17 of 18 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars
Are we spiritual beings?, Feb 20 2000
By Aaron Freeman - Published on Amazon.com
This review is from: Outside/Inside (Paperback)
There is a story in Gila Manolson's beautifully written little book about a six year old boy who bounds, naked into his living room after a bath. His father says to him, "That's a nice little bottom you have there but wouldn't it be better if you covered it up?" "If it's so nice why should I cover it?" asks the boy. "Because," says dad, "you also have a beautiful nishama (soul) and that's a lot easier to see if you're wearing some clothes."
Gila Manolson's words are a pleasure to read. She writes about observance from the perspective of the literate, humorous, modern woman that she is. As with her previous book, "The Magic Touch" Mandolson spares us the "whens" and "hows" of observance and goes directly to the "why." She is gentle and generous. And even to a committed rationalist like me she makes ankle length skirts and covered heads seem not just modest but borderline ... dare I say it... holy.
16 of 17 people found the following review helpful
4.0 out of 5 stars
Inner Worth vs Outward Appearance, Jan 30 2002
By A Customer - Published on Amazon.com
This review is from: Outside/Inside (Paperback)
I read this book to try to understand the "modesty" rules followed by Orthodox Jewish woman. I came to it as a modern woman and a feminist who was more than a little put-off by any type of dress code. After reading this book, I had to reevaluate the present societal value of appearances. I came away with a greater understanding of self-worth.
This book explains the observance of modesty in simple and clear language with many anecdotal accounts. More importantly, the author tackles the opposition of inner worth and outward show. Are you only what you appear or are you even more? And if you are more than why would you need to show off? I'm taking a second look at how I want to present myself and how much more my inner self matters.
1 of 1 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars
Original edition thoughtful and compelling, Feb 20 2012
By Heather Jacobson - Published on Amazon.com
This review is from: Outside/Inside (Paperback)
I read the 1997 edition of this book more then 10 years ago, and it was a transformative experience for me. Another reviewer of this edition called her "gentle and generous," and I think this is spot on. Coming at the topic from not an entirely sympathetic viewpoint, I was struck by her understanding in this book about the conflict that many modern young women feel about the concept of tzniut, and her ability to speak to the purpose and importance of tzniut in a way that resonates with that population. In the 1997 book, she was nonjudgmental, sympathetic, and understanding, and because of that her words rang true.
Twelve years later, my own daughter is approaching adolescence and beginning to question all of these rules, and I thought that a joint reading of Outside Inside was the perfect way to start a discussion of the meaning of tzniut, so I ordered the new (2005) edition of the book. Fortunately I preread it before showing it to my daughter. It is very, very similar to the original edition, but the entire tone is changed. There is a subtle shift that eliminates much of the "gentle and generous" aspect of the original. On reading it, I did not feel that I was reading a book by someone who understood why young people might have difficulties with some of the concepts of tzniut; it felt more like a lecture at times by someone who really could not understand why anyone would dress immodestly, and rather looked down on them for it. As I said, much of the material was the same, but the tone of it turned me off, even now when I am myself fully convinced of the importance of tzniut. So bottom line: buy the original!