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With a title like this, it's no surprise that authors Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish had a monster bestseller on their hands when the book first appeared in 1988. From the subsequent deluge of readers' stories, questions, and issues, they have created nearly 50 pages of new material for this, the 10th anniversary edition. The central message remains the same, and sounds almost too simple: avoid comparisons. But parents know that's easier said than done. The value of Faber and Mazlish's discussions is precisely that they talk you through umpteen different situations and outcomes to help you teach your brawling offspring a new set of responses. The highly informative text is punctuated with helpful summary/reminder boxes and cartoons illustrating key points. It's a must-read for parents with (or planning on) multiple children. But parents of young children who get along fine (so far) should read it too--as the authors make very clear, rivalry is inevitable. The only question is how to manage the rivalry with intelligence and compassion, and on that subject they offer a wealth of good advice. --Richard Farr --This text refers to the Paperback edition.
Disciples of the late Haim Ginott, a child psychologist, Faber and Mazlish have conducted workshops on family relationships and co-authored Liberated Parents, Liberated Children (Avon, 1975) and How To Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk (Rawson Wade, 1980). The present book states that sibling rivalry stems from jealousy similar to that a spouse might feel if asked to welcome another husband or wife into the household. It outlines ways to defuse such explosive situations as comparing, assigning roles, or taking sides and suggests specific remedies to avoid conflict. Cartoon-like illustrations and "quick reminders" help reinforce new behavior. A welcome assist over the rough times that too often leave lifetime scars. Suzanne Druehl, Little Rock Public Library, Ark.
Copyright 1987 Reed Business Information, Inc. --This text refers to the Hardcover edition.
I have used many of the strategies on my boys and they really work. They haven't played this well together ever. Read morePublished 2 months ago by Sandi Mae O'Brien
An excellent book - not a magic bullet, but full of helpful ideas on how to handle fighting between siblings!Published 3 months ago by ReadingAway
I don’t have multiple children (yet) but I bought this book because I wanted to understand how to prevent sibling rivalry. Read morePublished 6 months ago by Catherine
I will be re-reading this book many times over the next decade or so (my kids are currently 1 and 3, so a bit young for this, but it'll be good to start out practicing these... Read morePublished 12 months ago by Amy Pullen
This one talks about many issues such as fighting, comparing, role prescribing etc. The author gives great examples from family situations. Read morePublished 20 months ago by Anna
When I was pregnant with my second child, I was very worried about this subject, because I have a horrible relationship with my sister, who constantly competes with me, even today. Read morePublished on Aug. 9 2013 by Mama Cat
I read this book around 20 yrs ago when I had 3 young kids. I used what I learned on my children & it really works. Read morePublished on May 24 2013 by Tes
I bought this for a friend who's children fight constantly and it's a huge worry. She is finding it very helpful. Thank you, excellent service and product.Published on Feb. 3 2013 by Adelaide Campbell