Slouching Toward Adulthood: Observations from the Not-So-Empty Nest Hardcover – Jun 14 2012
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“Excellent…. At last, a serious, well-researched book about raising children which also includes that crucial characteristic every parent needs—a sense of humor.” —Deirdre Donahue, USA Today
“An eye-opener…. Koslow writes wittily about the infantilization of American youth as increasing numbers treat getting a job and moving out as just an option.” —People
“Smart, with plenty of insights and a lively prose style that should keep readers, especially the book's target audience of parents wondering why their grown-up kids are back living in their basements, engaged.” —Booklist
“Koslow casts a keen eye on the 'not-so-empty-nest' phenomenon that besets today's baby boomer parents . . . and provides plenty of food for thought for parents and adultescents who want to understand each other and perhaps change things for the better.” —Publishers Weekly
“This book is hilarious! I burst out laughing on page one, and it just got funnier and funnier. But Slouching Toward Adulthood is also hard-hitting and painfully insightful—I found myself wincing with recognition. Backed by the latest research, Sally Koslow's thought-provoking new book should be required reading for today's parents and young adults.” —Amy Chua, professor of law at Yale University and author of Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother
“Full of research, insight, and hilarious examples of what life is like for the long-suffering parents of 'adultescents,' Slouching Toward Adulthood is one of those invaluable books that identifies and illuminates a new phenomenon in our culture.” —Gretchen Rubin, author of The Happiness Project
“Sally Koslow has really hit on something with her incisive Slouching Toward Adulthood. Memorable books that struck a chord about the path of life or the dissonance between parent and child—Gail Sheehy's Passages, Nancy Friday's My Mother/My Self—all had a kind of kitchen-table humanity and an ability to limn the unnamed conflicts of a particular moment. Beneath its jaunty two-drinks-with-your-coolest-friend ebullience, this book, as of its moment as those books were of theirs, has that resonance, too.” —Sheila Weller, author of Girls Like Us
“Let go, Sally Koslow exhorts indulgent parents who lovingly enable their adultescents to postpone the rigors and responsibilities of being a grown-up. Koslow's wit and wisdom wake us up to the hidden costs of hanging on too long to our kids, to our youth, and to the past. A great read!” —Maggie Jackson, author of Distracted
“In her trenchant book on twenty-first-century life with our adult children, Sally Koslow offers us wit, awareness, and, most important, a sense that we are not alone. From the first pages, the reader feels right at home, comforted by Koslow's confessions, research, and wisdom.” —Susan Shapiro Barash, author of You’re Grounded Forever . . . But First Let’s Go Shopping
“Sally Koslow has written a funny, shrewd, and true account of a problem the boomer generation didn't know it had created: the consequences of helicopter parenting. We've pampered our kids so much they don't want to grow up. Who can blame them? Slouching Toward Adulthood is the book that explains why 'the guest bedroom' is a thing of the past.” —James Atlas, author of My Life in the Middle Ages
About the Author
Sally Koslow is a journalist, and an author, and the former editor in chief of both McCall’s and Lifetime. She has written for O, The Oprah Magazine; More; Real Simple; Ladies Home Journal; Good Housekeeping; Reader’s Digest; and Huffington Post. She lives in New York City with her husband; her kids have finally moved out.See all Product Description
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Renting a UHaul to help move your kid, say, once a year. If UHauls are not feasible, than hopping on a plane & criss-crossing the country to help your child, likely one with an advanced degree, set up a new apartment. Housing your kids at home. Vacationing in very nice places with your adult children, on your dime. Welcoming non-married boyfriend and girlfriend-in-laws into your family, even including them in the aforementioned vacation. These are all becoming norms.
The biggest surprises from STA are the massive numbers of parents and children experiencing this extended mutual dependence, middle class as well as more affluent, in all regions of the country. And also the cocktail scene. I had no idea about it, and how big a part of 18-35's social life revolves around liquor.
Koslow is endearingly non-judgmental, since she shares these behaviors with the rest of us. Your daughter is traveling around the world working at yoga retreats, after finishing an Ivy League degree? Great! Your son is living at home and you are waiting on him hand and foot? So are a lot of other moms. Your child quit a job he didn't like with out another one lined up? Welcome to the club!
I agree with her conclusions, but will not give them away.
This is not only a great book for baby boomer parents, but a wonderful text for those older than that - it really explains, in extremely fun-to-read prose, what the hell is going on in our country!
After reading this book I was spouting anecdotes and statistics for weeks. Don't be surprised if this book really changes the way you look at the world.
A great read for parents and young adults, too.
Culminating a number in depth interviews with both parents and offspring, Koslow interjects her brand of supposed humor to all aspects of this so called phenomenon of 28 being the new 19. In the end, she points out that adulescents are not entirely to blame for their position. It is not as simple as that worn out phrase "you know kids today". A number of crucial variables have resulted in the new normal of a 30 year old still living at home, not planning on leaving anytime soon. These factors include the tanking economy, graduating four or five years ago with a degree that is now considered obsolete, the inability to break into a career, one that actually affords independence, the advancement of technology and its social ramifications, and Boomer parents who have been unable or unwilling to cut the cord. Koslow's solution to the latter, a rallying cry to Boomers "If you step back, they'll be able to step forward", at this stage, easier said than done, I think.
Koslow appears to be trying much too hard to be funny and a result, isn't at all. She seems to write the way she thinks, not always a good thing. Not every author translates well that way and she is no exception. Her favorite word which appears quite a few times over in the book is "quotidian", which perhaps in line with its meaning is to her just a simple, everyday word to be thrown around as easily as the words "the" or "but". She was smart to put the word "observations" in the title because if you are looking for actual solutions to similar issues, you won't find them here. I was also dismayed that she offered barely a mention of older Generation Xers, those adults younger than Boomers born between 1965 and 1975 who are experiencing much of the same obstacles cited for adulescents such as the inability to find jobs, and age discrimination but with far more dire consequences because they are also shouldering the burden of raising children, paying mortgages, and caring for elderly parents. They are the real heroes because they are suffering the effects of age and an overly competitive and lacking job market often with no safety net intact.
In the end, Koslow provides us with an interesting look at today's culture, the result of a particular brand of parenting, and the possibility of greater clarity into what we need to change moving forward.