House Inside the Waves: Domesticity, Art, and the Surfing Life [Paperback]

A year living on the surfer's paradise coast of Australia inspired this memoir in praise of all things romantic: family, writers addicted to adventure, and above all, the 10-story wave. Taylor, a long-distance swimmer and longtime surfer, offers in House Inside the Waves a collage of memories from the near and distant past. With his two daughters and his wife, who was on a teacher exchange from snowy Ottawa, the family dives with commendable passion into their new life in a land where summer never ends.

As well as declaring his love of the ocean ("Bugga the shaks," an Aussie friend tells him), Taylor muses on his role as a dedicated househusband. He revisits the lives of numerous writers who have left home to find the world: Gauguin, Byron, Bruce Chatwin, Robert Louis Stevenson, Henry Miller, Kerouac, and others. He also introduces us to ill-fated friends and family, exhibiting a sense of nostalgia for the sixties that is so unabashed and good-hearted that it's refreshing. We also meet the local Australians and the expats peopling the gorgeous east coast, many an eccentric among them. The writing is energetic and fluid--it rolls along like the swells and breakers of Australia's Byron Bay, at times capturing unforgettable scenes, such as the image of a sea eagle diving into the waves and coming out "gripping the fish in its talons, the fish still swimming fifty yards in the sky." It's altogether as delightful and refreshing as a dip in the ocean, whether you own a surfboard or not. --Mark Frutkin

For one year in the late 1990s Richard Taylor and his family traded the suburbs of Ottawa for the east coast of Australia. The events of that year form the narrative structure of House Inside the Waves. The book is marketed as a memoir but is more of an extended personal essay than a chronological history, for it touches on various subjects, such as, domestic life, surfing, literature, music, history, and the quest for what the author calls it.
Since the birth of his first daughter Taylor has been what he calls a househusband. So much of House deals with domestic experiences that, in the end, the book becomes a testimonial and defence for the stay-at-home dad. In one chapter we are taken back to Ottawa, to a neighbourhood park frequented by pre-schoolers, to learn about the day-to-day life of a "he-mom" trying to become accepted by the "real" moms, and succeeding partly because of his mouth-watering chocolate chip cookies. Having entered the world of "motherhood", Taylor sees the larger world from a revealing perspective. In the middle of recounting the atrocities in Hong Kong during WWII, he suggests that "[y]ou have to be in charge of small children to realize how vulnerable and helpless women and kids have always felt in the face of men and the violent political agendas of history" (131).
Unfortunately, the house-husband point of view often becomes a filtered lens that renders the world in black-and-white. Taylor quickly classifies each person he meets as either house-husband friendly or house-husband hostile. He approaches strangers apprehensive that they will judge him based on his domestic status—of which he quickly informs them. Understandably, his experience has made him defensive about his domestic role. When he unwittingly happens upon a gay beach and reflects on "how tough it must be to be gay in such a cruel, judgmental, straight world" the words seem to be weighted with relevant personal experience. Still, this does not change the fact that, in places, the house-husband lens over-simplifies, perhaps even prejudices, Taylor's writing.
Much of the book honours the author's kindred spirits, Romantic travellers on spiritual quests. Taylor's travelling project goes beyond making his own voyages; he has studied the subject widely and deeply. The fruits of his reading nourish his own travels. He makes sense of his trip to Australia by situating it in a long line of similar quests, whether by Captain James Cook or Bruce Chatwin. At times his discussions of Byron, Gauguin, Kerouac and others have the flat tone of an encyclopaedia entry, but the details recounted are often the lesser-known tidbits of the subject's biography. We learn, for instance, that in addition to Byron's famous Hellespont swim, and numerous other dips in famous European waters, the English poet "accepted a challenge with other rabid swimmers and started from the Lido and then did the entire length of the Grand Canal, stroking casually into his palace stairs after three hours and forty-five minutes in the drink. And he won." (p84)
The discussions about these Romantic figures are used, in the end, to justify Taylor's own domestic situation. He says of Bruce Chatwin, who "died unglamorously of AIDS":

