My Life in Porn: The Bobby Blake Story Paperback – May 5 2008
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Toby Thompkins, Author of "The Real Lives of Strong Black Women""Mr Gaines life story unveils the journey of the strong black man, as a prodigal son to all that is Black and all that is American. He reminds us that all roads, no matter how dark or dreary, lead us back to ourselves if we will only follow the light. This is within every black man."
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Bobby Blake lives in Memphis, TN.
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Of the story itself I felt that Bobby Blake leads the reader to believe that his many relationship failures were wholly due to his partner's inadequacies, taking very little ownership himself of the problems at hand. If he did in fact play a role in the breakdown of those relationships he did not come across as man enough to admit them. His faith, which he vehemently protects, seems as carefree as his violent episodes and hedonistic lifestyle. As a gay man myself I certainly am familiar with the latter, however in Bobby's life it seems as one turns off the other turns on. I completely respect his faith and was very impressed with the devotion to his church and to his god, however I was left scratching my head at the man who later in his story seems to take some sort of enjoyment of seriously abusing the 'white guys' on the set of a porn movie who had hurled racist abuse at himself and the 'black guys' which the director of the movie had perpetrated. Bobby Blake also continuously mentions how he didn't drink or do drugs, yet one has to wonder if his size isn't in some partiality due to steroids. There are many of these gaps which appear to be a bit too sensationalistic to be truthful.
I can understand that being a porn star of his stature must breed an over-inflated ego. I understand also that you aren't likely to succeed in the industry without one. However, after grudgingly enduring the repetitive self-accolades I still could not reach the true grit of his story. I felt they got in the way and only wished Bobby Blake could have put aside how wonderful he thought he was for just a few chapters in order to get some real insight.
When I finally put the book down I had to come to the conclusion that not everyone can be a best-selling author with their first book. Though I found it excruciating to read at times, Bobby Blake's book was, I believe, in his own words...and isn't that what it was meant to be? I looked at the cover of his book again after I had finished reading it and reread the title. It was the Bobby Blake story..but was it? Was it not in fact Bobby Blake writing Edgar Gaines' story? The star persona was writing the story of a man, when in truth it should have been the other way around.
Tim from Memphis
Bobby Blake say that he is bisexual but by his own admittance "all the serious relationships of my adult life would turn out to be with men". Blake admit to being in love with a girl during his youth but some of his comments about women, later in the book, sounds misogynistic. Also, later in the book, he define himself as gay which leads one to think at fifty Bobby Blake is still unsure of his sexual orientation. Beginning as a male dancer at mostly gay clubs, he move to Los Angeles and begin starring in gay and, on occasion, bisexual pornography. On camera, Bobby Blake is a aggressive, sometimes violent, top. Privately, Blake say he is "more broader". Bobby Blake is dark skinned, tall with a body builders physique and a simmering sexuality. Deep voice with a southern accent; there is a Mandingo quality about Blake thus he becomes a star.
Blake description of the gay porn entertainment business is informative and titillating. His services as an "Escort" was requested by married closeted movie stars, down low professional athletes and the powerful and wealthy from all over the world. He made lots of money as an "Escort". He have worked with some of the most prominent people in gay pornography such as the drag queen pornography director Chi Chi Larue. He also assess his rivalries in the business such as Tyger Tyson.
What make this autobiography truly unique if not special, is that Bobby Blake address issues rarely discussed in these types of autobiographies. Bobby Blake discuss double standards towards many black gay performers in the gay adult industry. Most importantly, it is Bobby Blake critique of Christian Spirituality and the role it play in his life. Bobby Blake was a minister in the Methodist Church and currently is a church counselor. He encourages gay youth not to deny or abandon their spirituality because of the anti gay, hatred filled dogma spewed from organized religion. The only disappointments in the book are there are no photographs. Also, Bobby Blake is against gay marriage because most African Americans do not support gay marriage. Also, Blake say gay marriage is a "white gay agenda" and white Gay America want black Gay America to support their agendas but white Gay America is often unsupportive and exclusory, if not racist, towards black Gay America.
My Life In Porn: The Bobby Blake Story is controversial. It is also an entertaining , insightful and titillating. It is an often told tale about superficial success and redemption told from a unique perspective. I recommend reading My Life In Porn The Bobby Blake Story.
