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Self Matters: Creating Your Life from the Inside Out [Kindle Edition]

Phil McGraw
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The well-known "life strategist" and TV personality Dr. Phil begins this upbeat self-help book by recalling one of the most unpleasant phone calls he ever had to make. In 1989, ten years into a flourishing career, McGraw called his father to say that, despite the outward trappings of success, he was miserable. His new plan was to move away and start a new career and a new life. According to McGraw, many people are currently in a similar situation-trapped in unsatisfying lives or jobs that they loathe. Too many people, says McGraw, are "so busy being busy, that they have let the colors fade from their lives." They're worried about superficial matters rather than what's important: "I'll bet 90-plus percent of them spent months, or even years, planning their wedding and almost no time planning their marriage!" To change their lives, McGraw's readers must first complete two questionnaires he designed to assess their "authentic self" and their "congruency" (how someone's current life compares with a vision of an ideal life). With the scores from these tests, readers can then embark upon a specific plan for changing their lives-and for determining which external and internal forces they will, or won't, allow to control their futures. Readers familiar with McGraw's aggressive TV personality may be surprised by this book's thoughtful and serious tone. McGraw's notion of making change is not a simple one-it requires readers to examine every aspect of their daily lives-and it's likely that some readers may not be able to make all the changes he advocates. But his book offers a thorough, realistic resource for those who are committed to turning their lives around to get what they really want and need.
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Dr Phil McGraw, known as 'Dr Tell-It-Like-It-Is' on Oprah Winfrey's Change Your Life show discusses self-esteem with a whole new positive approach, proposing a plan to become your best self rather than using low self esteem as a crutch. It is time to say goodbye to the nagging fears that keep so many of us from fulfilling our potential and see how endless our possibilities are.

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  • Format: Kindle Edition
  • File Size: 2558 KB
  • Print Length: 336 pages
  • Page Numbers Source ISBN: 074322423X
  • Publisher: Free Press (Nov. 14 2001)
  • Sold by: Simon & Schuster Canada, Inc.
  • Language: English
  • ASIN: B000FC0U08
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  • Average Customer Review: 3.9 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (164 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Bestsellers Rank: #68,334 Paid in Kindle Store (See Top 100 Paid in Kindle Store)
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3 of 3 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Self Matters by Dr. McGraw April 27 2004
Dr.McGraw's work covers the dynamics of personal planning and
knowing oneself. He explains why it is crucial to identify life's goals and the pursuit of them.
His chapter on the authentic self explains the importance
of understanding motivations and reactions to external
events-including the perceived expectations of others.
He quotes Emerson:
"What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us."
This statement attests to the importance of knowing the inner
self and having the all-important internal dialogue frequently.
A chapter on "defining moments" forces us to examine the bottom
line effects of these events on our own concept of "the self".
A part of the book reviews alternatives in terms of choices
presented, choices made, alternatives given up, the concept
of self before and after making the choice, the long term
residual effect of the choice, the distortion of the choice
(if any) on your self image and your reaction to the critical
The book forces us to take an internal inventory
of many critical factors including appearance, work,
outlook, competence, skills, abilities and worth. The five-step
action plan provides a superstructure so that we can assess our abilities, evaluate
learning history/experience, examine external factors,
internal dialogue and the resolution of the authentic self.
Finally, the author deals with putting a plan of action to work
and dealing with routine problem areas/challenges in executing
the plan. Too often, we tend to
avoid taking decisive action because of "analysis paralysis".
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3 of 3 people found the following review helpful
4.0 out of 5 stars Very insightful book Feb. 10 2004
By A Customer
Dr. Phil really gets his readers to think hard about where they're coming from. This book helps you to get at the stuff from your past you're still carrying around with you that's like a brick-loaded backpack. This book helped me to recognize an issue I had so long since buried, I was in complete denial that it was still bothering me ten years later! But, wow, it was powerful to acknowledge it, face it, deal with it properly, and then finally forgive the person who hurt me. I rate this book with only four stars because I feel that, although understanding your past and how you have become who you are is essential to living authentically, that is only half the battle. His plans of action are not truly helpful if you want to overcome your fears and the hurdles that get in the way of living true to yourself. You need so much more than this book can offer, but to heal your past, read this book and hire a good therapist, if you can find one. (Maybe even one who is cool with Dr. Phil and not opposed to him as so many therapists tend to be.)
