A Round-Heeled Woman: My Late-Life Adventures in Sex and Romance [Hardcover]

As to her search for a man with an ad placed in the New York Times Review of Books, I found her experiences fascinating and admire her initiative. Probably not so encouraging for seniors seeking partners since she goes from disaster to disaster with men her own age and older and does not achieve real satisfaction until she meets a lover half her age. Could be an inspiration for the middle aged with the realization that passion and lust still burn in an old body, so don't wait till 67 like this woman did to start exploring that side of life.

Bet if it had been a 67 year old man with a 33 year old woman, there wouldn't have been half as much hesitation and self doubt.

I have been re-reading A Round Heeled Woman and while I still think it is interesting and in many ways daring, I also believe that prospective readers shouldn't think of it as either titillating or sexually satisfying.

There is also the interesting idea of a woman who was sexually abused as a child, distant from her father, husband and alas son, seemed deep down to be crying out for revenge or her just deserts and instead of wanting sex and satisfying sex I wonder if she wasnt/isnt looking for good/great sex in all the wrong places.. and or ... simply wanting to be fully in control in some sloppy BDSM mode.

Nothing sadder to me than a woman who travels three thousand miles away to a strangers bed and when used as a trollop (a vulgar or disreputable woman; especially: one who engages in sex promiscuously)I even wonder if she ever thought about the Freudian slip when she used Anthony Trollope as her chosen author.

I know thankfully many women over the age of sixty who are sensual, sensual, sexually active and respected by the man/men in their lives. This is the one thing that seems to be missing in Ms. Juska's life.

I look at the men like Robert who allows her to stay in his small NYC apartment, who has some good sex with her, but who verbally cuts her down. Or Henry who is married with kids and has 'sex' in front of the TV so he can watch the game. What kind of a woman has sex with someone's husband without some honesty? I am not talking about open marriage or polyamory where ALL the partners are in on the game. And poor young Graham who may have liked having her as a sexual experience, but who doesn't want anyone knowing him in 'real life'. Men who are proud of whom they are seducing are proud to be seen with the woman amongst friends.

I guess I don't think Ms. Juskas likes men or maybe even herself, because someone who loves men (and I LOVE men) knows that men are feeling creatures who have the ability to feel used and pained and when a woman says "please be interested in me' the best men will try.

What she seemed to give the men in question is a quick boink and bye bye. She wants the reader to think that she wants more from a relationship but what she wants is what suits her and the mans feelings be damned.

And how could a man really, really trust and love her beyond a quick fling or affair on the side? If they were to allow her into their lives 100% would they be sure that she wouldn't do what she wanted when she wanted and basically screw them over?