I've read dozens of self help books and this one stands far above the rest. It is one of my top 3 most influential books. It clearly explains the importance of certain concepts such as boundaries, feelings inside us and how they impact current relationships, and how we have certain behaviors that negatively impact our relationships - that we aren't even aware of where they come from. The book then goes on to showing HOW to implement the ideas, and they do work. I can tell you that in a short period of time, this book has provided tremendous insight into myself, feelings, and how I relate to my partner. You will be able to put the ideas to work immediately. The revelations I have from this book have helped me feel more whole, and with an ability to respectfully love my partner. The ideas in this book blew me away- definitely worth a read.