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  • Paperback: 216 pages
  • Publisher: New York Univ Pr (Aug. 13 2012)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0814722598
  • ISBN-13: 978-0814722596
  • Product Dimensions: 15.2 x 1.4 x 22.9 cm
  • Shipping Weight: 340 g
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"The book's prescriptive argument in seeking social and cultural change is well made and convincing."-Choice "Not My Kid successfully portrays the paradox in how parents think about teenage sexuality in general versus how they think about their teenagers' sexuality specifically...highly informative."-D' Lane R. Compton, American Journal of Sociology "[This book] brings a mirror to our society, an image that we need to closely examine and see if we like what we see."-Sacramento Book Review "Beautifully written, engaging, and insightful, Not My Kid advances our critical understanding of the complex tensions, contradictions, and paradoxes parents decipher as they make sense of the sex lives of their adolescent children. Sinikka Elliott invites readers to think critically about the revealing stories of parenting and family life that give life to this relevant book, and the emerging implications for the future of sex education programs and debates in an increasingly diverse and technological society."-Gloria Gonzalez-Lopez,author of Erotic Journeys: Mexican Immigrants and Their Sex Lives "Sinikka Elliott's book offers the balance one hopes for as a reader of a qualitative study: clear takeaways and a nuanced, complex analysis surrounding them... Students will be drawn in and motivated by the lively topic, accessible writing style, and lively evidence; and along the way, students and instructors will get the opportunity for a rich, systematic, and capacity-building sociological adventure."-Emily W. Kane,Teaching Sociology "Not My Kid is a necessary addition to the sex education literature...This book helps to answer the question of why contemporary young adults, in light of increasing awareness, still rely on and perpetuate sexual stereotypes...Not My Kid offers a fresh perspective on teenage sexuality that does not frame sexuality as negative; instead, it explains why these tropes are so common. Elliott points out how many of the ways that we conceive of and discuss teenage sexuality do not allow for a comprehensive picture of satisfying, pleasurable, agentic sex for young adults, instead reinforcing stereotypes and binary thinking. This book would enhance a variety of classes, covering families, sexuality, and inequality."-Rachel Kalish,Gender & Society "[Elliott registers] the intense bonds that parents make to and with their children and the ways that sexuality-seen as always looming on the horizon-threatens to undo those bonds. The stories Elliott is able to tell are emotionally dense...[This book] is a powerful sociological argument about the workings of social inequality."-Jen Glibert,Social Forces "Highly readable and accessibly written, Not My Kid is suitable for a wide range of audiences, including undergraduate students and general readers. Elliott makes extensive use of her informants' own words and stories throughout the book, enhancing its appeal...Not My Kid promises to be an excellent resource in courses on human sexuality, gender, families, and social problems, as well as introductory sociology."-Sex Roles "Elliott effectively uses interviews with a wide variety of parents to show how parents respond to social norms and views of their own children in a way that often results in resisting to address adolescent sexuality forthrightly... a well-supported, educational overview of a wide range of parents and their views on their teenager's sexuality."-Cassandra Dishman,Journal of Youth Adolescence "Not My Kid is an engaging and incisive contribution to contemporary debates over youth and sexuality education. As Elliott debunks prevailing myths about parents, kids, and 'the talk' about sex, a new picture emerges in which parents navigate and contribute to a broad social context characterized by ambivalence, anxiety, and persistent inequalities. Elliott helps readers appreciate the need for social policies that confront the culture of fear surrounding young people's sexuality and bolster parents' efforts to support their children's development as sexual beings."-Jessica Fields,author of Risky Lessons: Sex Education and Social Inequality

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HASH(0xa6d72c30) out of 5 stars A wonderful book! June 27 2013
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Sinikka Elliott provides wonderful insight into how parents think about their kids' sex lives. This book benefits academics and parents alike. A must read!
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HASH(0xa6ac930c) out of 5 stars Teenagers and sex Jan. 1 2013
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Sex education has been a divisive topic in schools ever since it was first introduced. Originally introduced to help new immigrants become more American and learn things the proper way; instead it has become a battleground between two different groups. Those that are considered more liberal, who believe in educating teenagers in sex; and the more conservative side that endorses an abstinence until marriage ideal. In this book Sinikka Elliott goes a different route than most books, she does not look at teenagers themselves; but instead takes a look at the parents of teenagers, how they view sex, sex education, and their children as sexual beings. What she finds is that parents can be at times ambivalent, demanding, and strangely contradictory. That they do not believe their children could be interested in sex, but knowing it will probably happen. Many people are happy at times that school takes the burden off of talking about sex education amongst their peers.

Not perfect this book is another entry in the long debate about sex in America. This book might not change minds of many people; it is highly informative and extremely important to read. It brings a mirror to our society, an image that we need to closely examine and see if we like what we see.