Joint Custody with a Jerk: Raising a Child with an Uncooperative Ex, A Hands on, practical guide to coping with custody issues that arise with an uncooperative ex-spouse: Amazon.ca: Ross Corcoran: Books

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Currently the director Parenting Horizons, which offers ongoing interactive workshops and counseling for parents, Julie A. Ross is also a certified Active Parenting Group Leader, a member in good standing with the American Counseling Assocation and has her own private practice. Her previous book, Practical Parenting for the 21st Century: The Manual You Wish Had Come with Your Child, is now in its third printing.

Judy Cordcoran is a freelance writer, the creative director of Gray Productions, and the media reporter for BrandMarketing Magazine.

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Parenting is difficult enough in a family where the two parents love and respect each other. In divorce, where the respect has diminished and the love has often turned into intense dislike, co-parenting cane drive on or both parents to the brink of insanity. Joint Custody with a Jerk offers many proven communication techniques that will help you deal with your difficult ex-husband or ex-wife by describing examples of common problems and teaching you to examine your role in these sticky situations. These strategies for effective mediation are easy to apply, down-to-earth, and innovative.

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4.0 out of 5 stars A Good Start, Jan 26 2004

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Geoffrey Halston (Woodbury, Minnesota) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Joint Custody with a Jerk: Raising a Child with an Uncooperative Ex, A Hands on, practical guide to coping with custody issues that arise with an uncooperative ex-spouse (Paperback)

Having been to court five times in ten years due to denial of visitation and continual visitation interference, I saw this book on Amazon and decided to go to the library to check it out. In general, it offers sound advice for those of us who are dealing with a mild jerk.
However, most of the time it is an issue of the typical disenfranchised father dealing with both a manipulative and lying ex and a gender-biased court. It doesn't offer advice for dealing with apathetic judges who pass the buck, nor with court-appointed mediators who are mostly female and have a chip on their shoulder regarding men in general.
AS a disenfranchised father living in Washington County Minnesota, I have lost patience with the gender-biased court system and am seeking other ways to deal with these issues.
Unfortunately, the authors don't address the gender bias of our society. I'm sure women have issues, but I am a person who deals with the public for a living and I frequenty come accross fathers who are paying an exhorbitant amount of child support and medical coverage, and often can't afford to pay an attorney. Since judges -- dispite lip service to the contrary -- favor attorneys over Pro Se litigants, fathers are often up against it.
In almost all cases, it is the mother who is granted joint physical and legal custody. Perhaps it is different in other states, but Minnesota is a backward mommy state. That's putting it kindly.
Yet, I did find some useful advice in this book and will incorporate these ideas regarding my own jerk for an ex. I do recommend this book, but it almost seems to pertain more to women.

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2.0 out of 5 stars A weak offering - there are much better books, Aug 22 2001

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Sir Bowen (Houston, TX USA) - See all my reviews

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This book has some snippets of good advice, so I had to at least give it 2 stars.

I can't give it any more than that, though, because the material is pretty weak. Basically, one of the authors runs classes to teach parents how to better communicate with their children (though is apparently not a degreed counselor). The other author is a writer who decided that these techniques could also be useful in dealing with an uncooperative ex.

I can't say they're completely wrong about this - after all, good communication comes in handy anywhere. But this makes for a very shaky premise. There's no research behind it, and they don't even bring any clinical experience with using these techniques in this situation!

(Plus, don't let your kids see the title. I threw the book out, considering that there was very little value compared to the risk that the kids would see it.)

For a sound book on the same topic, try "Mom's House, Dad's House" by Isolina Ricci.

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5.0 out of 5 stars parents read this first, Jun 9 2004

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If only both parents would read this book first...before they begin a child custody battle, many family court attorneys and functionaries would be unemployed. This book provides valuable communication tools especially for parents beginning the divorce process. It can be helpful to those who are already in advanced stages of divorce & child custody 'wars' although creating and maintaining healthy communication may be more challenging after unhealthy patterns have taken hold and more time may be needed to succeessfully change negative behaviors. As the book warns: it is not intended for situations involving family violence or child abuse.

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1.0 out of 5 stars Not worth opening the cover
Not much information to find in this book, though it can be entertaining if you are bitter and need to find something to read while you are in the same situation. Read more

Published on April 21 2004 by darcy swanson

1.0 out of 5 stars unprofessional, poor advice
The title reveals a general bias against men, although the authors make some attempt to appear balanced, although most often the jerk is of couse the ex-husband. Read more

Published on Jan 19 2004