on November 12, 2011
John Gottman, the scientist/therapist who made his name by claiming that he could predict with a good amount of certainty whether or not a couple would stay together or divorce has given us a book in keeping with his passion: quantifying and measuring elements of relationships in a way that lends support to his approach to therapy. This is not another marriage book suggesting going on more romantic dates or buying and lighting more sweet-smelling candles. It is a book that wants to help its readers understand the data underlying what helps couples build trust. Gottman explains what trust is, and goes on to suggest ways couples can build greater trust between them. He also writes in a way that benefits therapists, since he gives clinical examples from therapeutic discussions his staff has had with couples during their research. The book is written conversationally. It has the rare combination of being weighty and readable. Thanks, Dr. Gottman!
on February 26, 2014
You have heard the expression, "The straw that broke the camel's back." This is where a betrayed spouse can no longer bear the weight of broken trust in the marriage and where resiliency in the heart has been lost. In this easy-to-read and yet academic work, Gottman outlines what trust and betrayal look like in marital relationships and how to rebuild intimate trust and heal from betrayal. An excellent resource for those who work in marital therapy.
Louise (Bromley) Jewell, MAR, Registered Clinical Counsellor
Victoria, BC, Canada