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3 of 3 people found the following review helpful
4.0 out of 5 stars Interesting Approach to Life Choices Jan. 18 2004
This book has an interesting approach.
The basic idea is that people get caught up in an unhappy rut and are unable or unwilling to pull themselves out of this situation or never take the time to take stock and have a realistic view of themselves, and their life, their goals, and where they are going. That is, one asks the questions such as - am I doing and acting in a way that the first priority items are being accomplished ? Or am I just being carried along by events and am content with that outcome? The book is broken into two general themes.
(1) The approach taken in the book is to first create a benchmark or make a comparison through a short question and answer session so that you can get an idea of what you like and do not like, where you have gone wrong in your life, not in general terms but specific things or issues. Are you on track? Are you doing what you had set out to do 5 or 10 years ago? Are you happy and fulfilled, or are you depressed and agitated and unhappy? Does your marriage need fixing? Should you change jobs, etc.?
(2) Then having that clearly identified and defined the problems that you must deal with, the second part of the book is to address how you are going to solve those problems. Along the way he provides positive mental reinforcement.
It is not necessary to take the "test" of part one and do everything that he suggests. But having said that this is a surprisingly good and thoughtful book. Everyone can learn something.
Recommend. Four stars.
Jack in Toronto
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2 of 2 people found the following review helpful
2.0 out of 5 stars Lots of sizzle, very little substance Dec 23 2002
Format:Audio CD
I got through about 3 of the 5 CD's in this audiobook, before giving up. Dr. Phil has an entertaining and charismatic style of reading his own material, so I'd recommend the audiobook over the print version. Unfortunately he doesn't say very much that's useful. His delivery makes you think an important point is just about to be made, but it never seems to come. After listening to the first 30 minutes of him describe what he was about to talk about, I found myself frustratingly muttering, "Get to the point already!"
The main theme seems to be that we need to unearth and live our "true selves" rather than what those around us would like us to be. The author talks a lot about "self esteem" and makes some valuable points. But if you're interested in these topics, you'll learn more elsewhere. For example, you'll get far more valuable insights from listenting to Dr. Nathaniel Branden in just 10 minutes than you will from hearing Dr. Phil babble on for hours.
Those who are big fans of Dr. Phil's plain-talkin' style will probably enjoy going along for the ride in order to get the few pearls of wisdom that he has. But if you're looking for fresh insight, motivation or valuable advice, don't waste your time or money.
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4.0 out of 5 stars Dr. Phil keeps it real
This product is actually a great read for anyone who is perhaps not sure about what they want to do with their lives. Read more
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5.0 out of 5 stars Lost And Found
Dr. Phil is very tough, but he helped me remember who I was when I was my 'Authentic Self'. For that alone, the book was worth reading. I highly recommend this book. Read more
Published on July 8 2004
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Published on June 26 2004 by A. M. Rosencrants
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Dr. Phil has to be the most annoying celebrity guru of the many. Millions of weak willed American housewives watch his show daily and are awestruck by his mix of basic common... Read more
Published on June 26 2004 by A. M. Rosencrants
5.0 out of 5 stars One of the books that will change your life!
This is one of the books that changed my life. Like everyone, I first heard about Dr. Phil on TV and found that he had some interesting things to say. Read more
Published on May 27 2004
5.0 out of 5 stars life from the inside
Dr. Phil im sure you hear this alot but here goes i was on pain medication for 6yrs from oxycontin to fentynol as of 1month ago i currently stopped all drugs not just for me but... Read more
Published on May 17 2004 by karen marnati
5.0 out of 5 stars thank you doctor
This book should be on everyone over-forty's reading list. It's a quick read and written in understandable language. Read more
Published on Feb. 24 2004
4.0 out of 5 stars Gabby but Grounded
The book does, indeed, "sound" exactly the way that Dr. Phil talks. It's gabby and long-winded in places.
However... Read more
Published on Dec 2 2003 by Kimi
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Published on Nov. 16 2003 by Alicia Walker
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Published on Oct. 14 2003
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