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Deceived: Facing Sexual Betrayal Lies and Secrets [Paperback]

Claudia Black
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Book Description

Feb. 20 2009
Pornography, cybersex, prostitutes, voyeurism, multiple affairs. No matter the 'drug' of choice, men who act out sexually leave their partners reeling in fear, rage, incredible shame, and isolation. Deceived was written expressly to help these women better understand what is happening in their lives, garner validation for their experiences, and find a path that offers clarity, direction, and voice. Bestselling author Claudia Black guides readers to understand aspects of their personal histories that have lead them to be in relationships plagued by sexual betrayal, and reveals how their partner's behavior can be as addictive as a drug. Black then outlines proactive steps that readers can take to build healthier relationships and take care of themselves, illustrated by accounts of real women who have done so successfully. She teaches women how to set nonnegotiable boundaries in order to heighten their security during this vulnerable period. She reveals ways they can avoid preoccupation with their problems and make positive changes for themselves and their partners. With Deceived, women will learn to honor themselves by making choices derived from esteem and integrity. In the end, they will have the ability to proactively emerge from emotional isolation, shed secrets and shame, and discover their power.

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About the Author

Claudia Black has worked in the field of addictive disorders for over thirty years. Her work is seminal to the underpinnings of the codependency and trauma field. She was a pioneer in working with children from alcoholic homes and establishing the need for treating not just the addicted person, but the entire family. Claudia's workshops, training seminars and professional consultation services are presented worldwide.Working with sex addiction specialist and pioneer Patrick Carnes for six years, Claudia expanded her work with families and facilitated groups with women whose male partners' were acting out with sexually compulsive behaviors. Deceivedis Black's fourteenth book. She is best known for her book, It Will Never Happen To Me with over two million copies sold to date. Today Claudia resides in the Pacific Northwest with her husband Jack and their two dogs, Quinn and Katie.

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By JJona
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This book was recommended to me as Claudia is associated with The Meadows Addiction Treatment Center.

I found the most interesting part of this book to contain the quotes of the sex addicts (SAs) themselves and how they belittled, controlled and verbally abused their spouses. It gave me insight into the SAs mentality.

The women cited in this book, typically the deceived betrayed partners of the SAs, were so codependent it made me sick. One woman went as far as dying her hair red because her SA was interested in redheads.

On the most part I was completely let down by this book and wanted to burn it by the end. Claudia makes a few good points which I find are easily forgotten in comparison to her bad points and lack of ability to identify blatant verbal abuse.
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5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent June 9 2013
By Theresa
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Well worth reading. Very insightful and helpful. Was a tough, emotional read at times but well worth every moment spent.
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16 of 16 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars A Compassionate and Healing Look At Sexual Betrayal April 9 2009
By R. Glackin - Published on
Claudia Black takes you on a compassionate and healing journey through the confusion, anger and self doubt which results from sexual betrayal. Through the sharing her subjects' personal strories, Claudia explains how painful and destructive sexual betrayal is to all of those involved. She explains, that the behavior and thinking of many who have multiple affairs, parallels the behaviors and thinking of an addict.

You may ask "Why do her subjects stay when they have been betrayed?" The answers are found in family of origin dynamics.

Claudia explains how the development of a stonger self comes from facing the truth about your relationship. Through the process of recovery, you learn to live in your truth as a stonger and healthier partner.
17 of 18 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars compelling book April 11 2009
By JCS - Published on
This book is excellent! Finally, a book that addresses this dark issue and brings it into the light. Unfortunately, this is a problem that is becoming more commonplace and requires some guidence. Claudia is a great guide. Decieved is comprehensive, addressing every aspect of this painful situation. Claudia Black acurately captures what it is like to be "deceived" by your partner with great compassion. She will also assists in helping you understand the underlying issues that allow you to come to resolution and heal.
12 of 12 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Deceived April 17 2009
By drstc - Published on
As a psychologist, I find this book immensely helpful and am recommending it to patients.
10 of 10 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars amazing and helpful book Sept. 18 2009
By Jennifer L. Struck - Published on
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If you are a woman, and feel betrayed or deceived and feel like no one will understand or knows how you feel;You need to read this book, you will not feel all alone any longer. The honesty and accuracy in which it is written just shocked and amazed me. No one wants to talk about this hurtful subject. It just helps to know you are not crazy, and not alone. Warning though; do not read in a public place! You will cry. I have a friend who has also gone through similar trials, I bought her a copy.
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4.0 out of 5 stars Good, but not what I needed... Aug. 9 2010
By IHeartCupcakes - Published on
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I ordered this book after divorcing my now ex-husband for adultery. I thought it would be about recoving from sexual betrayal (adultery), as the title states. However, it is a book about sexual addiction. I would not classify my ex-husband as a sex addict after reading the entire book, so most of it was not applicable. Although it did have some content that helped me, all in all, I wish it would have something about sex addiction in the title to more clearly state what this book is mainly about.
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