In Divorce Poison: Protecting the Parent-Child Bond from a Vindictive Ex, Richard A. Warshak (The Custody Revolution) offers guidance to parents whose exes portray them to their children in a negative light, whether it's mild, off-the-cuff badmouthing or systematic character assassination. Common psychological wisdom, besides recommending that parents avoid fighting fire with fire, suggests doing nothing. But Warshak has witnessed the feelings of powerlessness and the increasing difficulties that come from doing nothing. So he provides "a blueprint for an effective response grounded in a solid understanding of the techniques and dynamics of parents who poison their children's relationships with loved ones." After describing numerous nuances of inter-parental malignment (brainwashing, false abuse accusations, revisionist history, etc.), Warshak moves on to "Poison Control," both independently and with the help of professional counselors. This book will seem a godsend to the many divorcs who are bashed by their ex-spouses. (Regan Books, $26 304p ISBN 0-06-018899-5; Jan.)
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Some level of animosity is typical in divorce, but when parents let those feelings degenerate into bad-mouthing, bashing, or brainwashing, they run the risk of emotionally damaging their children, according to child psychologist Warshak. He looks at the poisonous relationships that develop when parents carry criticism of their ex-spouses too far: parents and children estranged from one another, protracted and bitter custody and visitation battles, and even ruined relationships with the extended families. He uses case studies to illustrate how parents--sometimes unconsciously, sometimes deliberately--force children to choose between them and turn against the other parent. He describes a range of difficulties, from tainted parent-child relationships to an emotional disturbance known as parental alienation syndrome. Warshak offers strategies for parents to examine their motivations when they speak against a former spouse, to curb negative impulses, and to repair damage that may already have been done. Useful resource for families dealing with divorce and child rearing. Vanessa Bush
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People should have to read these kinds of books before getting a divorce if they have kids. I recommend books like this one to others who have children and are going through a... Read morePublished 5 months ago by Samantha
A book that should be read before marital separation if possible. Never underestimate an ex's potential to use your children as a weapon against you when a marriage fails.Published 18 months ago by D. Bell
I recommend to anyone going through separation/divorce with kids. I have not read it to the end yet but so far am fascinated by what I have learned.Published on March 22 2013 by Margaret Kwiatkowska
This is a very good book. I really enjoyed this book and I would recommend it to anyone going through a divorce.Published on March 12 2013 by Marlene Perry
I really appreciated this book, the author is clearly an expert on the topic. There are plenty of concrete examples and specific things to try for people who are in this situation. Read morePublished on Oct. 17 2012 by Renï¿½e Landry
My granddaughter has alienated herself from our family under the influence of her mother. Before reading this excellent book, I suspected that she had been brainwashed, but knew... Read morePublished on July 11 2004
This book is written for all divorcing parents, whether cooperative or not. Easy to read and enlightening. Embedded helpful suggestions. Uplifting and inspiring success stories. Read morePublished on June 16 2004 by Reviewer
I cried when I read this book. My kids have been alienated from me for 11 years by a vindictive ex. I have never felt so understood as I did after reading Dr. Warshak's book. Read morePublished on May 20 2004