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Just Listen: Discover the Secret to Getting Through to Absolutely Anyone [Hardcover]

Mark Goulston , Keith Ferrazzi
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Sept. 15 2009
Foreword by Keith Ferrazzi, author of Never Eat Alone and Who's Got Your Back



The first make-or-break step in persuading anyone to do any thing is getting them to hear you out. Whether the person is a harried colleague, a stressed-out client, or an insecure spouse, things will go from bad to worse ifyou can't break through emotional barricades.



Drawing on his experience as a psychiatrist, business consultant, and coach, and backed by the latest scientific research, author Mark Goulston shares simple but powerful techniques readers can use to really get through to people-whether they're coworkers, friends, strangers, or enemies. Just Listen reveals how to:




- Make a powerful and positive first impression


- Listen effectively


- Make even a total stranger-a potential client, perhaps-feel "felt"


- Talk an angry or aggressive person away from an instinctual, unproductive reaction and toward a more rational mindset


- Achieve buy-in, the linchpin of all persuasion, negotiation, sales, and more



Getting through is a fine art but a critical one. With the help of this groundbreaking book readers will be able to turn the "impossible" and "unreachable" people in their lives into allies, devoted customers, loyal colleagues, and lifetime friends.

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"It's a measure of how contentious work relationships can get that the author, a psychiatrist, draws on hostage-negotiation techniques to instruct readers on how to deal with 'defiant executives, angry employees or self-destructing management teams'.... Mission accomplished." --"Time Magazine"

About the Author

MARK GOULSTON (Los Angeles, CA) is a psychiatrist, business consultant, executive coach, and FBI and police hostage negotiation trainer. A bestselling author whose books include Get Out of Your Own Way and Get Out of Your Own Way at Work, he writes a column on leadership for Fast Company and "Solve Anything with Dr. Mark" for Tribune Media Services, and is frequentlycalled upon to share his expertise by the media including the Wall Street Journal, Harvard Business Review, Fortune, Newsweek, Time, Reuters, NPR, CNN, Fox News, and the Oprah and TODAY shows.

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5 of 5 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Hidden Depths Nov. 30 2009
Format:Hardcover
I come to this book as a lawyer who has spent many years dealing with people under intense pressure. I advise families with disabled relatives, often young men with schizophrenia or bi-polar disorder, and mediate intra-family disputes over estates or the care of elderly people. I have read numerous books that purport to offer advice on dealing systematically with "difficult" people or situations. This extremely helpful book is the only one that genuinely and fully delivers on its promise. I recommend it highly to anyone who needs to elicit human co-operation from people - parents, children, spouses, colleagues, clients - who are inclined to withhold it.
The book is clearly written, well edited and thoughtfully formatted. Like most management or business advice books it is structured around real life vignettes. These are all believable, well chosen and avoid the wooden lifelessness that mars most books of this genre. The book is a smooth and pleasant read, but this smoothness in a way masks, probably deliberately, its strengths and those of its author.
Dr. Goulston's prescription is straightforward, and it works. There is no doubt in my mind that this book emerges from considerable practical experience, combined with ongoing study. He understands human needs, and his main lesson is that we must all strive to grasp our own and satisfy those of others. In his foreword he notes that he had to cut away a long chapter on the brain. This was a sound editorial decision, but one hopes that such a chapter will see the light in another, different book. There are numerous moments in the book - for example a seemingly offhand comment on workplace violence and disturbed object relations - that demonstrate the hidden depths of Dr. Goulston's knowledge.
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5 of 5 people found the following review helpful
By Donald Mitchell #1 HALL OF FAME TOP 50 REVIEWER
Format:Hardcover
"Be of the same mind toward one another. Do not set your mind on high things, but associate with the humble. Do not be wise in your own opinion." -- Romans 12:16

I was attracted to this book because I knew that Dr. Goulston would have something new to offer about listening. Most books on the subject simply rehash the same points. Just Listen fills the empty advice space between books on negotiating such as Getting to Yes and the NLP books that focus on the power of words and physical mirroring. Although most readers won't want to know very much about the latest in brain science, Dr. Goulston provides that a tad that provides more perspective about helping people regain control over their emotions.

For me, the book's strength was in its many examples of using the principles that are described. I was so impressed that I immediately rethought a family situation and hit on a solution that has already proven to be unexpectedly productive.

