2.0 out of 5 stars
Boys like to play ... duh, Aug 18 2011
By Dr. K. E. Patrick - Published on Amazon.com
This review is from: Slugs and Snails and Puppy Dogs' Tails: Helping Boys Connect with God (Paperback)
I bought this book to help me with my sons as well as with a Sunday school group I teach that's primarily 5th and 6th grade boys. However, I didn't really find anything very helpful in it because the author seems to have based her book on a sample of boys from a Holiday Club/Vacation Bible School and used their responses to cobble together some general observations about boys and spirituality.
For example, she would put large pieces of paper up on the wall and let the boys write their responses to different questions like "how do you best hear from God" or similar. The boys would write things like "listening to someone telling a Bible story" or "thinking about God on my own", and from these, she drew her conclusions.
I seem to recall one boy who kept writing "while playing computer games" for every answer, so I don't think the undertaking was particularly scientific.
I also felt it sorely lacked three things:
1) differentiating between chronological ages of boys. In other words, I was looking for guidance for leading boys of upper elementary age, but I found her suggesting things that were way too baby-ish. It makes me think her sample was made up of younger boys, and so of limited value.
2) including any discussion of stages of faith development in children. It seems patently obvious to me that transitions in spirituality will play a huge part in how one leads a child to connect with God, boy or girl.
3) considering boys in their teens.
The whole thing actually felt to me like the tail wagging the dog. Instead of looking at the research about boys and spirituality, she basically interviewed boys and drew conclusions from what they said, fitting some research into it as an after thought.
Maybe that's not how things actually happened, but that's the way the book feels.
I think if people want to know how to help boys connect with God, they may be better served by looking at the recent spate of books about teaching boys in school (to see how boys learn best), seeking out the books about children's spirituality, and modeling the ways that adults connect with God. This book does none of this.