank, and full of real-life stories, Better Love Next Time ensures that when you do find a new love, you will arrive whole, renewed, and empowered to make it the one that lasts.

J.M. Kearns is the author of the acclaimed Why Mr. Right Can't Find You featured on Oprah & Friends and in Glamour, Maclean's, Complete Woman, OK! and more

J.M. Kearns, PhD, is a writer of fiction and non-fiction who has at various times been a philosopher of perception, a crisis counselor, and a music journalist. He brings to relationship books the unusual combination of a philosopher's analytical mind and a novelist's insight into emotions. His book Why Mr. Right Can't Find You (2007) was embraced by readers and the press on both sides of the Atlantic. He is also the author of a novel, ex-Cottagers in Love (2008). J.M. Kearns lives in Nashville, Tennessee, with his partner Debra. For more on Kearns and his writings, please visit www.jmkearns.com