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The author, who visited 30 schools and talked to 300 girls, catalogues chilling and heartbreaking acts of aggression, including the silent treatment, note-passing, glaring, gossiping, ganging up, fashion police, and being nice in private/mean in public. She decodes the vocabulary of these sneak attacks, explaining, for example, three ways to parse the meaning of "I'm fat."
Simmons is a gifted writer who is skilled at describing destructive patterns and prescribing clear-cut strategies for parents, teachers, and girls to resist them. "The heart of resistance is truth telling," advises Simmons. She guides readers to nurture emotional honesty in girls and to discover a language for public discussions of bullying. She offers innovative ideas for changing the dynamics of the classroom, sample dialogues for talking to daughters, and exercises for girls and their friends to explore and resolve messy feelings and conflicts head-on.
One intriguing chapter contrasts truth telling in white middle class, African-American, Latino, and working-class communities. Odd Girl Out is that rare book with the power to touch individual lives and transform the culture that constrains girls--and boys--from speaking the truth. --Barbara Mackoff --This text refers to the Hardcover edition.
A must read for any mother of a daughter or a woman in search of herself -at any age. Provided many 'aha' moments and provided insight on a childhood endured 50 years ago. Read morePublished on March 11 2013 by Jan
wonderfully written, I would highly recommend it for any woman or adolescent girl or boy. I think it does a great job of describing the hidden culture between womenPublished on July 4 2009 by Shelly Taylor
Even as a woman in my late 20's I continue to see this type of behavior among my peers. Particularly in the work context, I have observed: exclusion, silence and denials of... Read morePublished on July 19 2004
Girls getting sex aren't doing mean things.
Girls in love don't think of malicious things; instead they are dreaming......... Read more
I got this book at my mom's suggestion, because I was going through my own situation a couple of years ago with 2 other girls. (I'm now 15) This book could not have been truer. Read morePublished on April 30 2004
Rachel Simmons shows the truth behind the doors of any average girl. She also shows the trials and tribulations that girls go through in school. Read morePublished on March 12 2004 by Stephanie
I am sick and tired of hearing how typical male behaviors, such as overt aggression, are 'normal' and 'healthy' and typical female behaviors, such as the subtler aggression of... Read morePublished on March 10 2004 by Out of keeping with the stock character
This book is easy to read, but emotionally, it's a roller coaster. Over all, I'm glad I read it.
It deals with the often sugar-coated agression of girls against each other. Read more