Regarding the first few chapters, I really enjoyed reading about the many forces that came together to shape him. Everyone has a story to tell about how they came to be who they are. I personally always enjoy learning about what makes a person, any person, tick, but I found Mr. Blake's story much different from what I expected.
Throughout the book there were many sad moments, and while I didn't mind reading about them, I had to stop reading a few times because things like remembering different friends/family dropping like flies in the 80s, the pains of breakups, let-downs by friends, etc.
His thoughts on church and religion were particularly well written. It made me think: Can you imagine what would happen to so many of these churches if every gay and lesbian, bi and transgendered person just got up and left???? I have been for a good church over the years because of this, and am still looking for a good fit for me in NYC that is inclusive without me having to part of an exclusively gay congregation.
I found the porn industry chapters fascinating. These are the parts of the book I had to read twice, particularly the rivalry chapters (Bam, Tiger Tyson, etc.). At first I thought, "is this guy for real? he seems a bit full of himself" but after re-reading it, its not that at all. In business, regardless of the industry, you have to be smart, sometimes ruthless, and cunning. God gave us wisdom and cleverness to work our way through the minefields of life. This is exactly what Mr. Blake's done, and in spades! Well done.
It's great that he wrote about how he stood up for himself within the porn industry. Some people are naive enough to believe that in the porn industry, people are so liberal and open-minded that they are all passed the racist and ethnic hatred and bias found in other industries. His book is an important tool for the young ones looking to get into the industry, a reminder that things have changed, but not completely, and the best defense is a strong sense of self, confident and proud.
But the chapters about Flexx-Deon were very sad. I'm glad he wrote about the experience, and I hope people don't think its just him "throwing him under the bus" as they say. I don't know Mr. Flexx-Deon so I won't put his life o the spot, but speaking in broader terms it's true that so many gay guys don't plan for their future, particularly hispanic and black gays. They don't spend their money properly. They don't think about their needs 10 years from now, or even 10 weeks from now, living check-to-check. They don't think about what will happen if they lose their jobs ( guess they move back home or live with family or friends), or what happens if a family member becomes ill and is unable to care for him or herself. We live in such a self-absorbed world now. Perhaps with some luck some of these guys will read Mr. Blake's book, so they can see themselves from the outside in, and realize that they are not just doing damage to themselves, but end up leaving a long trail of collateral damage in the form of loves ones.
Of all parts of the book, I liked the ending the most. It shows Mr. Blake having come full circle--literally, since he's living in the house he spent many of his early years in.
Well done, Mr. Blake.
Lots about differences he sees between Methodists and Baptists, and odd jobs he did to make money growing up ... etc.
He repeats often his only regret was making his last movey without wearing a condom, which he now spends his time advising young black males to do, but often implies that off screen hi didn't use condoms either.
He implies that in his first movie it was about (enjoyable) sex on camera, but that as time went on it changed.
This is not well explained. At certain points (for example when he defecates on a man) he seems to be saying that Money is his idol and he will do just about anything for it.
In many other places it's clearly NOT about the money, it's about causing pain and humiliation. He likes to have sex that sends people to the hospital, and not consensually. He makes a passing remark that his seriously trying to hurt the other actor in the scene doesn't regret because surely the director will have clued them into his sadism. He enjoys smashing actors faces into concrete more than intercourse.
But then he sites over and over that he Didn't Do what the director expected or wanted. Dragging an actress across the set by her hair in one of his few Bi movies was clearly not expected by anyone there and like many of psychotic freak-outs was meant to scare the crap out of the other actors.
He even saysin his last movie that he felt like hurting one actor (a black man), even though the whole story line was about some black guys dominating white skin heads. The director or actors could hardly be prepared for that! He does do alot of sadistic things to the white guys of course, like beat one with a board till it breaks. After, one actor asks him if it was the hurting others that he really enjoyed and he says yes. It doesn't seem to occur to him that this appears to be a major, yet unexplored change in him while he was doing porn
He talks alot about the mental illness in his family, but doesn't connect it with his freakouts. He may have had "roid-rage" or self-loating about his homosexuality, but never gives any insight into his behavior making movies. He breaks up alot of relationships and blames the other guys even though he is a total control freak. He "punishes" partners who drink alcohol, but spends years and years picking up guys in bars. Surely SOME of them drank. Any insight to that? No!
The book is a mess with more questions generated than answered.
Pretty crappy overall.
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