For eight years, I had a mediation practice, and I am now a grade four teacher in an international school in Bangkok, Thailand. My guiding principal is to help my clients and my students become independent of me, and help themselves change. My language for this comes from Tom Rusk's "Instead of Therapy." Early in his book, Tom Rusk talks about how he freed himself and his clients from a dependent relationship, and he explains the process with clarity, compassion and humor. He reveals his personal and professional experiences in a refreshing way. Rusk comes across as a solid practioner with no nonsense and at once, with such understanding and caring. I travel with this book and I recommend this book.