From Publishers Weekly
Husband and wife team Barbara and Allan Pease attempt build on the success of their Why Men Don't Listen and Women Can't Read Maps (2001) with a volume that succumbs to sequelitis. Some new research leads to a familiar conclusion: men have problem-solving brains and women have processing brains, and never the twain shall meet. In the chapter "Seven Things Men Do That Drive Women Insane," for example, the Peases explore the problem of the remote control. Men aren't flipping through all those channels to be difficult or annoying-it's just evolution. Women, they explain, like to relax at the end of a long day with a show that involves "human interaction and emotional scenes." Men, on the other hand, enjoy whizzing through the channels to "analyze the problems in each program and consider the solutions needed." The authors also explain that men's brains are hard-wired to find certain physical female attributes sexy (no surprise there) and advise women to just accept it: "If you think it's absolutely necessary, treat yourself to a nose job or enhance your breasts for your birthday." Their flippancy may turn off some readers, and their attempts at comedy often fall flat. The Peases cite a good number of sources-theories of evolutionary biology and snippets of brain research, spiced up with vignettes and anecdotes-but it's hard to take their research seriously when they include such fluff as lists of what men and women say vs. what they mean ("Nice dress," when a man says it, means "Nice breasts"; women say "Do you love me?" and mean "I want something expensive"). Also, they might have explored, or even acknowledged, the possibility that nurture may have big hand in inter-gender misunderstanding too. Instead, women (the intended audience here) get advice like this: "The key is always to manage the males in your life, rather than arguing... or feeling frustrated with them. That way, both sexes can live happily ever after." If they say so.
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'Read by the authors, this is the perfect way to settle arguments, understand annoyances in your relationship and become an expert on the foibles of women and misbehaviour of men.' -- Mike Woods WATERSTONES BOOKS QUARTERLY 'Self-help with lavish helpings of comic entertainment, this audiotape could either makte or break you next eight-hour car journey with your spouse sitting next to you.' WITH KIDS 'they have the knack of putting their finger on the tiny things that drive the sexes to distraction when they try to coexist... Perceptive and funny, this is one to put on in the car for both you and your nearest and dearest sparring partner to profit from.' -- Christina Hardyment THE TIMES 'If you value your relationship, you'd better read it and find the answers to such eternal questions as "Why do men lie, avoid commitment and leave the lavatory seat up?" and "Why do women cry, nag and rabbit on?" If you can get on with Barbara talking about women's brains "being hard-wired to nurture and nest-defence" and Alan relating everything men do to spatial skills acquired as cavemen - yes, it even applies to lavatory seats - you'll probably end up as happy as the Peases.' -- Sue Arnold THE GUARDIAN