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Do One Thing Different [Paperback]

Bill O'Hanlon
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Oct 12 2000
You can move quickly from "stuck" to "smooth sailing" in all aspects of your life using Bill O'Hanlon's ten easy Solution Keys, Humorous, direct, and effective, they help you change how you view and "do" your problems-from difficult relationships to enhancing sexuality and resolving conflicts of all kinds. The next time you have a problem, try one of these solution Keys:
    Break Problem Patter: Change any one of what you usually do in the problem situation-i.e. do one thing different! Example: If you usually get angry and defensive, sit quietly and listen.

    Find and Use Solution Pattern: Import solutions from other situations where you felt competent. Examples: what do you know on the golf course that you forget when you get behind the wheel of your car? What do you say to resolve a problem with an angry customer that you don't say to your angry partner?

    Shift Your Attention: Focus what you would like to have happen rather than on what is happening.
Grounded in therapeutic practice, this bold and funny book will put you back in control of your emotions and your life.

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O'Hanlon, a certified professional counselor, marriage therapist, and author of 16 self-help books (e.g., Love Is a Verb), here makes an interesting addition to the field. Written in short, lively chapters, his book is divided into three topical parts: changing the doing of the problem, changing the viewing of the problem, and applying solution-oriented therapy. Motivated by his own frustrations with traditional therapies (they didn't work for him as he struggled against suicidal thoughts in college), O'Hanlon devised a new therapeutic philosophy. In place of blaming others or treating people as victims or labels, he advocates a "solution-oriented therapy"Awhich calls for immeditate, seemingly random action. Each chapter consists of personal narratives, chapter summaries, and exercises for personal growth. Unusual but compelling; recommended for public libraries.ALisa S. Wise, Broome Cty. P.L., Binghamton, NY
Copyright 1999 Reed Business Information, Inc. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

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The theory behind the title of this book is solution-oriented therapy. Rather than probing the past and analyzing causes and effects of psychological problems and troubles, therapist O'Hanlon advises making changes in behavior in the present in order to feel better sooner rather than later. Using 10 "solution keys," he challenges readers to focus on the here and now and adjust behavior to change the situation. The author uses plenty of examples to show solution-oriented therapy in action. There is something to be said for taking action in times of trouble rather than wallowing in the many negative feelings that arise. One caveat: This shouldn't be taken alone as a prescription for those suffering from deep clinical depression or other major psychological disorders. Those persons need to seek help from professionals. Marlene Chamberlain --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

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4.0 out of 5 stars helps you become more flexible July 16 2002
Format:Hardcover
I am a person who goes nuts when "rules" are broken. These are usually the "rules" in my head about how things should be done. Having read this book, I am more able to let myself know when I am doing rigid things or hearing rigid ideas I had best ignore. Just knowing I know better has helped me time and again. I really enjoy the idea that there are many solutions to one problem. I really hope to keep trying to find out when I am doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result.
Mr. O'Hanlon has done an excellent job of describing how to change your life on the terms that you can stand. In other words, his approach helps you sincerely make life changes that actually make you happy, not just life changes that only make someone else happy.
The only reason that I am not giving this book five stars is that I am wary of the fact that someone may use the chapter on relationships in this book to try to improve a relationship that needs to be run from. However, I would say, again, I am probably being too rigid. If what you do to loosen or shake up a bad relationship doesn't make the other person too happy, maybe that's a way to tell if the relationship does need to be abandoned or made much less close (something I once experienced). I guess doing one thing different works. Thank you, Mr. O'Hanlon.
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4.0 out of 5 stars A simple but effective approach Aug 7 2007
Format:Hardcover
A recent workshop introduced to me the idea of solution-focused coaching, which offered real impact on persistent problems without the risk of becoming interminably mired in self-analysis. My search for an accessible guide to the basic ideas of the solution-focused approach led me to this book. The promise of the title is not a tease. O'Hanlon shows how something as simple as recognizing when a problem doesn't happen can lead to actions that can result in a rapid and lasting turnaround. The best news is that you don't need to know why the problem exists, only that there is at least one thing you can do differently that will produce different results. And he provides an extensive set of tools for discovering what that "one thing" might be. For my taste, he provides just the right mix of theoretical background, case examples and step-by-step instructions to permit the reader to experiment immediately. For anyone perplexed by a stubborn problem, this book is worth a careful look.
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4.0 out of 5 stars DIY Guide to Solution-Focused Therapy Mar 30 2004
Format:Paperback
"Do One Thing Different" is a much-needed, straightforward do-it-yourself (DIY) guide to solution-focused techniques. Clients love or loathe this book.

Some clients are unwilling to look into a book that is plainly written and easy to read. They loathe dryly written more academic texts, however, complex text that relies on diagnostic labels and bleak prognoses seems more appropriate to the perceived gravity of their problems and issues.

Other clients love this book because it has scant respect for diagnostic labels and is optimistic about the possibility for improvement for most people and their circumstances. They love it because the simplicity overlays subtleties and practicalities of DIY techniques that can be put into use, right now and safely tested in their everyday lives.