Dr. Goulston provides nine core rules that get you from being out of control to in charge of difficult situations, even ones you want to exit. From there, he provides 12 methods for gaining someone else's attention and agreement. I was struck that I had used most of the methods at one time or another, but I didn't have them categorized into when they would be most useful. I could also see ways to combine the methods that I had never considered before.

I was also amused to read some examples that involved people I know, which made Dr. Goulston's activities even more interesting as I compared what I did to what he did. Very helpful!

If you simply read a list of what he proposes, it wouldn't impress you. You need to read the book and put yourself into the stories he describes. Then, you'll get it.
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful
Format:Kindle Edition|Verified Purchase
I'm about half-way through this book and finding it really fascinating. It gets a well-deserved five stars.

I apologise in advance for griping, but what is with the high Kindle version price? It's comparable to the hard-cover price! Come on.

Kindle book prices are a greedy grab by Amazon. Kindle books do not need to printed, bound, shipped, and distributed. So please don't try to convince me that charging a price similar to a print version is something other than highway robbery. I'm disappointed in Amazon.

Minus five stars for Amazon's Kindle pricing policy.
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4.0 out of 5 stars Your Consultative Sales Playbook Dec 16 2009
By Jennifer E. Sertl - Published on Amazon.com
Format:Hardcover
Everywhere I turn I am being advised to leverage social media. There is even the new concept of " 33 million people in the room." With so many channels and methods to communicate to higher levels of influence and greater numbers in an audience, it is refreshing to know that the playing field is still relatively flat. Just because you have access to people, doesn't mean you are making IMPACT. Mark Goulston's, "Just Listen" is filled with realistic scenarios, assessment tests, and a real candid mirror.
If you aren't getting the results you want in your personal or professional life, there is probably a reason within your control--you probably aren't an effective communicator.
In pure Gouldston style--you are hit right between the eyes. In Section II Goulston shares his "nine core rules:"
1. Move yourself from "oh F#@& to OK"
2. Rewire yourself to listen
3. Make the other person feel "felt"
4. Be more interested than interesting
5. Make people feel valuable
6. Help people to exhale emotionally and mentally
7. Check your dissonance at the door
8. When all seems lost bare your neck
9. Steer clear of toxic people
You might read over this list and "yeah, yeah, yeah I do those things already." Do you? Do you really? What makes "Just Listen" so powerful is that Goulston shares several examples where he was out of alignment with these nine core rules. His transparency forces the reader to be more reflective and take personal responsibility.
Creating dissonance is the barrier I most need to resolve. I could see myself in several of the practical scenarios outlined. Having raised awareness I was sure this week would be different. The hardest part about being human is . . . well, being human. We think we are smart, using our prefrontal cortex--where long term decision making, cause-effect thinking take place-and then we make a choice just a little wiser than a reptile. Bottom line is--just because we are aware of something that needs to change; that awareness doesn't guarantee change. Being effective truly requires introspection, practice and patience. "Just Listen" is not a quick read. It is a workbook, a playbook, and flight plan. For the wisdom here to truly support sustainable progress, you might be keeping it as accessible as your blackberry.
Sales managers, marriage counselors, teachers, and spouses "Just Listen" is the greatest gift you could give yourself to enhance your own awareness and ability to reach those who are most important to you. Just read!
146 of 160 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Just Listen to this! Sept. 7 2009
By Peter B. Patch - Published on Amazon.com
Format:Hardcover
Just Listen:

It's Labor Day, and I can't stop reading my new favorite book!

The book is `Just Listen,' by Mark Goulston.

As I read it, I find that each of his messages `hit's home' in three ways at once: it is simple to understand, easy to remember, and directly actionable. I find myself wanting to have my next big client interview right away - so I can try out these `easy to remember - easy to apply' techniques of communication.

What do I remember from the book? A series of `burning insights':

First, that my `reptile brain' (or amygdala) kicks in when I am `reactive' or `ballistic' (as I am on occasion), but if I can put a label on my feeling at that point - `I am upset' or `I am angry,' I can begin to get control over my response.

Mark carries this forward to the point where I can begin to have a `rational' conversation with myself, using my `human brain' - and, for example, with my wife(!) - but I'll leave that to him as he describes it in the book.

