1.0 out of 5 stars
Condescending, Oct 5 2011
By Cordelia - Published on Amazon.com
This review is from: Don't Sweat Guide to Pregnancy, The: Making the Most of the Months Before the Baby (Paperback)
I found the book to be particularly condescending, and the tone was a bit off-putting.
For example, the book constantly refers to "your little angel" when referencing the fetus/future child.
The book opens up with telling people "why not quit trying for a while and put some fun back into your fun?" This may be age-old news, but for anyone who's actively trying to conceive, a book opening with the eye-roller "stop trying!" is one I'm not likely to think highly of. It's just not that easy for some people.
Chapter 2 goes on about how to tell the father. Do you email him while he's at work (I guess this means I'm at home and *not* at work?)? Tuck a Father's Day card into his briefcase (I presumably see him on his merry worky way in the morning like a good little pregnant wife!)?
The worst was in chapter four wherein the following can be found: "The pendulum of emotions swings for all pregnant women. Soon enough, you will be overjoyed when the baby kicks against your tummy". Firstly, "tummy" = medically inaccurate and condescending language -- a veritable twofer. For another, telling a woman how she'll feel is condescending as well.
The book encourages the stereotype that men are all duderheads who don't know that a pregnant woman can't scrub a tub. It's implied that it'd be a big favor for the man to do the grocery shopping (oh my, what a knight!).
Chapter 12: "Perhaps you're naturally thin and cannot seem to gain weight. If so, you're a lucky girl. Now turn the page and leave the rest of us alone." Again, condescending ("lucky girl"), and off-putting. This divides women, and it's downright bitchy.
The book says that it's a fact that men and women's brains are wildly different, biologically. I find this difficult to believe from a trifling little pregnancy book, when I've read books like Cordelia Fine's "Delusions of Gender" etc. -- the off-the-cuff oh-it's-a-fact tone makes me wonder if the book isn't just relying on old stereotypes and assumptions.
The section on maternity clothes? It's brings up the point that hey it's a good excuse to go to the mall!