This international best-seller is written by Melody Beattie – a woman who has lived through being kidnapped, being abandoned, being sexually abused, being a drug and alcohol addict, the death of her son and co-dependency issues: a term she coined in the 80’s.
This book deals specifically for those who are dealing with partners, children, parents, friends or other loved ones that have an addiction or other compulsive, destructive tendencies. Often the attention is given to those that have the “problem”, while those closest to them are often in just as much need.
Many of us often feel that we are being supportive and helpful, when in fact we may be disempowering and “rescuing” those we love. This behaviour doesn’t help either party. This book emphasizes that people need to be responsible for their own decisions, choices and consequences. You can lovingly listen to them and share ideas, but the ultimate responsibility for change is up to them.
Many co-dependents have difficulty setting boundaries and then find themselves used and abused over and over again. This pattern can stop and may ultimately not only heal the co-dependent from their need to “help”, but also allow the space for the affected person to take the steps necessary for recovery.
A very gentle and encouraging book to help those who are feeling helpless and are spending their energy on trying to help others, often while ignoring their own needs and wants. Lots of great suggestions on how to “let go” without giving up on those you care about.
Diana Young World-traveler - currently sailing in the South Pacific & #1 Amazon best-selling author Financial Fitness for Beginners www.financialfitnessbooks.com