10 of 11 people found the following review helpful:
3.0 out of 5 stars
There are some good points made..., Mar 29 2007
By Lisa Walter - Published on Amazon.com
Ce commentaire est de: Dating Up: Dump the Schlump and Find a Quality Man (Paperback)
The thing that sold me on this book was when the author talked about going out on a date with a guy, splitting a burrito for dinner and the guy not having the money to even cover his half. Incredible! I've done exactly that! It really is ridiculous the lameness a girl will put up with just because a guy throws a little attention her way. That said, I started cringing early on because it seems the goal in the author's mind, is finding a "wealthy" man. Well that's not my goal and if I had known it would be the main theme I would not have bought this book. In order to make it through I mentally substituted "good" or "considerate" or "goal-oriented" for wealthy. It helped a lot.
Things I liked about this book:
I liked the make-up basics part. If you already have your make-up routine down this may be no help to you b/c it is the very rock-bottom basics. However, I actually own no make up and went out and got a few things she recommended and hey, looks pretty nice if I do say so myself. The first day I got a few good "Something's different....Wow, you look bright and shiny today...." comments from my male coworkers.
Also the suggestion to get a playstation....Genius!! Why didn't I think of that? It gives you something to do and builds rapport without heavy conversational pressure. Not to mention the fact that guys have been lighting up like Christmas trees when I just mention that I would like their opinion on what are the best games. That tip alone was worth the cost of the book.
The recipes sound great, and also the suggested music.
The rest is kind of basic and old fashioned, but that's what I like about it. She's pretty much saying that men who will take care of you (be it fiancially or emotionally or whatever needs which you hope to have met by a life partner) will do it from the beginning. So let him. He needs to be asking you out. He needs to be paying. That kind of stuff.
Overall I'm glad I read it. I'd say about 20 percent of the content was helpful but that 20 percent was very very good.
2 of 2 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars
Like taking advice from your best friend, April 25 2007
By E. Mahon - Published on Amazon.com
Ce commentaire est de: Dating Up: Dump the Schlump and Find a Quality Man (Paperback)
Dating Up is like getting a whole bunch of advice about guys from your best friend, only this friend is honest and candid even about things that most women are uncomfortable admitting in the privacy of their own heads. If you want to up your dating game -- even if you've already got a guy -- this is the book for you.
The writer gives lots of useful advice not just about finding the right guy, but how to progress through the relationship -- even covering meeting the parents and attending family functions with your boyfriend.
There are tips and tricks scattered throughout the book on every subject remotely related to dating -- make-up, shopping, etiquette, sex....
Read it. You'll be glad you did.
4 of 5 people found the following review helpful:
2.0 out of 5 stars
More obvious advice along wth the usual pablum, Oct 11 2007
By Threemoons "threemoons" - Published on Amazon.com
Ce commentaire est de: Dating Up: Dump the Schlump and Find a Quality Man (Paperback)
Le sigh. More general "restating the obvious" dating advice: Don't put up with guys who are shiftless/abusive/etc, don't dress like a stripper when you meet his folks, higher-end places mean higher-end men, etc. Also seems fixated on certain near-mythological "types" of men that border on stereotypical. Also, there is a yawning gap in advice as what to do BETWEEN that second or third date and getting the (apparently coveted) ring--the author assumes that not only are you dying to get married, but that you can figure all that hard, icky relationship stuff once you've gone on a few dates and things start to look serious.
What would have been really helpful would have been some insight as to dating once you're out of your 20's, how to handle the more banal relationship roadblocks that people face (not made-for-television stuff like abuse or addiction, but more normative things like time management in a relationship), and so on. Basically, if you've been out of college or grad school for more than a few years, chances are this book is not for you.