Key note: The point here is to `Listen to myself' and my own internal reactions. As Mark puts it, `if you want to open the lines of communication, open your own mind first.'

A second `burning insight': Make the other person `feel felt.' This one requires a kind of emotional intelligence - the ability to put yourself in someone else's shoes. When you learn to do it, you will find the `barriers' to communication begin to come down, and the window (or door) to building a new possibility of relationship begin to open.

A third `burning insight': How to increase the `PEP' in your business - or your family. `PEP' stands for passion, enthusiasm, and pride. I'll give you a hint - only try this one if you've got a thick skin.

A fourth `burning insight': `How to make the impossible possible.'

I know - this one sounds like a `stretch.' It is - but that is exactly the point: It stretches our minds. This one looks at what could make something seemingly impossible into something that - while challenging - could suddenly begin to seem possible.

Once again, by changing the mental frame from which we look at a situation, new possibilities begin to emerge. That, of course, is a central message of the whole book.

But by capturing those situations in which I (we) find ourselves - or our responses - or our conversations - or our relationships (seemingly) blocked, or unworkable - Mark keeps showing ways to `untie' the Gordian knot, and make forward progress.

If you find any Gordian knots in yourself, or your communications, or your relationships - I heartily recommend this book.

It just may be the simplest, easiest - and most powerful - book I ever read.

So - try it yourself. On yourself. On your relationships. I think you'll find new possibilities, and newly achievable outcomes showing up in your life. Actually, I would bet on it.

Peter Patch (Stanford MBA, Harvard Doctoral Program in Business & Economics)
89 of 98 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Insightful, Practical, Useful and a Great Read Aug. 27 2009
By Peter Winick - Published on Amazon.com
Format:Hardcover
This book is a must read for anyone that would like to decrease the frustration levels in their life and become more effective by focusing on the "other side" of communicating, listening. Written in a style that is easy to read, engaging and entertaining Dr Goulston doesn't bog you down with the typical shrink babble; instead throughout the book there are stories and examples that everyone can relate to. More importantly the tips and solutions on how to easily implement a solution are logical, practical and more importantly doable-- and they work!
78 of 86 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Usable Insight, Indeed Sept. 7 2009
By Tami Conner - Published on Amazon.com
Format:Hardcover
OK, I'll admit it. I am a Dr. Goulston fan - I read his blog "Usable Insight" regularly. Which is why I hopped on the chance to preview a copy of his latest book, "Just Listen" ... And wow! am I glad I did.

This book exceeded my expectations. "Just Listen" is engaging, enthralling, and practical. Dr. Goulston lays out a system for improving your communication style that you can live with - no "fancy-smancy-gotta-change-your-sacred-self-or-else" stuff here. Instead, Dr. Goulston provides practical, usable insight that is applicable for in both your professional and personal lives.

Who hasn't needed to give themselves a "jeckectomy" every once in a while, or move themselves mentally and emotionally from "Oh F#@& to OK"? Even before I finished reading (and re-reading) "Just Listen", I was already trying out some of the techniques from "The Nine Core Rules for Getting Through to Anyone." The "Power Thank You?" I gave my mom one, and she cried. That one simple, powerful "thank you Mom" was a breakthrough in our relationship.

And if you're looking for real-life, day-to-day business scenarios in which to apply the techniques, look no further than the section titled, "Putting It All Together: Fast Fixes for Seven Challenging Situations." These scenarios would make team-building case studies and exercises!

No matter what you pay for this book, the insights inside are PRICELESS!
48 of 52 people found the following review helpful
3.0 out of 5 stars Mostly just common sense Oct. 20 2012
By Back9 - Published on Amazon.com
Format:Audio CD
The book goes thru examples of various situations, such as trying to diffuse a tense situation, trying to deal with a stubborn family member, or trying to close a sale. The author gives a mock conversation of what you should say, and how the other person will likely react. Most of what he advises is just common sense and basically the "kiss butt" approach - the power thank you, the power apology, make the person feel felt, be interested not interesting.

The author loses credibility in my view, by conveniently playing out each conversation in the best case scenario. In the mock examples, the other person "always" reacts exactly as planned; either spilling his guts, giving you the sale, breaking down and crying, ...

I understand the book works better this way, but some of the examples just go too smooth, and lose believability.
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