- Paperback: 256 pages
- Publisher: Broadway; 1 edition (Feb 6 2001)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 0767906535
- ISBN-13: 978-0767906531
- Product Dimensions: 13.1 x 1.7 x 20.8 cm
- Shipping Weight: 236 g
- Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars See all reviews (6 customer reviews)
- Amazon Bestsellers Rank: #415,235 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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Cliques has a twofold message: things are much worse in middle school than you think, and as a parent, there are specific steps you can and should take to make the situation better. The first claim is unnecessary--we all know that cruel stuff happens to kids in junior high school--but the authors go on to give advice about how to help your child survive.
The book addresses two different phenomena: bullying and cliques. The latter (those impenetrable social castes that admit and exclude children at whim) often employ "the fourth R--ridicule" to devastate the self-esteem of those who are "out." This tormenting of peers is not only random and cruel but also often criminal.
The book is divided into eight "steps," each a practical lesson, such as "Help Your Child Belong" and "Empower Your Victim." The sections end with a short, practical list of "Things You Can Do" (e.g., "Work on reducing the conflicts that disrupt your family") and "Things You Cannot Do" (e.g., "Make your child more popular"). The final step, "Lobby for Change," contains some practical advice on what you can do to make schools into kinder, gentler places. It is heartening to hear that programs set up and run by savvy, big-hearted kids have been some of the most effective in addressing the issues. --Richard Farr
From Publishers Weekly
The authors of The Roller Coaster Years, which PW named one of the Best Books of 1997, and Parenting 911 examine the subtle but powerful influence that peer pressure, most notably in the form of cliques, can have on children, generally starting during the middle school years (when kids are between the ages of 10 and 15), and offer parents effective aids to helping their kidsAwhether they are bullies, victims or observersAmanage the larger world of friendships and associations beyond their family at a time when they are also wrestling with issues of self-identity and self-worth. Among the authors' suggestions are "help your child develop... an objective view of cliques" and "help your child control emotions," but, they caution, there are certain things, such as "prevent[ing] others from judging your child," that are beyond parents' scope of control or influence. "Cliques deal in social power," aver Giannetti and Sagarese, and even those kids who are considered popular suffer from insecurities about whether or not they'll continue to fit in. In fact, Giannetti and Sagarese have found that kids in "middle friendship circles" (the clique into which most kids fall), who are neither competing for popularity nor are antisocial loners, are usually the happiest. Once again, Giannetti and Sagarese deliver a positive, proactive book for parents that offers cogent (often anecdotal) examples of particular problems that occur with social interaction among middle schoolers and presents effective strategies for handling them. Cliques can be a serious problem, but keeping things in perspective is helpful all the way around. Agent, Denise Marcil.
Copyright 2000 Reed Business Information, Inc.
Copyright 2000 Reed Business Information, Inc.
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5.0 out of 5 stars
An Absolute MUST read for parents and teachers,
By A Customer
This review is from: Cliques: Eight Steps to Help Your Child Survive the Social Jungle (Paperback)
This is the most important book on the social jungle that I have seen. I have taught school for 20 years and have a 14 year old daughter and a 10 year old son... I have read lots of books. This one should be required reading for teachers. The crises that are occurring in schools today can absolutely be traced to the clique behavior described in this book. It's time to open our eyes and recognize what is going on. This book gets the point across and gets started on doing something about it.
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Safe Schools?,
By Gerri Alexander (SAn Diego, CA USA) - See all my reviews
This review is from: Cliques: Eight Steps to Help Your Child Survive the Social Jungle (Paperback)
There is a wild animal that prowls around attacking children at my daughter's school . School officials can't do anything to stop it because its attacks seldom pierce the skin. But it is not unusual to find victims weeping in a corner asking "Why...?" Occasionally we can see that it was attracted by their clothes, or realize that it sensed they were weak, but sometimes we can only shake our heads. Charlene Gianetti has studied this creature--the social clique--and found that it must have blood in order to survive. In her book--"Cliques: 8 Steps to Help Your Child Survive the Social Jungle", she explains how these groups of school children are formed and the effects they have on the kids who are in them as well as on the children they exclude. At the core are 2 or 3 dominant children, she says. They manage to attract others who hover at the edges of the group, giving it substance and power. However, there must be outsiders in order for the clique to survive--people who can be taunted and blamed. Members realize that the unpleasant things they are doing to other children can be done to them, too, if they leave. Giannetti also tells parents how they can help their children who are caught in this situation or even worse, who are the attackers!
5.0 out of 5 stars
Absolutely necessary in today's confusing world,
By A Customer
This review is from: Cliques: Eight Steps to Help Your Child Survive the Social Jungle (Paperback)
I actually have not read this book, but the authors came to my school and gave a talk about the book. I think that cliques are horrible, and this book educates us about the dangers they have and why we should stop them. As soon as I can, I'm going to try to find a copy of this and read it.
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