Lust, most assuredly, is a problem for men who struggle to please Christ in their lives. In a faith that says God created men and women as equals, it can be especially damaging for women to be treated like passive objects for the man's sexual satisfaction. The authors of "Every Young Man's Battle" start out with the commendable goal of addressing the dehumanizing evils inherent in pornography and lust, and to be sure, some of their advice to the younger male generation is very good. Toward the end, Fred Stoeker writes to the boys who potentially would date his daughter, telling them to look at things from his point of view as a father. His encouragement to "carry her honor" and to treat her with respect stuck with me for a long time after I read the book, and can still help encourage me to not lust after women. And through the earlier chapters, there are some jewels of wisdom for the discerning Christian to pick up. "Bouncing the eyes" might work for men who find their lust out-of-control, and it is good to be reminded that Paul's instruction that we "must have not even a hint of sexual immorality."
Unfortunately, this book crashes into the same mountainside that has ended the good potential for many other romance/sex books aimed at younger Christians ("I Kissed Dating Goodbye" being one egregious example): Legalism. Specifically, this is legalism bred by the authors' own preconceptions. Their specific experiences and beliefs are stretched too far, turned into supposedly "Biblical" commands that Scripture simply does not give or imply.
By far the most prominent bias is against the young man's sex drive. The writers briefly acknowledge that sex and the human sex drive are gifts from God, and can be holy in the context of marriage. Then they attack the natural, God-given instincts of the young men they are trying to help, talking to the reader as if he is a sexual pit bull who could ravish Daddy's Little Girl unless he gets himself under control. It is a fear-based response to the problem, rather than a discerning response of love and grace. They treat the man's pre-marriage sex drive as a disease, as if lust is its only defining trait. Rather than recognize the young man's sexuality as God's gift and working to affect a positive change in their readers, they see it as Satan's territory until you're married.
Another harmful assumption is their unhealthy emphasis on the "innocence" of women in general. When girls share their admittedly heartbreaking stories of how premarital sex affected them, the authors place most or all of the blame on the males. Unless the girl was raped, however, she must acknowledge that it was her mistake, too. I realize that the authors are emphasizing the man's responsibility to set standards and not manipulate the girl, but that gives them no right to heap all of the blame on the man whenever a couple has sex too soon. They also commit an extreme disservice by talking about women like they have little or no sex drive. Sex is regarded as something the man wants, and generally women "just want to cuddle." Once again, the young men are treated like horny beasts, chasing innocent ladies for their bodies. The book provides a distorted picture of both sexes, and God's design for sexuality in each of them.
Distortions of Scripture also work against the writers' good intentions. Masturbation is treated like the Bible "obviously" condemns it as sinful, when the issue is much more complicated, and interpreted differently by many godly Christians. And in the aforementioned chapter by Fred Stoeker, he picks the story of Uriah's death as a brave stand for sexual integrity. The Bible's account, however, makes it painfully obvious that Uriah was not tempted to do anything wrong. It would have been perfectly legitimate for him to leave King David, and go home to have sex with Bathsheba. Unaware that David was manipulating him, he had every right to be with his wife (though he waived that right out of his devotion to David), so we cannot look at Uriah as a hero against temptation, unlike Joseph with Potiphar's wife. That would have been a much more appropriate example for Stoeker to make his point.
So, the book is taken down by its legalism and faulty assumptions about the sexes; "solutions" based more on worry and fear than on love and devotion to God; and inappropriate uses of Scripture. For those reasons, despite some good points and the authors' honorable intent, I cannot in good conscience recommend this book. The chapters regarding sex in Stephen Simpson's "What Women Wish You Knew About Dating" are far more true-to-life, and treat the young man with much more respect.
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