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  • Paperback: 336 pages
  • Publisher: Basic Books; Reprint edition (May 6 1995)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0465036759
  • ISBN-13: 978-0465036752
  • Product Dimensions: 20 x 13 x 2 cm
  • Shipping Weight: 399 g
  • Average Customer Review: 4.2 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (19 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Bestsellers Rank: #228,117 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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ANY PEOPLE IDENTIFY WITH THE FAMILIAR condition of being Betwixt and Between, just as they identify with Peter Pan, the boy who did not want to grow up and face the responsibilities of the real world. Read the first page
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful By Gisela Gasper Fitzgerald on Sept. 10 2003
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I can imagine how many adoptees, upon reading this movingly written book, feel that their own story is being heard, their own troubles validated. I am not an adoptee and so I can only observe from the outside what it might be like. We adopted our daughter at the age of 4 days in a secret practice in 1969. She grew up with many adopted children. I can tell you that our daughter, who was not interested in searching for her birthparents, does not fit the profile described by Lifton that 'adoptees have been in exile since their separation from their mother' and 'The difference between those who search and those who don't lies in how they formed their defensive structures as children: how much they denied, repressed, and split off.' Lifton was adopted at age 2-1/2 after suffering numerous losses, and her adoptive mother was not a very nurturing soul. In Twice Born Lifton said that after finding her birthmother she had no mother at all since both mothers had disappointed her. I see that her experience in life was very different from that of our own daughter and of that of many other adoptees. Even after our birthmother found us 29 years later and we now have a wonderful relationship, our daughter claims she has not changed since meeting her birthmother, that she doesn't now feel whole whereas before she felt fragmented. Several of her adoptee friends searched and several did not, some non-searchers are happy and well-adjusted adults who do not share Lifton's view simply because they did not suffer like she did. My objection to Lifton's book(s) is that she generalizes from her particular experience so that all adoptees have identity crises, all adoptees feel fragmented and cannot be whole until they are united with their birthparent(s). It would be better if she wrote: 'This is how I feel, and this is what I have heard other adoptees say.' It is important to stay away from generalizations.
Gisela Gasper Fitzgerald, author of ADOPTION: An Open, Semi-Open or Closed Practice?
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful By Francine Stuckey on July 25 2003
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This book is a must have for adoptees and can be useful for birth and adoptive parents. It gave me insights into myself as an adoptee. It clarified emotions and frustrations that I had felt all of my life. It brings to the forefront the true emotional drama that exists in adoption. It doesn't sugarcoat the realities, and it bares the raw and powerful emotions that follow the adopted child all of his/her life. If you want validation, this is the book for you.
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I am writing this review to adoptee's who are beginning their exploration of what that means to them. That said; I think what I would like to let anyone reading this book is that it is powerful and as such - be prepared, perhaps i should even go so far as to say steel yourself! As an adoptee myself I read this volume whilst going through the process of searching for my biological parents. It was a very "challenging" experience and one which i chose to do later in life (statistically speaking) than most. This book boldly elucidated a number of potentialities and quite a few of them are pretty scary but I feel it helped me to prepare for what i was (about to) go/ing through . It addresses a very broad spectrum of possibilities and perspectives. It confronts pain and I would say is a little more broadly based than what some other reviewers have written but I will allow that Betty Jean does come down firmly and conclusively in support of open adoption. I have bought/given this book to at least 5 people ( family members, other adoptees, adoptive parents, generally those with a vested interest in reading it) and reactions have varied but they have never been bland. My sister cried for days after reading it, my adoptive father threw it out after two chapters and an adopted friend actually burnt it! This book is evokes strong emotions. So ... all in all I highly recommend it. Betty Jean was (she passed last year) a gifted writer. I would also humbly suggest "The Primal Wound" by Nancy Newton Verrier. I hope this helps. Cordially. N
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By A Customer on Nov. 7 2002
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In "Journey of the Adopted Self," Betty Jean Lifton writes an amazingly comprehensive account of what it means to be adopted. This book is my most dependable reference in traversing the uneven ground of reunion with my relinquished daughter. BJ Lifton has helped sensitize me to the special challenges associated with having been relinquished and adopted. Her contribution has been invaluable to me.
I have recommended this book to many others and made a gift of this book to many more.
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I have read MANY books on adoption and the impact it has on the triad. Some were good, some were bad, some were REALLY bad. From the moment I picked up this book, I could not put it down. Finally, a book that describes me and the way I feel! It is no longer a mystery as to why I am the way I am! This book is a MUST READ for all members of the adoption triad. I had many "light bulb moments" while reading this book and it has helped me immensely to know that I am not the only adoptee out there thinking and feeling this way. It has also helped me better understand my birth mother and how her experience has affected her. Thank you Betty Jean Lifton for writing this book. It has changed my way of thinking and changed my life for the better!
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As an adopted person myself, reading Betty Jean Lifton's Journey of the Adopted Self became a sudden & mesmerizing voyage of discovery. It is filled with moving life stories of adopted men & women, just like myself. It examines how separation & secrecy affect adoptees' sense of identity & our relationships to our adoptive parents. I had my arms full of books at our local library & I'd set them down to go through my choices once more before checking out when my eyes were caught by the book laying there on the counter. My hands reached out for it & all the others in my pile paled. This book changed my life, gave me names for malaises that have plagued me all my life. Wonderful stuff!
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