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If The Man You Love Was Abused: A Couple's Guide to Healing Paperback – Jan 19 2007

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  • Paperback: 256 pages
  • Publisher: Adams Media (Jan. 19 2007)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 159337643X
  • ISBN-13: 978-1593376437
  • Product Dimensions: 14 x 1.7 x 21.4 cm
  • Shipping Weight: 435 g
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  • Amazon Bestsellers Rank: #687,997 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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About the Author

Marie H. Browne, R.N. Ph.D (Westfield, NJ) a licensed marriage and family therapist and professor of psychiatric nursing for thirty-four years, maintains a thriving private practice providing therapy for individuals, couples and families. Her specialities include treating adolescent and adult victims of abuse, as well as their families.

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Amazon.com: HASH(0x9ee4006c) out of 5 stars 16 reviews
41 of 43 people found the following review helpful
HASH(0x9e095c54) out of 5 stars If the Man You Love was Abused Jan. 10 2009
By DPJB - Published on Amazon.com
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At the point i ordered this book, i was desparate to find understanding in my relationship. My husband was sexually molested repeatedly as a child. This book was absolutely astounding to me. It helped me to understand why he was lashing out at me, why he was angry with his surroundings. He has begun to deal with the abuse, and the dissociative personality disorder that is reference in the book...he has shown signs of this. You may not even know that your partner is doing this behavior though,until you better understand what the book says. As his partner, i was not sure what to do....should i leave him, should i stay in this craziness...and when you are a partner---it feels crazy and your husband begins to work through all these feelings. The book continues to show me that i am not alone, and that my marriage fits the text book, as far as marriages with a person that has been abused. it focuses on all abuses, but highlights sexual abuse victims. If you are feeling alone, and abandoned, and not sure if you have a marriage or not, then you need this book. I cannot tell you how much it has helped me....God---thanks! I have highlighted and marked pages and underlined...my book is a mess with all my notes...but it has become my solace. When i feel confused with the things that my husband is feeling or saying, then i run to the book and reread things that coincide with that days emotions. i didn't read it straight through...i skipped all over the book, but i have read it all. i keep rereading it. We have been married for many years and have several children. He just says he is not happy, doesn't want to be married any more, exhibits anger toward me, seems to not be able to see my hurting, complains that i controlled him all these years, (which is totally explained in the book)...i know that he needs to confront his past, but i know i need to change too. i want to go to counseling, but he has refused, but now he thinks he might do it....he goes back and forth on this topic, and i know he is just so deeply confused. It discussed the need for medication...but my husband has resisted it totally, and i pray to GOD that one day i can help him. i really don't know where my life will take me, but without this book, i could not have moved through the stages of being a partner of someone who has been abused. At first i was clinging to him, begging him, but his book helped me to see that i must stop clinging to him...because it forces him to see that running away is the only choice he has. it gave me communciation tools to use when i talk to him. It told me how to set boundaries on his anger towards me...it gave me instructions about how to find support in others, since he cannot support me during this time in his healing. May God bless you if you are reading this, because He is the only way you will make it through this trial. When i read this book, i crawl into God's lap, and let him hold me through this pain. May you let God do the same as you read this book.
Blessings and peace.
25 of 25 people found the following review helpful
HASH(0x9fe5e09c) out of 5 stars A job well done... March 21 2007
By nyc girl - Published on Amazon.com
Format: Paperback
I have just finished reading this book after hearing the author's on a talk show. I never understood what my husband was going through after having been abused as a boy.What I found most helpful was that though the authors are a Ph.D. and a lawyer, I had no trouble understanding the concepts. In fact, I suspect my husband might have a borderline personality disorder, as I understand it from the first part of the book. Anyway, after reading the book, cover to cover, I have been able to tell my husband that I am here for him, that I will help him, and that there is hope. I told him about the other famous abuse victims in the book, and he found it reassuring. He has agreed to see a counselor to address his rage and fears of abandonment and emptiness. I'm hopeful that with help, he will be able to understand that what was done to him does not have to ruin, his life, or our life together.
15 of 16 people found the following review helpful
HASH(0x9fe5e0f0) out of 5 stars exceptionally inspiring March 22 2007
By Molly Jane - Published on Amazon.com
Format: Paperback
The authors of this book made me aware of how many types of abuse my brothers endured during childhood.They helped explain to me the potential consequences of my brothers' abuse and most importantly,helped give me insight on how to help us mend with many suggestions on understanding the consequences of abuse . The clinical studies mentioned in the book were most helpful as well.

Although I am not a PHD., I have passed this wonderful book on to those I do know. Thank you Dr. Browne and Marlene! Molly Jane
3 of 3 people found the following review helpful
HASH(0x9fe5e438) out of 5 stars Helpful book from Amazon May 24 2012
By vicsgirl - Published on Amazon.com
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Of all the books I have bought on this subject, and there have been several, I thought this one was overall the most helpful. It helped me understand why my husband acts the way he does, and helped me get a glimpse into what he is feeling. Going through this with someone you love is very painful and difficult, as they say hurtful things and do things to express rage that is not really directed at their partner, but they have to get it out. This book helped me understand that.
6 of 7 people found the following review helpful
HASH(0x9fe5e684) out of 5 stars Wonderful resource for partners Oct. 24 2009
By K. Springer - Published on Amazon.com
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All I can do is express gratitude to the authors for writing this book. Thank you.