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Forward, who gave us the best-selling The Men Who Hate Women, and the Women Who Love Them, offers a course on self-defense for anyone manipulated by guilt.
Copyright 1997 Reed Business Information, Inc. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
Copyright 1997 Reed Business Information, Inc. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
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"If you really loved me..."
"After all I've done for you..."
"How can you be so selfish..."
Do any of the above sound familiar? They're all examples of emotional blackmail, a powerful form of manipulation in which people close to us threaten to punish us for not doing what they want. Emotional blackmailers know how much we value our relationships with them. They know our vulnerabilities and our deepest secrets. They are our mothers, our partners, our bosses and coworkers, our friends and our lovers. And no matter how much they care about us, they use this intimate knowledge to give themselves the payoff they want: our compliance.
Susan Forward knows what pushes our hot buttons. Just as John Gray illuminates the communications gap between the sexes in Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, and Harriet Lerner describes an intricate dynamic in The Dance of Anger, so Susan Forward presents the anatomy of a relationship damaged by manipulation, and gives readers an arsenal of tools to fight back. In her clear, no-nonsense style, Forward provides powerful, practical strategies for blackmail targets, including checklists, practice scenarios and concrete communications techniques that will strengthen relationships and break the blackmail cycle for good.
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Freedom,
By Jenny (Canada) - See all my reviews
This review is from: Emotional Blackmail (Paperback)
My psychologist recommended this book to me. While carefully going through it several things became clear. This book enabled me to leave my controlling and emotional abusive husband. It also gave me the tools needed to effectively deal with my mother. If you're ready for change then you're ready for this book. It remains one of the most useful books I have ever read. I highly recommend it.
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About time . . .,
By Gladys McGraw (Ottawa) - See all my reviews
This review is from: Emotional Blackmail (Paperback)
For years I was satisfied just reading about other's experiences, not wanting to believe that my own were as bad. If you read books like "A Child Called It" or the bestseller "The Bark of the Dogwood," then you know what I'm talking about. But when I finally came around and admitted what I had been through, this was the book I sought out. This book allowed me to see that I can have control over my life. I had been pulled into some very difficult situations with my parents, and Dr. Forward allowed me to see that this didn't have to be the case anymore. Some of her techniques, such as non-defensive communication, were very difficult to put into practice. Something that was particularly important for me personally in the book was the part at the end where she talks about not emotionally blackmailing *yourself*! What an insight! It is impossible for an author to address every specific detail of every reader's personal situation. But this is as close as you can get. Forward gives stories and testimonials of people she has worked with who have used her techniques with success. Unlike other authors that do this, however, Forward does not simply apply the techniques to those situations and expect that you'll be able to apply it to a scenario of your own. She separates the stories from the guidelines. She provides some fantastic exercises for further clarity of the techniques she describes.
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Oh my God!,
By A Customer
This review is from: Emotional Blackmail (Paperback)
I'm currently looking for the address of the authors to personally thank them for letting me know I'm NOT crazy. What's so scary to me is that there are so MANY of these people running around! But there is help and it comes in the form of this book. For years I'd hear rude comments and social faux pas directed my way and respond with what I thought to be a healthy "I don't appreciate that," only to have the supposedly witty comback thrown into my face, "You're just overly sensitive." And I believed it for years! Emotional blackmail is so strong in our society because it plays on the very FOUNDATIONS of our society: the belief that we're supposed to be good and nice and helpful. Well, we are suppposed to be those things, but more than a few toxic people have figured this formula out and turned it against us. The end result is that the "nice" people end up looking bad. Want to stop this behavior? Then buy this book. Highly recommended for those who only "thought" they were going crazy. Would also recommend another great book (fiction, not self-help) dealing with all kinds of manipulative people titled THE BARK OF THE DOGWOOD by Jackson McCrae. If you like books such as A CHILD CALLED IT and SYBIL, you'll enjoy (in a round about way) this one.
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