Children Learn What They Live: Parenting to Inspire Values Paperback – Jan 5 1998
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Since its publication in 1954, Dorothy Law Nolte's inspirational and educational poem, Children Learn What They Live has been published worldwide, translated into 10 languages, taught in parenting and teaching courses, distributed in doctors offices, and printed on posters and calendars. In Children Learn What They Live: Parenting to Inspire Values, authors Nolte, a teacher and lecturer on family life, and Rachel Harris, Nolte's friend and teaching associate, have taken the classic poem and fleshed it into a small gem of a book. The expanded version maintains the grace and wisdom of the original, yet adds significant insight into the process of encouraging values through example. "If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn," begins the poem (and the book), and so Nolte and Harris suggest effective ways to avoid or prevent constant criticism. As a set of guiding principals, as teaching tools, or as gentle reminders, Nolte and Harris's approach to teaching values to children encapsulates the best in parenting wisdom. --Ericka Lutz
From Publishers Weekly
Nolte's familiar poem, written in 1954, is the basis for these essays, beginning with "If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn." Nolte, a teacher and lecturer on family dynamics, and Harris, a psychotherapist, expound upon the simple truths of the original stanzas, which have been widely distributed. Each short chapter?on jealousy, praise, shame, recognition, tolerance, honesty, etc.?expands upon Nolte's original observations, stressing respect and love as the main ingredients for raising happy and emotionally healthy children. Although the power and impact of the original poem drew greatly from its succintness, some readers may benefit from these explications. The most valuable additions are the few real-life examples, including the tale of a 10-year-old boy who sought and received comfort from his mother after he flubbed a piano recital. While the text veers readily into greeting-card prose, the authors' message?to support and encourage children, to be patient and kind?certainly is hard to dispute. This compact, easily read volume doesn't pack the power of Nolte's popular poem, but it will make an inspiring gift for many parents.
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The book is an in-depth exploration of one of my all-time favorite poems that goes by the same title. For readers unfamiliar with Dorothy Law Nolte's 1954 classic poem, it is included in the front of the book along with Nolte's introduction, "The Story of "Children Learn What They Live,"" in which she shares her thought processes and experiences that led to her wonderful creation.
If there were any doubts about the unbelievably powerful influence that parents have on their children, this book will erase any such doubts. I found it a delightful and insightful, easy-to-read book filled with many realistic, common family situations that reflected my own beliefs, experiences, and personal parental goals and expectations. The stories and examples were very effective in helping me to understand and visualize the authors' main points and insights.
The most important theme throughout the book for me was that parents have conscious choices to make when it comes to responding to their children. Often, those choices are between good, helpful, thoughtful, and objective proactive responses, and bad, hurtful, thoughtless, and emotional reactive responses. Children are sponges to their parents' words, emotions, and behaviors.
Just as the old adage says that leaders lead by example, parents parent by example. As a father, reading this book reminded me of the closing to another of my all-time favorite poems, "Little Eyes Upon You:" "You are setting an example/every day in all you do,/For the little boy who's waiting/to grow up to be like you."
This great book should not be read just by parents for raising children, it should be read by everyone for building character and stronger relationships.
The book along with the poem is great
I really liked the way the book was set up - in short easy to read chapters (even my husband didn't mind reading it), and I liked the real life examples that every parent can relate to. While I don't believe this book to be the answer to every parenting problem that might arise, I think it gives both new and seasoned parents a wonderful way to shape thier thinking on how to raise healthy and happy children.
Most recent customer reviews
Children not only learn what they live but also what they see around them and in the media. This book isn't exactly a parenting book. Read morePublished on Oct. 25 2001
I think that the style of the book is rather childish and so are the examples. I don't think that they describe the situation in its complexity. Read morePublished on March 21 2001 by barbara
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