A Life of Being, Having, and Doing Enough Paperback – Mar 1 2011
Frequently Bought Together
Customers Who Bought This Item Also Bought
No Kindle device required. Download one of the Free Kindle apps to start reading Kindle books on your smartphone, tablet, and computer.
To get the free app, enter your e-mail address or mobile phone number.
“This book can preserve your sanity and save your life.”
—LARRY DOSSEY, MD, AUTHOR OF The Power of Premonitions
“This is a book that I will give to all the people that I love, and one that I will read and reread as a reminder of how to live a more graceful and grateful life.”
—JOAN BORYSENKO, PHD, author of Minding the Body, Mending the Mind and Inner Peace for Busy People
“A beautiful, still, peaceful book about embracing your own magnificence and the wealth of everyday life.”
—JUDITH ORLOFF, MD, New York Times bestselling author of Emotional Freedom
“A Life of Being, Having, and Doing Enough is a gentle, beautiful book, one that realigns the heart and mind. This is a book that strikes a deep chord of truth.”
—SHARON SALZBERG, author of Lovingkindness: The Revolutionary Art of Happiness
"As a busy CEO, a public figure, a volunteer, and a family man with two young children, Wayne’s words warmly washed over me as waves on a tropical beach. This book will do the same for you - I guarantee it!"
—GEORGE ZIMMER, Founder and CEO, Men’s Wearhouse
"The timing for this rich book could not be more perfect. Wayne Muller has written a thought provoking guide to the interior life that beautifully articulates why our soul craves silence and contemplation. This is a masterful accomplishment."
—CAROLINE MYSS, author of Anatomy of the Spirit and Defy Gravity
"This is a soul-sized book for sure. We are so busy pursuing too many goals and straining ourselves to death in the process. We are ‘catching up’ forever, doing-doing-doing all the time, stressed out and pushing ourselves to achieve and acquire in order to fill the emptiness in our souls. Wayne Muller counsels us to slow down, to accept ourselves and our limits, to enjoy just being the creatures we are in this universe. He teaches us to say ‘enough’ in a raging world of ceaseless activity, of self-imposed 24/7 tiredness. Reading this book is healthy - it will quiet the restless heart and encourage a thankful simplicity that brings peace to the soul."
—STEPHEN POST, author of Why Good Things Happen to Good People
“A Life of Being, Having, and Doing Enough is a compelling, thought-provoking meditation on what truly matters in life. True to form, Wayne Muller shares life-changing advice and inspiration.”
—DANIEL GOLEMAN author of Emotional Intelligence
"In a world seduced by its own unlimited potential, rather than feeling omnipotent we feel powerless and overwhelmed by impossible responsibilities. This is because we have forgotten what 'enough' feels like, says minister, therapist, and philanthropist Muller. He urges readers to step back from their inner pressures and from the externalities of culture, community, and work to reclaim an unshakable trust in their own deep inner sufficiency.
“This book is a timely and invaluable resource to help us remember what is truly important and meaningful in our lives. It provides the reader a place of solace, sanctuary, reflection, and realignment toward an inherent Way of Being—in the midst of life’s busy-ness and fast pace!”
—ANGELES ARRIEN, PHD, author of The Second Half of Life: Opening the Eight Gates of Wisdom
“A Life of Being, Having, and Doing Enough is an antidote to ‘more is better’ and the madness of multitasking. It offers a respite from the endless cycle of seeking that perpetuates our suffering. This book is a great reminder of the joy of keeping it simple, of the abundance present in this moment, and that even these few words are enough.”
—FRANK OSTASESKI, founder of the Metta Institute and the Zen Hospice Project
“Once again Wayne Muller has taken compassion-in-action to a new level through his marvelous and timely new book. Wayne highlights one of the key distinctions of our time: to recognize that we already are, have, and do enough just as we are. By beautifully illustrating how ‘enough’ looks and feels, he offers the reader a tremendous gift. This is the fundamental context of sufficiency—and of living a happy, fulfilled life of meaning. It’s also the basis for sharing and collaboration, essential elements in turning the tide at this pivotal time in human history.”
