First released twenty years ago, Love and Limerence has become a classic in the psychology of emotion. As relevent today as it was then, this book offers insight into love, infatuation, madness, and all flavors of emotion in between.
Yet this remains a very important book, exceptionally well written for its time. If you aren't on the floor in stitches at the countless private stories of the complete insanity and embarrassment of "The Supreme Delight," then you can only be among the (lucky or unlucky?) few immune to the grip of the often cruel involuntary falling in love experience. Divine madness, indeed -- yet also of "higher" archetypal integration processes and purposes than Tennov and her evolutionary psychology colleagues are yet capable of grasping. Highly recommended for its part, especially for anyone suffering its unrequited grip, but with reservations. A General Theory of Love by Thomas Lewis, offering a stunning and poetic current understanding of the importance of limbic brain function in mammalian love and attachment that includes an understanding of depth dynamics, is must companion reading. (Don't miss Dorothy Tennov's review below.)
The book was very helpful in that it made me feel somewhat normal, and I discovered my feelings and bursts of intense creativity, overwhelming sadness, interspersed with the highs that come with fleeting hope are a regular part of this condition. It made me feel like I wasn't so alone, and not totally insane.
From a psychological point of view I found the book and theories interesting. There are many limerent case histories peppered throughout the book. If you have been (or still are) in a limerent state you will recognise the patterns!! You will see parts of yourself in many of the case histories!
The one draw-back to the book is while reading it, and for about a week afterwards my limerence steadily increased. I lent the book to a friend, who is also going through the same thing, and the same thing happened to him.
If you are feeling love-sick or know of somebody who is- get the book it is money well spent(especially if it's unrequited love) but be warned that intensity might increase for a short duration. It really is well written and informative.