On the Down Low: A Journey Into the Lives of "Straight" Black Men Who Sleep With Men Hardcover – Apr 14 2004
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King is very straightforward about the phenomenon, called the down low, of "straight" men having sex with other men without disclosing it to the women in their lives. Having spent more than 20 years living the dual life of the down low, King is familiar with all the personal, psychological, social, and even religious implications of living on the down low and the risks this lifestyle poses to the spread of HIV and AIDS. He recalls his struggle with self-gratification, the fear of exposure, and the responsibility to his family before coming to the conclusion that he owed his family honesty. King also cites respect for black women as a motive for disclosing his secret, though the reader might question how much respect he had for 20 years. But that's part of King's point in his disclosure, that men on the down low and the black community itself, with little tolerance of homosexuality, need to be more honest and open on issues of sexuality. This is a revealing look at an important social and health issue. Vernon Ford
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This book has folks buzzing like a tree full of cicadas.” —Philadelphia Inquirer
“There's a new book girlfriends have got to read. It's a page-turner.” —Newsday (New York)
“A wake-up call.” —Dallas Voice
“A good read.” —The News-Sentinel (Fort Wayne, Indiana)
“A revealing look at an important social health issue.” —Booklist
“King ultimately delivers a powerful and emotional story and must be lauded for having the courage to do so!” —QBR The Black Book Review
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The only thing that I would find negative in the book was that bisexuality is once again seen in a negative light. As a activist in the LGBT community, Coming from the "I" Bisexuality to some is an identity, not a behavior. Bisexuality may be different for some people. It is the potential to be emotional, spiritual, and maybe but not always, sexual with both genders. It is not how you identify yourself, but how you conduct yourself in your sexual practices, wheather you are straight, gay or "in between"
Negotiating safe-sex practices with your partner in this time and age is very important, especially if you do not know their health/sexual history. Communication and honesty is very important for both partners as well as potential ones. Discussing your past with your present partner allows the person to make choices: wheather to continue the relationship and let it grow, or stop it before it develops. So, men who are bisexual (women too) should let their spouses or potential partners know so that choices could be made in the beginning and not later down the road, which can become a little bit harder, and if you do find out about it later, support services can come into play (if needed)
So remember: Honesty and Communication can open a lot of doors (or close them) choices should be allowed to be made.
Most recent customer reviews
I think Mr. J. King's book is part of his evil plot to self-promote himself & turn even more brothas' on to this nasty-germ traveling phenomenon!!! Read morePublished on July 16 2004 by missamericababy
J.L.King, may have meant well with this long an dwordy piece but all he did was badh his own people. Read morePublished on July 14 2004
This book is full of CRAP...just like the author who wrote it. And to the reviewer (who I know, but won't bust out) who left the review called "Ain't Nobody Mad But The... Read morePublished on July 12 2004
I am of the opinion and belief that this book simply reminded us of things and behaviors we are already well aware of. Read morePublished on July 10 2004
This was indeed a very informative book. I could not put the book down until I finished it. The author answered questions that my husband would not. Read morePublished on July 8 2004
I believe that if anyone can write a book of such riveting revelations, it would have to come from someone that has had personal experience. How else can you get to the truth. Read morePublished on July 6 2004
I'd like to thank Mr. King for writing this book. I was hesitant to read On the Down Low because I thought it was going to be a typical "black women can't keep their men" type of... Read morePublished on July 6 2004 by Ms. M.
What a missed opportunity this turned out to be. King could have used this book to make a positive difference in the lives of the men who lead a double sexual life. Read morePublished on July 6 2004 by Amazon Customer
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