Do you ever ask yourself, "what does it take to heal"? To let go of the past? To focus on a better future despite divorce or betrayal or grief?
Questing Home the captivating memoir by Marilyn Barnicke Belleghem engages, entertains and empowers you with this book as you discover the author's answers to these questions.
If you've ever read a personal story and felt that, like many memoirs, it's too often focused on the individual
telling it (with you as an unimportant bystander), you'll experience a breath of fresh air here.
Something entirely new.
Why? Because unlike other memoirs, what's different and fascinating about Belleghem's piece is how the author portrays her extraordinary journey of awakening, of self discovery and of healing herself so that we the readers benefit. It's not a cathartic exercise for the writer.
All this in the midst of her job as a support professional responsible for managing other people's emotional and psychological health.
Questing Home takes you through child custody battles, divorce, gut-wrenching betrayal and a bullying legal system. Yet through it all, the author digs deep and finds a way to triumph.
Her captivating travel adventures leave you feeling hopeful and empowered despite the obstacles that would leave the best of us unable to move forward.
The rich, colorful memories the author shares are balanced with candid life lessons for anyone dealing with the pain of divorce, betrayal and breakup.
What I find so different in this work is the courage Belleghem has to rebuild her emotional
safe space - a real "home"- a place of love not fear despite the work it took to heal as a mother
growing up in a time when basically "good women" did what was best for their children and husbands
first - themselves a distant second.
When you read this book, not only might you understand yourself better, but also your
mother, grandmother, aunts, etc.
Belleghem really opens up here. I was struck by the part in the book where she reveals,
"As a girl I had to make myself available on my father's scheduled to get his attention. I went to the garage, to Sunday night church, to grandma's house and the garden to talk to him. I tried to please my dad by being cute, pleasant attentive, polite, well groomed, appreciative, a good housekeeper, a good mother....I often felt that no matter how hard I tried,I was never perfect enough."
Who hasn't felt the weight of trying to please one's parents or in particular the men in our lives?
Her writing style is immersive for the reader too. For example she says in one chapter:"I am conscious of how good it feels to laugh openly".
From Captiva Island to France to England to Canada, this book has vivid imagery and something for everyone.
If you're a pet lover, her stories and memories of `Pickle' her dog are endearing.
If you liked the book Eat, Pray, Love but wished for more depth, this memoir is for you.
It's not just about being a bon vivant in Italy or "discovering oneself" in India which is what you get in Elisabeth Gilbert's story (no disrespect to her work, but I feel the comparison is warranted).
Questing Home isn't just a search for "everything".
I found it to be an engaging and uplifting look at the irony of life. That is, how travel to distant lands often sparks the kind of personal growth and emotional healing that enables you to create the kind of safe, loving, accepting environment (Holy Grail) all human beings want at home.
Highly recommended. A great read for any season. Displays nicely on your kindle, mobile or the desktop app too! I checked it out on the Cloud app and it read just fine.
Pick up a copy for yourself. Also, how do we buy a kindle copy for someone else? That's a good idea...If you also love supporting independent authors and helping them get discovered you can't go wrong with this book. Great work like this doesn't come around often.