If Chatwin and his wife, Elizabeth, had managed to have the kids they had claimed they wanted, and Bruce had stayed at home to look after them and travel the world the way I do, maybe he'd be alive today. And perhaps he'd have written a book similar to this one. Instead, Chatwin's unconventional marriage had probably allowed him too much leash. (p9)
The lives of Gauguin and Kerouac receive similar diagnoses. Henry Miller, on the other hand, gets the house-husband stamp of approval for his years of living as a stay-at-home dad in Big Sur, California, and later writing, "That's the hardest thing to ask a man to do—take care of tots from three to five years of age . . It was something I'll never forget."(p190) Taylor points out that the difference between the Romantics who died tragically young and Miller, who lived until the age of eighty-nine, is that Miller "discovered the secret to day-to-day happiness."(p191) The secret, it is implied, is kids.
Taylor's own day-to-day happiness comes not only from his family, though, but also from his love for the ocean, for swimming, and for surfing. Many sections of the book read like odes to the Pacific. His passion for surfing invigorates the text. The colourful descriptions of waves evoke a sense of the divine, primal fear, and sexual anticipation. The detail that triggers in me the first flush of physical helplessness is the oceanic suck that pulls the water off the beach "all the way to South America or Antarctica "(p149) as the sea gathers itself in order to produce the next wave.
The subjects touched on in the memoir foster lively and informative discussion, but they might not be sufficiently interrelated and contained if it were not for the sea. An intimate knowledge of the sea might be—and has been for many seekers before—the closest thing to an intimate knowledge of it. Taylor says in the Prologue, "I had always wanted to sit by a window overlooking the sea and write a book about the Big Mystery"(p5). There have been many books about the sea and the big mystery. This one contributes to the genre by giving us a father's perspective from the home inside the waves.
Tom Abray (Books in Canada) -- Books in Canada

"...an entertaining and informative history of Australia, a lively gloss on the writers who have helped shape his [Taylor's] autobiography..." -- The Toronto Star

“House Inside the Waves is a travel book about a destination rather than a journey…. This is travel writing in depth, with accessible and vivid prose.” -- George Fetherling, author of Running Away to Sea: Round the World on a Tramp Freighter

“This is that rare thing, an utterly original book. The candid and introspective voice of the narrator is by turns funny and serious, poetic and prosaic, soaring with rapture one moment and mired in daily concerns or old anguish the next.” -- Isabel Huggan, author of You Never Know and The Elizabeth Stories

Writer, surfer, and househusband Richard Taylor is mad about beaches and islands, and was inspired by a house exchange that whisked him and his family from a freezing Ottawa winter to a year of some of the world's best surf on the east coast of Australia. In an era of packaged paradises and cyber surfers, the forty-something writer's first case of the mid-life blues seduced him into recapturing his youthful romance with surfing.

Richard Taylor is the author of the novel Cartoon Woods. Many of his feature articles have been published by the Ottawa Citizen. A seasoned traveller, he has taught creative writing in Hong Kong, Australia, and Tuscany. He teaches in Carleton University's English department.

from House Inside the Waves

I won’t lie to you. Every time I surf or swim in the ocean, sharks are always on my mind. There’s nothing better than being in the ocean, but there’s nothing worse than the thought of getting taken by a two-thousand-pound predator with razor teeth. However, given the choice between paddling out alone in the heaving Pacific or taking on the phantom ennui of winter in a suburban town house, there’s really no choice.

Only a few months before we arrived in Australia’s Byron Bay, newlyweds by the name of Ford went out diving at the reef past Julian Rocks…. Unfortunately a five-metre great white made a beeline for the new bride. When the terrified groom, John Ford, swam between the woman and the huge shark, he was cut in half. A week later the husband’s head was found down the coast. The shark was caught by fishermen and dragged out bleeding to sea a few kilometres until it escaped, but not before it spat out a human torso.