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Helps you be better with relationships, April 26 2012
what a challenging book! helps you to re-evaluate the relationships you do have and set healthy "boundaries" with people so that you don't have to build walls in order to live your life how you want to!
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Next to the Bible, the Best Book on Christian Relationships!, May 4 2002
Most Christians struggle with the demands and frustrations resulting from their everyday relationships. Cloud and Townsend have produced a true classic in this volume, presenting Biblical concepts that address those demands and frustrations. I have just finished reading this book again for the second time, and chances are good I will read it again in the future.
The authors introduce their work with a short section entitled, "A Day in a Boundaryless Life." Most persons can easily identify with the young woman depicted in this typical life situation. The authors then describe the concept of boundaries in detail, and how boundaries are developed in our lives. They present ten laws of boundaries, and then proceed to describe common myths regarding them. These laws and myths, as well as the rest of the book's content, are very readable and easy to understand.
In the second portion of their work, the authors touch upon the areas of life in which boundaries can be helpful. I cannot think of any area that is unaffected. These areas are: family, friends, spouse, children, work, self, and God.
The authors conclude by describing typical resistance to boundaries. They also summarize the benefits to be gained as persons persevere through that resistance to a more ordered life. Before ending their book, Cloud and Townsend revisit the young woman depicted in the opening section. This time the title is, "A Day in a Life with Boundaries." She now has learned to incorporate boundaries into her own life, and the change for the better is amazing.
This book is a must-read for every Christian believer who wants a wealth of Biblical insight into Christ-honoring relationships. I have recommended it to others in the past, and after this second reading am even more enthusiastic about doing so. Buy it, read it, and allow God to transform your relationships for the better!
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Healthy boundaries are good with people and with books, Jan 5 2004
By A Customer
All books that claim to be Christian, as well as all books in the category of "self-help" must be approached with both an open mind and a fair amount of discernment. I personally found this book to be one of the better books I have read in both categories. Much of the information in it is practical and useful. I believe that it is bibically sound, but not so over the top that those who are not christian will be turned off by it. That in and of itself is noteworthy.
I find it ironic that the negative reviews are not only extreme in their negativity, but passionate about their dislike for this book. It sounds to me like they need to actually read the book, or try reading it again with a more open mind. Those who can blame all that has gone wrong in their particular relationship on this book are definitely in need of some healthy boundaries themselves, as are the people around them I am sure.
I know of at least 5 people personally, as well as myself, who found value in this book. Some more life changing than others, but still a good read either way.
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