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Relationships for Grown-Ups, Jan 31 2009
By Karen Kelsay "Eager Reader" - Published on Amazon.com
This review is from: Passionate Buddha (Paperback)
I read this book after the dissolution of a ten-year relationship. I realized that I had a part in the marriage's problems, and I was determined to do it better the next time around. The book was suggested to me by a therapist friend. I was skeptical at first, but the information it contained changed the way I experience and am present in relationship.
It is well-written in a down-to-earth style, full of very helpful information that, when APPLIED, makes a significant difference not only in a loving relationship, but in all relationships.
The author points out that our relationship difficulties aren't the other person's fault or inadequacies. Nor do we have problems because we're not worthy or unloveable. Additionally, we are not required to "take on" our partners' issues, but instead, we meet them with compassion and understanding. We generally operate from old wounds and beliefs that hamper our ability to be in the moment and trigger unconscious responses to some things our partner says or does. We lash out at our Beloved, instead of owning up to our own trauma. Sachs provides very usable suggestions to help the reader to be more present in the moment, and to allow peace and harmony to prevail in times of fear, anger, and anxiety.
The book also explains the importance of true intimacy in relationship. We cannot be whole, nor can we be the loving embrace in which our partners can be whole, unless we are willing to see and to be seen.
I recommend this book to anyone who wants to change the way he or she experiences and participates in relationship. Loving relationships don't just "happen" to us. We create them. The quality of our own self awareness and the willingness to give our partner a break make all the difference between a relationship that is harmonious, and one that doesn't serve anyone's highest and best purpose.
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Buddhism made simple, Sep 12 2005
By Earl S. Hinds - Published on Amazon.com
This review is from: Passionate Buddha (Paperback)
A good book for Western beginners who don't know much about Buddism and the teachings of the Buddha.