If you want an evidence-based justification of solution-focused therapy, then this is not your book. If you want to explore the biography of your emotions and distressing behaviours, or to gain an insight into the human condition, then there are many, very fine books that explore those topics. O'Hanlon plainly states that he has no interest in examining these or similar areas.

"I began to realize how messed up I really was. I was 'clinically depressed,' and most probably I had a biochemically based brain disorder. I probably needed medications. Since I had been sexually abused when I was a child, the books indicated that a minimum of several years' worth of therapy was in order. I would have to spend lots of time, money, and energy getting in touch with the repressed, dissociated memories and feelings associated with the abuse. But I wasn't certain that I wanted to take medications or go through years of painful therapy. I was certain I couldn't afford either. Now wonder I became even more depressed!"

O'Hanlon tells us the story of his personal epiphany when he discovered how to help clients to develop self-management strategies that are grounded in their personal experiences and strengths.

"Problem-oriented and explanation-based theories focus on what is wrong with a person or what went wrong in the past. Solution-oriented therapy highlights what is right with the person, what has worked or been helpful in the past, and what the person can do right now to change things...

Solution-oriented therapy...encourages people to move out of analyzing the nature of the problem and how it arose and instead to begin to find solutions and take action to solve it."

For readers who are interested in the Solutions-Focused approach to dealing with their issues, then "Do One Thing Different" is a user-friendly, DIY guide to developing your own Solution Keys. The 10 Solution Keys are described with useful examples and suggestions for implementing them: they are

Sabotage Your Problem Behaviours (find what leads up to the problem behaviour and disrupt it)

Recognize What Works Well for You (what do you already know and do what works well for you)

Keep Your Past and Feelings in Perspective (they don't have to determine your present or your future)

Shift Your Attention (you choose where to focus your attention: what is worth your energy and time?)

Tell Your Success Story Backwards (in the future you are telling the story of your success and how you achieved it: so, what simple things do you need to do RIGHT NOW?)

Change Your Problem Biography into Solutions-Focused Auto-biography (acknowledge what is in your circle of influence, change that, and change yourself)

Explore the Wider Meanings of Your Life (spirituality and Spirituality)

If You Need to Complain, Be Clear About It (what is the outcome that you want, what needs to be different to achieve that?)

Rituals Exist for a reason (use them to mark the passing of old habits or to welcome new and happier ways of living)

Celebrate What Is Good in Your Life (routine can promote intimacy and connectedness as much as set-piece social occasions)

O'Hanlon writes with warmth and clarity: there are times when the tone is too self-consciously humorous and irreverent, and the text can occasionally border on the trite, however, it is a clear and easy to follow book. I recommend this book to

anyone who has caught themselves thinking, "I am so tired of this. I've thought this to death and I'm still no further forward";

anyone who is attacted to Solutions-Focused therapy, and senses that they DO know what to do, they just need a few hints and tips to get them started.

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5.0 out of 5 stars ARE YOU ASKING WHY WHEN YOU SHOULD BE ASKING HOW?
What a great book! As a success coach people come to me for help on how to improve their lives. Often I hear people asking WHY. Read more
Published on Mar 9 2004 by Zev Saftlas
5.0 out of 5 stars This book is great!
This book is very undervalued. If you had to pay 500 dollars for it, it would be worth it! very funny too!
Published on Feb 12 2003
5.0 out of 5 stars Just do it!
These tips really are "uncommonly sensible solutions." I found this book marvelous, as a person and as a personal life coach. Read more
Published on Aug 16 2002 by Susan Dunn
4.0 out of 5 stars Very Helpful, Simple, Effective
This book has been extremely helpful to me. It's clearly written, solution oriented, and practical. I have (at the risk of labeling myself) a somewhat obsessive compulsive... Read more
Published on Jun 26 2002 by Taylor Rand
5.0 out of 5 stars Do It Because It Works
I was delighted when a client I coach found this book and told me, "He says the same things you do. Read more
Published on May 12 2002 by Mary R. Bast
4.0 out of 5 stars "Do One Thing Different!"
This book may just as well have been a poster. It was an interesting, and well written book. Just as the word 'change' implies, we must do things differently than we did them... Read more
Published on May 15 2001 by David G. Stokes
5.0 out of 5 stars Creative flexibility in thinking and doing
I am glad this very practical and wise book is available so quickly in paperback, with a clearer new subtitle. Read more
Published on April 5 2001 by George Zee
4.0 out of 5 stars Do One Thing Different and Other Uncommonly Sensible . . .
I got this book and I thought "I don't know when I am going to read it". But I decided to do one thing different and put it in the bathroom and have read it just a page... Read more
Published on May 1 2000 by Colleen Davenport
5.0 out of 5 stars Psychological point of view...
Can a psychologist really help anyone? My professors all got very uncomfortable when I started asking this in my third year. Read more
Published on Mar 24 2000 by Chris McKinstry
5.0 out of 5 stars Very readable, Best Self-Improvement Book I've Read
Originally, I got this for my girlfriend as a present. We started going through it together and found tools to help our relationship in the first few paragraphs. Read more
Published on Jan 13 2000 by Ken Hart
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