"This fascinating and provocative book reflects a wide and deep understanding of systems ideas. Williamson asks the question: How does one leave home emotionally and yet remain lovingly connected with one's family of origin?' Drawing from many different conceptual frameworks, Williamson revises Bowen's concept of differentiation as the life cycle stage of developing 'personal authority'--a concept that combines differentiation and intimacy. His is a thought-provoking and controversial view, well presented--an unabashedly how-to book, full of humor and clinical nuggets as well as profound ideas about how mid-life adults can make a political shift in their family relationships, through which they come to relate to their 'former parents' as peers."--Monica McGoldrick, M.S.W.
"In this illuminating and intriguing book, Williamson articulates his well delineated ideas on how to intervene to promote the co-evolution of self-differentiation from the family of origin with the establishment of closeness as an adult within the family system. His comprehensive model, derived from long years of clinical and supervisory experiences and analytic reflections on these experiences, is presented in a compelling, highly readable fashion. Important reading for anyone interested in intimate and dynamically evolving personal relationships.' --Florence Kaslow, Ph.D.
"An excellent and thoughtful text--clearly written. A good tool for students' reflection on their family of origin." --Joseph Horak, Wayne State University (Grand Rapids Satellite), Graduate School of Social Work, Grand Rapids, Michigan
"Any person who has ever seen or heard Don Williamson speak knows he is a master at melding his personal life with his theoretical and therapeutic work. In The Intimacy Paradox, Williamson has succeeded in writing what he does so well in his presentations. This book is the authoritative work on the concept of personal authority in the family system."--Journal of Marital and Family Therapy
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"An interesting, theoretically sophisticated, and useful guide."--AFTA Newsletter
"Williamson is utterly persuasive when making the case that achieving wholeness of the self cannot be best built on separation of that self from the parents of origin....He makes his points in a context of respect for the client, the client's spouse, and the client's parents—albeit a context that is open to play and humor and not taking itself too seriously. Williamson not too seriously does very serious work."--Contemporary Psychology
About the Author
Donald S. Williamson, Ph.D., Baylor College of Medicine