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Facing the Shadow: Starting Sexual and Relationship Recovery [Paperback]

Patrick Carnes
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Jan. 1 2011
Facing the Shadow is the innovative workbook that helps readers begin meaningful recovery from an often misunderstood addiction. This book guides readers through the first seven tasks in Dr. Patrick Carnes' researched-based thirty-task model of treatment-the most respected therapy model available for treating sex addicts.

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Patrick Carnes, PhD , is author of 'Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction' (1992), 'Contrary to Love: Helping the Sexual Addict' (1989), 'The Betrayal Bond' (1997), 'Open Hearts' (1999), and 'Facing the Shadow' (2001). He is executive director of the Gentle Path program at Pine Grove Behavioral Center in Hattiesburg, Mississippi.

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4.0 out of 5 stars Facing The Shadow Sept. 29 2013
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I choose this rating as it deals with this subject very clearly and in gtreat detail. I recommend it to all who suffer from this addiction.
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5.0 out of 5 stars Deap impact! Sept. 5 2014
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Great book! Digs deap into the heart of the issue.
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5.0 out of 5 stars Facing Reality June 26 2006
By Roger L. Johnson - Published on Amazon.com
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Dr. Carnes is a noted authority and perhaps the premier researcher in the area of sexual addiction. His work goes back easily some twenty years. I have studied with Dr. Carnes and I can say with some authority that this may be his finest work. It is the fruit of much thought and labor. It is reality. Carl Rogers said: "Until we can accept ourselves as we really are we can't change." This book, really a work book, helps the addicted person do just that. But it doesn't stop there. The addict is able to see through the work he does that he is able, through healthy activities, to regain control of his life. This is the second edition. Dr. Carnes demonstrates not only his high standards of authorship, but his humility and ability to accept constructive criticism both from within himself and I think perhaps others, in the changes he has put into this second edition. They are well worth the effort. Dr. Carnes comes at the sexual addiction issue with clarity, research, and above all empathy. His other work "The Recovery Zone," will I think prove to be as well received as this work.

Roger L. Johnson

M.A, Th.M. LPC

Director, Day Program

Meier Clinics
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4.0 out of 5 stars Help for sexual addiction Dec 26 2008
By Eoin Stephens - Published on Amazon.com
It is becoming increasingly important for counsellors and psychotherapists to educate themselves about the issue of Sexual Addiction, which can be defined as out-of-control and damaging sexual behaviour in relation to Internet sex, prostitution, telephone sex, multiple affairs etc. Modern society provides a huge range of options for artificially enhanced, relatively impersonal sexual stimulation, and in our counselling practices we are more frequently meeting clients who may be addicted in some of these areas.

I recommend this new 2nd edition of Carnes' book as an introduction to the subject. Carnes has been the field leader in Sexual Addiction counselling since publishing "Out of the Shadows" in 1983, and the present book accessibly summarises his thinking about the problem, along with approaches for helping those who may be struggling with it. The main addition since the 1st edition is a more detailed exploration of the growing phenomenon of Cybersex (Internet sex) addiction.

Having been involved in the development of addiction treatment/recovery in the USA for many years, Carnes' thinking is a blend of influences taken from 12-Step programmes such as Alcoholics Anonymous and Sex & Love Addicts Anonymous, from Cognitive-Behavioural techniques such as written inventories and challenging core beliefs, and from relevant neurobiological findings. He has a deep understanding of the nature of Addictive Behaviours over and above the familiar example of Chemical Dependency, and his key contribution to the field may be his description of the Sexual Addiction Cycle, where Preoccupation leads to Ritualisation, which leads to addictive Acting Out behaviours; the Pain arising from this acting out can then be numbed by further Preoccupation, which closes the self-perpetuating cycle.

Carnes is also known for his Tasks approach to recovery. In this book he focuses on what he sees as the first 7 recovery tasks:

1. Breaking through denial
2. Understanding addiction
3. Surrendering to the process
4. Limiting damage
5. Establishing sobriety
6. Ensuring physical integrity
7. Participating in a culture of support

In earlier books he included Reducing Shame, which he now leaves until the second phase of recovery. My own experience, and those of many other therapists working with the Centre for Sexual Addictions, is that it is important to address the issue of shame and self-hatred at an early stage. Clients may see themselves and their sexuality in a very negative light, perhaps partly due to the negativity towards sexuality which has been a part of Irish culture, and may be in danger of trying to force themselves into the opposite extreme of complete avoidance and denial of sexuality (Carnes is alert to this danger, calling it Sexual Anorexia, and he has written an important book on the subject, entitled "Sexual Anorexia: Overcoming Sexual Self-Hatred").

Perhaps the main strength of this book is that it can be useful to both therapist and client alike, and while I have never worked through the whole book with any client, we can together make productive use of some of the handouts/exercises/inventories (for instance, the Consequences Inventory).

Eoin Stephens is Director of Education & Training at PCI College, and at the Centre for Sexual Addictions ([...] a division of the Institute for Behavioural & Mental Health ([...]
10 of 10 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Amazing June 16 2008
By Abe Lincoln - Published on Amazon.com
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This author (Patrick Carnes) is the most knowledgable person on the topic of Sexual Addiction. This book is good for people who like to have a workbook. There are a lot of quizzes and journaling places, so you can really get to the bottom of your problems. If you are not going to want to journal or take quizzes in the book, I would reccommend some of his other books. I hear great things about his original "facing the shadow" book. I kind of wish I had bought that one actually.
7 of 7 people found the following review helpful
4.0 out of 5 stars Engaging March 7 2011
By S. Reece - Published on Amazon.com
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Lots of written exercises to keep you thinking. Very upfront and it can relate to all addictions. I am using it for codependency and love addiction. I just change the words sex addiction to my personal issues. It is a challenge but I believe it will be worth it.
6 of 6 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars STARTER RECOVERY BOOK FOR SA April 6 2011
By swie yeng - Published on Amazon.com
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This is a great book for the SA to work by himself, together with the therapist or can be used in a group setting. It is task centered which is the best approach in SA recovery.
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