Momma And The Meaning Of Life [Paperback]

What about momma, what was she like? Yalom draws a picture of an ill tempered, overpowering and vain woman with whom he never remembers sharing `a warm moment'. But she's not all-bad. Yalom shares a moment of them together, a moment when she enjoying her son's books. Unable to read them because of a sight problem, she handles then tenderly and says, "Big books. Beautiful books". The rational son, on the other hand, points out that it is what is 'in' the books that is important not how they feel. "Oyvin, don't talk narishkeit - foolishness. Beautiful books!" This motherly sense and presence is a quality that returns in different shapes to all of the six tales in the book. The tales being: 'Momma and the Meaning of Life'; 'Travels with Paula': 'Southern Comfort'; 'Seven Advanced Lessons in the Therapy of Grief'; 'Double Exposure'; and 'The Hungarian Cat Curse'. All the tales have elements, in varying degrees, of non-fiction. Some like 'Southern Comfort' (my favourite), a story concerning a remarkable black woman in inpatient psychotherapy, are pure non-fiction `flecked only with fiction to conceal the patients' identity'. But, as the author also says, `not only does fiction have its own truth, but every story, no matter how "true," is a lie because it omits so much.'

Yalom is both a storyteller and teacher. His `academic' books succeed, having sold in thousands and having been translated in some twenty languages, because they impart knowledge through stories. These stories engage us regardless of whether or not we are health professionals because the only qualification we need are that we are human. His other books, not so `Big books,' novels and collections of tales, like `Momma and the Meaning of Life', find more readers (they cost appreciably less and look more approachable) but still contain the essence and gems of his existential psychotherapy. The words `existential psychotherapy' I mention judiciously here at the end of my review because they would have undoubtedly switched you off, nor have I mentioned the word `death' - a theme that runs through `Momma'. It just goes to show how Yalom has found not only the perfect medium but also a way to engage and switch so many people on to these ideas. Yalom is a modern day alchemist, transmuting life's lead into gold.