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Secret Survivors: Uncovering Incest and Its Aftereffects in Women Hardcover – Feb 1990


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  • Hardcover: 348 pages
  • Publisher: John Wiley & Sons Inc (February 1990)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0471618438
  • ISBN-13: 978-0471618430
  • Product Dimensions: 3.6 x 2.5 x 5.7 cm
  • Shipping Weight: 590 g
  • Average Customer Review: 4.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (15 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Bestsellers Rank: #650,855 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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From Publishers Weekly

Addressed to victims of incest--here defined to include sexual abuse by friends or caregivers--this is a realistic and sensitive study. New York psychotherapist Blume speaks to victims who have blocked childhood memories of abuse, and sets out to help them cope with "Post-Incest Syndrome," which encompasses depression, guilt, substance addiction and sexual dysfunction. Survivors will also benefit from the author's perceptive advice on rebuilding self-esteem as a preparation for resuming friendships and sexual relations.
Copyright 1989 Reed Business Information, Inc.

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A therapist who works with incest victims, Blume offers help, advice, and support while exploring in depth the devastation wrought by this crime. She expands the definition of incest to include sexual abuse perpetrated by any caregiver (including teachers, relatives, or neighbors). Her book is written for those who know that they have been abused as well as those who have blocked such abuse from their memories. The "Incest Survivor Aftereffects Checklist" describes the many ways incest affects its victims. Using the concepts delineated in the checklist Blume explores how victims protect themselves against awareness that cannot be faced through aftereffects such as dreams, addictions, and interpersonal issues. She then offers numerous specific suggestions for recovery, including descriptions and evaluations of therapeutic interventions in the final chapter.
- Jodith Janes, Cleveland Clinic Foundation
Copyright 1990 Reed Business Information, Inc.

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3 of 3 people found the following review helpful By Javanne on May 3 2004
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This book specifically addresses the aftereffects of incest on the victim. I was molested from ages 8 to 16 by my father. I went on with my life for 30 years without telling anyone until my daughter became a teenager. Now I am in recovery and acknowledging the severe impact incest had on my life. I read other books, but this one opened my eyes to the reality of what drove my choices for so many years. I found myself frantically underlining and marking the book as thought after thought captured my experiences. I bought copies for family members to help them understand what happened and how insidious such a secret is when it remains hidden. If you want a book to help sort out all your feelings and provide understanding of where to go....THIS IS IT! It changed my feelings of helplessness to hopefulness.
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on Dec 22 2003
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This book is amazing. While I was afraid at first that a "checklist" of common after effects of incest might oversimplify the issues, I found instead that it was actually incredibly helpful in feeling less alone. Trust me, if you are a survivor of incest, you will see many things on this checklist that you identify with, even if you had never previously thought of them as after effects.I think this book would also be incredibly helpful for anyone who is trying to understand how a survivor feels and reacts to things. I have read nearly every book available for survivors and I can easily say this is the best one I've read. This is the only book I've found that I feel offers a complete description of the issues, and is the first book I give to any friends, partners, etc. that want to really understand. While I agree with the other reviewers that this book is very intense and might be too overwhelming as a survivor's first introduction to these issues, I highly recommend it as a resource for those who are ready for a more comprehensive read. Most of the other books I've bought are packed away and gathering dust - they had a few helpful parts but overall were just so-so. This one stays at the top of my bookshelf because it's always helpful at any stage of healing. I find an incredibly helfpul new insight every time I read it...what more could you want?
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I am a no nonsense person, as I believe most survivors turn out to be. Secret Survivors is a no nonsense book - to the point. This is not for the squeamish. Also, I don't believe this is the first book a survivor should read. I think it's better to walk in gently, even if you are in therapy. Books like "The Courage To Heal" are good for anyone no matter what the depth of the abuse may have been. Secret Survivors gets to the heart of every issue. You will see yourself, feel yourself, watch yourself, cry for yourself and finally relax knowing you're not crazy, this did happen, and you can have a life after your insanity. The journey through this book is magnificent. I have just recommended it to a therapist who is starting a practice to work with abuse victims. It would have been worth many more dollars to me just based on the questions and answers it provided. YOU ARE WORTH THE TIME IT TAKES TO READ THIS BOOK, but don't be surprised if you are a bit withdrawn as you make your way through it. It takes your breath away!!!!
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By Lynzee on May 2 2004
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Although this book is helpful and accurate on many levels, there are a few areas where the book is inaccurate. It states that alters form and die and new alters form. This is not accurate. Each alter is part of the personality and they do not die. They may go further back into the recesses of the mind but each alter is vital for healing and living. Each alter has part of a life - there is only one body but the psyche is broken in pieces. When healing takes place, each alters talents and abilities is vital to co-consciousness or integration. The other inaccuracy is the use of the term MPD. At the time of this book's publication the DSM IV was out and MPD was renamed Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID). This "disorder" is a coping mechanism and not a personality disorder.
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By Dorothyanne Brown TOP 500 REVIEWER on April 21 2009
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This book came along at the right time for me. I was at last starting to explore my personal history of childhood sexual abuse, and needed somewhere to look for guidance. This book, although academic in tone, was an easy read, and delved into many areas of question (why do I behave as I do? Why do I put up walls between me and men? Why have I avoided success?) Descriptions of the effects of sexual abuse on the victim helped identify patterns of behaviour I've used throughout my life.
Excellent read, excellent advice. Worth the price. You may want to have a friend nearby as you explore, though.
This book would also be wonderful for people working with survivors of abuse as the author offers several strategies in this area.
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I have been looking for this exact type of book for many, many years. Other books (which I bet I have read most of them)just did not really help me like this one. Secret Survivors explains every tiny aspect of how YOU were effected by this type of abuse. I could not believe that after so many years that I found this one. I can not stress enough to those of you who have been abused as a child by a close family member, how much this book has helped ME to understand ME. This is a perfect first book to read to help in the healing process of recovering from this type of abuse. One important fact while reading this book, I realized just how awful the abuse was (reality) - This was my breaking point of recovery. Thanks Sue Blume
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