—LYNNE TWIST, President, Soul of Money Institute and co-founder, The Pachamama Alliance
“This wise and compassionate book helps us recognize and receive what we already have and offers us a place of refuge, renewal, and peace. A must-read for anyone who has ever felt ‘It's never enough.’”
—RACHEL NAOMI REMEN, MD, author of Kitchen Table Wisdom and My Grandfather’s Blessings
From the Hardcover edition.
About the Author
WAYNE MULLER is a Santa Fe–based therapist, public speaker, minister, and best-selling author. His previous books include Legacy of the Heart; How Then, Shall We Live?; Sabbath; and Learning to Pray. He is the founder of Bread for the Journey, a nonprofit organization that supports community organizing and neighborhood philanthropy.
From the Hardcover edition.
Inside This Book(Learn More)
Most Helpful Customer Reviews on Amazon.com (beta)
Muller offers an very healthy and practical alternative. To slow down and savor what we have today. It does not have to be maximum or perfect, which are our obsessions. Rather, it just has to be enough to enjoy now.
I found myself highlighting almost every sentence in the book. It is filled with wit and wisdom that empowers the reader to transform his/her life and contribute to a better world. This will be one of those books that I recommed to everyone I know and give away to family and friends as gifts all year long!
Wherever you are on your journey, "A Life of Being, Having, and Doing Enough" will help guide you through the rough spots and toward the clear open water.
As a Hospice Chaplain Muller witnessed the concerns of the dying. The concerns were quite simple. "Have I loved well? Have I lived deeply and fully? Have I left a legacy of kindness?"
Muller's illness taught him to do less and more slowly and follow the invisible thread of grace by listening every hour of every day. To his surprise it brought him more spaciousness and delight.
Mother Teresa concurred. "We can do no great things, only small things with great love." Martin Luther King put it another way, "Don't focus on the far-off destination...you don't have to see the whole staircase just take the first step."
One of Muller's lessons from the wisdom of a dying friend with breast cancer was particularly powerful. Because she appeared a beacon of clarity, strength and hope he was stunned to learn that she was dying. Feeling bone-weary, distracted and discouraged he asked how she managed to be so luminous, vital, alive and optimistic. She said she stopped doing two things - she no longer held any resentments and she surrounded herself with life-giving people. She also said she learned to say no and set clear boundaries.
The very practice of seeking can sometimes presume we are not where we need to be that this minute cannot possibly be enough. The Buddha taught we would experience ten thousand joys and ten thousand sorrows in a human life. The trick is first to see our glass is always half full and half empty. The whole world is neither broken nor whole.
Happiness is an inside job. Sufficiency and contentment are grown in the soil of moments.
Muller says we all have a compelling thirst to be seen, known and loved just as we are. When people are heard with love and mercy a miraculous change erupts in them and others. While working with prisoners Muller says he had to fall a little bit in love with them so he could see clearly the light that shone within them, regardless of their choices or circumstance.
Muller says scientists say Americans suffer more stress from overwork, lack of sleep and pushing and striving without knowing what is enough. We are a fear and crisis-driven society. When our immune systems are perpetually "lit up" our ability to fend off diseases is weakened. The United States health care system is no longer a safety net for illness. Of the top nineteen wealthiest, most industrialized, modern Western countries in the world, the US ranks last in curing preventable diseases. We are behind France, Spain, Portugal and Greece.
Loving what is does not mean we stop growing, changing or working to improve. It is a softening of the eyes, a quieting of the mind, a deepening love and appreciation for all life. Life is not a problem to be solved but a gift to be opened. "The color of the sky, the song of a bird, a word of kindness..." This is why many spiritual teachers focus on a single day. What is our pace? What is the tempo of our heart? Are we listening to our inner voice? Often, like Jesus, we do the most good wandering around without a specific agenda.
Before we can accept things as they are we must first learn to see things as they are. Acceptance often becomes gratitude.