8 of 8 people found the following review helpful
4.0 out of 5 stars
Eye-opening, Insightful, Well-researched, Dec 3 2005
By DMR - Published on Amazon.com
This review is from: Home Alone America (Mass Market Paperback)
Mary Eberstadt approaches the common belief that absent parents (either through divorce or the "necessity" of both parents working outside the home) are acceptable because 'kids are resilient.'
She systematically dissects the various arguments, both pro and con, and demonstrates the far-reaching effects on kids. Definitely an eye-opening book.
While some of the suggestions offered are mere theory (e.g., the hypothesis that young girls' fertility cycles are affected by non-related males living in the household, which may contribute to earlier sexual experimentation), it is research worth reading.
5 of 7 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars
For the sake of the children, Jun 9 2007
By Shalom Freedman "Shalom Freedman" - Published on Amazon.com
This review is from: Home Alone America (Mass Market Paperback)
This book is a wake- up call to America. It makes a very strong case for the conception that the increasingly troubled state of American children is connected to parental absence from the home. The increase in recent years in rates of teenage suicide, mental health problems, childhood sexual abuse, alcoholism, drug- abuse, obesity Eberstadt connects with the fact that America's children and young people are more and more left alone, and unsupervised.
She points to two major factors which have led to more and more single- parent families, the first is the historically high- rate of divorce and the increasing rate of illegitimacy. But is not only in the single - parent families but in the homes in which there are two working parents in which absenteeism from the family has increased. She points out that today seven out of ten mothers work outside the home. And that half of them would continue to do this even if they did not need the money. She says that what benefits the parents as individuals might not necessarily be of benefit to the children. And she points too to a widespread effort to conceal the unpleasant conclusion that a working parent, and especially a working parent may do more harm for the children than the good. She in this regard points to evidence which suggests that the families which do have a parent at home for most of the time have less disturbed and problematic children than those who do not. She cites Francis Fukuyama who says that one reason Americans from Asian families do so well in education is that the mothers of these families devote themselves more to home and children.
This is an important and illuminating wake- up call to America.
4 of 6 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars
Crucial, April 5 2007
By M. Shore - Published on Amazon.com
This review is from: Home Alone America (Mass Market Paperback)
This is a must-read for all parents. It documents what we all thought all along but were too afraid to say: mothers desperately need to nurture their children at home. Their influence, their love is irreplaceable. Our nation is now reaping the harvest of mothers who have "turned off their hearts" to work long hours away from their helpless little ones. The meteoric rise in substance abuse, obesity, depression, anxiety and a host of other social ills can be largely attributed to the breakdown of the family: missing Dads (who play an absolutley critical role in a child's healthy development) and especially moms. The "hand that rocks the cradle" really does "rule the world". We need Dads to help support their wives in nurturing their children at home. The author's research is vast and well documented. This is a brave and essential book for parents and policy makers alike.