Hidden Messages: What Our Words and Actions Are Really Telling Our Children Paperback – Sep 22 2000
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"A must read for all parents." -- Ray & Lynne Heinrich, Ontario Stepfamily Association, Canada
"Don't miss the empowering, supportive advice found here to help children feel loved and become healthy, happy, capable adults." -- Shelley Butler & Deb Kratz, Authors, The Field Guide to Parenting
"It's refreshing to finally find an author whose life is so parallel to the common family." -- Janice Boyles, Publisher, Choosing Home, The Newsletter for At-home/work-at-home Moms
"No other parenting book that I've read covers this topic so thoroughly and thoughtfully." -- Keri Baker, Creator and Webmaster, Parentingweb.com
"Respectful to parents, clear and readable and absolutely helpful." -- Kathy Lynn, President, Parenting Today
"Reveals the subtle but significant ways that parent's words and actions influence their child's behavior and development." -- Bobbi Conner, Host, The Parent's Journal, heard nationwide on Public Radio
"Shows us concrete ways to use positive language and productive actions to direct our children towards more successful futures." -- Jill Whalen, Editor, Parentsroom Website
From the Back Cover
Even the best-informed parents will be shocked to discover that they have unintentionally been sending their kids the wrong messages. In this book, these hidden messages are revealed through intriguing stories that will make you laugh, cry, and reflect upon your own family life. Hidden Messages will teach you about yourself and encourage you to look at what's really going on between you and your children. Through specific action plans, it will help you uncover the best ways to raise your children to be happy, successful people. Elizabeth Pantley is a parent educator who speaks to parenting groups around the country. Her informative newsletter, Parent Tips, is distributed through schools nationwide. She is also the author of Perfect Parenting: The Dictionary of 1,000 Parenting Tips and Kid Cooperation. She lives with her husband and their four children in Washington State.See all Product Description
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Top Customer Reviews
As always, Elizabeth Pantley challenges us to think about our parenting and teaches us how to make changes that can have dramatic effects on the lives of our families. Her style is gentle and positive. As Dr. William Sears writes in his foreword, "Sure to gently tweak the consciences of even the best parents, inspire them to raise their children in a more conscious and sensitive manner - and tug at the heartstrings as a reminder to give constructive messages to our children".
This book is DIFFERENT! Elizabeth Pantley uses stories (some real, some partly contrived) to illustrate a whole variety of parenting lessons. This is very effective indeed. Many parents will be able to see themselves in some of the examples. As I read, I felt at times shocked, at times amazed, at times I even shed a tear or two. I learnt a great deal about myself, my parenting, and how to make some important changes. When you read this book, be prepared to be moved.Read more ›
When I read this book, I found myself saying over and over again, "Yes, I've done that...I've never thought of things that way..."
The book provokes thought on behalf of our children in a wise, witty, warm way that made me want to hug my children at the conclusion of every chapter. It offered reassurance that I'm just like most parents, yet gives me ways I can improve my communication style and be more mindful of the examples I set. I can't think of anyone who could not benefit from reading it.
Another really great thing about this book is that it doesn't read like a million other boring parenting books -- the format is set up in stories that are a real joy to read. I found myself laughing and crying my way through them. The "Hidden Message" after each story often took my breath away - WOW! (I would think) I've never thought of it that way before.
I highly recommend this book - you'll learn things that you never expected to learn. It'll change your life. It did mine.
Hidden Messages is not only valuable information. It also compellingly written by an author who is as competent and experienced as she is earnest and compassionate.
This book is a "must read" for parents!
Most recent customer reviews
its ok, a one time read and I now I am going to donate to library. Should have just got it from the library.Published 14 months ago by amanda
I have not finished the book yet. But I should say that I am very happy I picked up this one. I am learning many things that otherwise I would have never thought about. Read morePublished on May 16 2011 by Cocoya
Powerful is the only word to describe this book. I can't believe the impact it can have on your life. Read morePublished on April 19 2004
Powerful eye-opening messages that expose the errors in our innocent daily actions with our children. Each chapter opens with a very typical and common parent-child situation. Read morePublished on March 3 2004 by Reader
You THINK you know, but sometimes you are fooled. There are things that this book uncovered for me that showed me the error or my way of thinking. Read morePublished on May 16 2003 by Amy K
I could not stop reading this book! The short stories make it so interesting that I couldn't wait to read the next. Read morePublished on Feb. 27 2003
Our son is only 2 1/2, and a lot of the stories in this book apply more to kids who are a little older, so it has served us more as a warning before we have a chance to send many... Read morePublished on Feb. 3 2003
I love this book. It gives real life examples of common parent behavior that have surprising implications and influence on kids. Read morePublished on Oct. 29 2001 by Amazon Customer
I love the format of this book and the messages it accompanies. You read a story about a parenting situation and think, well, I do that, what's the big deal? Read morePublished on Aug. 20 2001 by Samantha Francis