Meaning Of Matthew, The [Hardcover]

... to a world known icon, Judy Shepard has become synonymous with words like activist, equal rights, and legacy. There are many of us who idolize this woman, and even, dare I say, put her on a pedestal for her endless work in this area. However, the Judy Shepard in her new book, "The Meaning of Matthew" My Son's Murder in Laramie, and a World Transformed", is a simple mother, telling the wonderful story of her son's life, and the journeyhis death set her on afterwards.

One of the marvelous surprises in this book of surprises is Judy's humbleness and straightforwardness. Coming from the west, growing up in Wyoming herself, Judy has an understanding of the land and the people there that permeates this wonderful book. She met and married her husband Dennis, and then proceeded to have Matthew, which turned out to be a complicated birth and early few weeks of life. Throughout this book, Judy shares little stories and insights into Matthew's character that truly humanize this now civil rights icon. This is a mother, writing about her son, with love.

But it's honest. Judy doesn't hold back, when recounting her first suspicions about her son's homosexuality, when recounting some of his faults and foibles, and her own doubts as a mother. Somehow, throughout the book, she manages to maintain her composure, even when getting to the fateful, horrible nights and lingering days while Matthew barely clung to life. Read those chapters with Kleenex nearby. Even the hardest hearted of us will be fighting back tears.

However, I must say, I don't feel for a second that Judy wants us to feel sorry for her, or slip into a maudlin remembrance of her son. I truly believe, as the book wraps up for us, that she is ultimately inspiring us to action. This book serves as a clarion call for those who wish for others to do the difficult work of equal rights to wake up and get involved; even in little ways, the littlest act can and does make a difference.

From humble beginnings as a wife and mother, to world known activist, you leave the book admiring her and her family for the work they've done to make this world as better place for everyone. But in reality, this marvelous read is a mother's memories of her son, and this book serves as a monument to this boy, whom the country never met, but now knows well.

Thank you Judy.

What an incredible (true) story about all of us in the U.S.A. and around the world, of a beautiful (inwardly and outwardly) young AMERICAN man, and his most remarkable mother! One of the most inspiring books I have ever read. If Congress does not again get around to putting into law The Matthew Sheppard Hate Crimes Bill, then we remain, as a country, deeply ashamed, as hatred still trumps love and acceptance of ALL Americans.

"The Meaning of Matthew" by Judy Shepard sheds light on the life of Matt, killed in Laramie, Wyoming, murdered by two men for no other reason than a botched robbery ($20.00) and a gay victim.

Shepard, the mother of Matt, strives throughout the book to keep her emotions in check, to tell the story of Matt before his murder, the son she loved. Matt was funny, kind, and open to the wonders of the world. Matt became depressed, angry, alcoholic, and confused as he encountered a world that did not accept him as a gay man.

The murder and subsequent trial sparked protests against hate crimes. Yet there were also those who defamed the victim, using his funeral as a place to spew their messages of hate, that Matt would rot in hell, that Matt was the devil's spawn. The "Reverend" Fred Phelps and his Westboro Baptist Church used the funeral and the trial to promote their hate-mongering, leaving the grieving family in more pain.

Judy Shepard has become a spokesperson for the LGBT community. This book will help to enlighten those who wish to learn more about how to bring civility into a dark world. I would have liked to feel more connected to the writer, but I understand her need to control her emotions, to keep a grip over the narrative, because how else can a parent move on when a child has been tortured and murdered?

"The Laramie Project" is also the story of Matt, with a far deeper emotional impact. I recommend Shepard's book for the facts and the understanding of a family under assault by the press and those who feel they have a duty to tell others how to live.