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The Perfect Sister: What Draws Us Together, What Drives Us Apart [Paperback]

Marcia Millman
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March 24 2005
Sisterhood is one of the most complicated relationships a woman can have. Marcia Millman spent hundreds of hours interviewing sisters to examine how these complex bonds are formed and how they keep changing throughout life.

Millman talked to sisters who were always close and sisters who became friends later; she talked to sisters who shared their childhoods but developed painful rifts as adults. She found that even those who are at odds often feel deeply attached-perhaps because the sister bond is inseparable from a woman's connection to her mother. Ultimately, Millman shows that sisters have the power to transform their relationships, as long as they relate to the sister in the present, and not just to the sister of the past.

In The Perfect Sister we learn about our sisters, our families, and ourselves as the book offers us the key to understanding, appreciating, and enriching the lifelong and incomparable bond of sisterhood.

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In this gentle and engaging study, social psychologist Millman explores adult sisterhood's difficulties and joys. She proposes that the words "what drives us apart" in the book's subtitle refer to "failing to see the person who is actually there," relating to an "Imagined Sister... the sister we wish for." "What draws us together" pertains to acknowledging "our Real Sister," who "might be a wonderful person or a terrible one." Millman divides her book into three sections: sisters who nurture each other, sisters who have troubled relationships and sisters who have found a way to heal their difficult relationships late in life. She interviewed women from various locations and socio-economic classes, and, when possible, several sisters from one family, revealing how sisters who grew up together may have completely different perceptions of their family. Although Millman's premise is simple, her conclusions are nuanced and unique to each family. She intimately shares her musings, her style more like a friendly conversation than a sociological study. Women trying to resolve problems with their sisters will glean insights from this study, and, as sisterly relations turn out inevitably to be entwined with mothers, fathers, brothers, aunts and grandparents, the book will also interest women who are trying to understand and come to terms with their entire families, not just sisters. Emphasizing the unique value of sisterly love, Millman warmly encourages both her subjects and readers who may have family difficulties to "make amends."
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"Cultivates a deeper understanding and appreciation of the unique bond of sisterhood."

"Combining research and readability, THE PERFECT SISTER will help countless siblings understand and improve their relationships."

Marcia Millman is one of our most talented observers of intimate life. Sisters will and should devour this book

"Absolutely riveting and fascinating."

PRAISE FOR THE PERFECT SISTER
"Absolutely riveting and fascinating." - CAROLYN SEE, THE WASHINGTON POST


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5.0 out of 5 stars Considers what makes adult sisters close July 16 2004
Format:Hardcover
Sisters are a complicated relationship: though they may grow up together, their personalities and perspectives may be totally different. Author Marcia Millman spent hundreds of hours interviewing sisters to examine how their bonds were formed and how they changed throughout life: Perfect Sister considers what makes adult sisters close - or not - and how sister sibling bonds and rifts form.
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4.0 out of 5 stars The Complex Relationships of Sisters Dec 11 2007
By Geneva Lewis - Published on Amazon.com
Format:Hardcover
Marcia Millman tackles a emotionally fraught bond- that of sisters. I found her approach intriguing-using oral history, interviewing the sisters separately. The wake-up call for me was seeing how differently the sisters viewed their roles, family, relationships, and even basic details of their family history. This really struck a nerve in my own sister relationship, which I value greatly but has not been without challenges. Her advice to accept your sister's history and to move on from there was valuable. There is no need to set ledgers straight; accept her right to have a different perspective. After reading so many stories, the thread came across- the sister relationship is important in how we view ourselves and our family. It's not just about jealousy and sibling rivalry-at some time it may be one of your only connections to your family, so it's important to study and pay attention to this often-dismissed relationship. Marcia Millman has let her subjects speak, and provided important insight without being overbearing.
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3.0 out of 5 stars We All Wish.... April 10 2006
By Cheryl Dellasega - Published on Amazon.com
Format:Hardcover
Millman doesn't believe "the perfect sister" exists, although she does describe a few who come very close. I found this book a curious mix of discussions about types of sisters (The Outsider Sister, The Wishful Sister)and lengthy biographies of families, rather than siblings. I wanted to read more about the sisters and less about the mothers and fathers who created them because, as the author admits, "sisters play a huge role in our childhood and identities."
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5.0 out of 5 stars The Perfect Sister - also great mothers / daughter insights Dec 12 2008
By Christine Grohs - Published on Amazon.com
Format:Paperback
I was given this book by my sister (both of us in our fifties and "close"). It had great insights / suggestions to assure a gret relationship such as to recongize that I am NOT my sister and had very different experiences and feelings about growing up in the same family. I bought a copy for each of my aduly daughters who each have two daughters - so they could be aware of how their mothering impacts the curent and future relationship of thier girls.
5.0 out of 5 stars Experiences such as these can really bring out the best or worst in how we relate to each other Sept. 14 2014
By Em - Published on Amazon.com
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I have sisters and I related to any of the stories here. And the perspective the author has becomes more relevant to me as we get older and our family has gone through many phases of experience, such as the death of a parent. Experiences such as these can really bring out the best or worst in how we relate to each other.
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5.0 out of 5 stars Considers what makes adult sisters close July 16 2004
By Midwest Book Review - Published on Amazon.com
Format:Hardcover
Sisters are a complicated relationship: though they may grow up together, their personalities and perspectives may be totally different. Author Marcia Millman spent hundreds of hours interviewing sisters to examine how their bonds were formed and how they changed throughout life: Perfect Sister considers what makes adult sisters close - or not - and how sister sibling bonds and rifts form.
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