The Power of Nice: How to Conquer the Business World With Kindness Hardcover – Sep 19 2006
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From Publishers Weekly
With a foreword by Jay Leno, how could this not be a nice book? Coauthors Thaler and Koval submit their own success in the cutthroat world of advertising as evidence that nice girls can finish first while taking home more than a dozen Clio awards along the way. Following up their bestselling look at creating compelling marketing strategies—Bang!—they turn most truisms about business inside out, arguing that good deeds are returned, not punished. Warning against a me vs. you mentality, they even suggest helping opponents as a good way to boost a career. Game face on? Thaler and Koval say, take it off. Being genuine, they explain, produces much better results. From crediting their friendly building security guard for helping them sign new clients to recommending chocolate as an accompaniment to presentation materials and invoices, they build their case for using little gestures to get you what you want. Though a lively and pleasant read, this is not a cutesy little bonbon of a book. Well thought-out and crisply presented, it offers key principles, case studies and exercises to help make niceness habitual. Some exercises, like turning personal disappointment into positive energy, are even quite therapeutic. (Sept.)
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“This little book will show you why women should run most corporations in America, and maybe the entire country. Reading Nice will improve just about everything in your life, and that’s a promise.”
—James Patterson, bestselling author, former CEO of J. Walter Thompson North America
“The Power of Nice is a wonder drug! It could literally save your career and your life…. And let me suggest a first act of kindness: buy some extra copies for your enemies. I’ll bet they need The Power of Nice more than you do.”
—Keith Ferrazzi, author of Never Eat Alone, the bestselling book on building relationships for success
“Leo Durocher was wrong! Linda Kaplan Thaler and Robin Koval’s The Power of Nice is the antidote to our increasingly mean-spirited culture. I’m going to send a copy to every political campaign consultant I know.”
“In negotiation, the cheapest concession you can make is to be nice. And the returns can be high, as Linda Kaplan Thaler and Robin Koval show in this delightfully readable primer packed with practical advice and entertaining stories. I recommend it with pleasure!”
—William Ury, co-author of Getting to Yes and author of The Power of a Positive No (2007).
“For my money, I would always rather make a deal with people I like who treat me well. If you want to discover the surprising power of nice, read this book. Memorize it. Use it. You’ll be glad you did.”
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Thaler and Koval identify and then discuss "The Six Power of Nice Principles" and devote a separate chapter to each. It is important to note that these principles do not involve self-serving strategies and tactics. They comprise the foundation of a mindset that must be authentic, consistent, and cohesive as well as pragmatic. It is no coincidence that many (if not most) of the companies annually ranked among the most highly-admired by Fortune magazine are also ranked among those that are the best to work for and the most profitable. Southwest Airlines, for example, attracts far more job applications than there are positions available and many of the applicants work for other airlines. Throughout 30 years of frequent experience with Southwest, not once have I encountered an employee (either in the air or on the ground) who was not nice.Read more ›
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A lot of the advice here is of the "kindergarten" variety but is still invaluable. Tell the truth. Give other people the credit that is due them. Put yourself in the other person's place.
Actually, only a small portion of the advice here would strictly fall in the category of being "nice" just for the sake of being nice and doing the right thing just because it's right. Some examples: It is better not to fire people via e-mail. One should respect all human beings, whether they are security guards, CEOs, or panhandlers. That's called being "nice," or what Yiddish speakers used to say was simply being a "mensch."
Other pieces of advice here are more clearly strategic. Certainly it pays to cultivate friends and contacts: we hear once again the story about Bill Clinton shaking everyone's hand on the ship on the way to his Rhodes Scholarship at Oxford, telling them he hoped to be president of the United States some day. As many other business and pop-psychology writers have noted, listening is generally far preferable to speaking at one-on-one business meetings because the other person responds well to a meeting at which he is talking. Stay positive in a political or other campaign if you can; no one really likes hearing negative pitches all the time.
With that caveat -- that some of the advice is good but standard business-book thinking -- I can give this book four stars. It's really a nice book.
As the two successful advertising business women claim, to be `nice' is much more powerful than the age-old capitalist strategies in business: intimidation, arrogance, intrigue and a conscience capability to `make the kill' has always been the mark of any successful person or company. What Thaler and Koval have discovered is that basic good manners, being cordial, friendly, and unconsciously kind, will bring in more business than the other.
The author's give the reader many examples of `nice' over arrogance, kindness over aggression, but the most simple and compelling anecdote was the story about their buildings security guard, Frank.
Frank is a larger than life human being who, everyday, meets the NYC workers that move hurriedly to the elevator in search of that first cup of coffee or unfinished presentation. Good old Frank always greets each person with a big grin and a heartfelt `Good Morning'. This greeting is sincere and as time moved along, the workers' for the authors advertising business felt better in the morning and wittled it down to the fact that Frank was the reason (or part of the reason for their change of attitude in the mornings) and began to change their own approaches to business as a result.
The most interesting aspect of this story is that Frank won them one of their biggest accounts, an airline of international distinction. As the anecdote goes, the out-of-town- execs were a little edgy about coming to NYC, as its reputation, in terms of rudeness, is world renown. The execs entered the building and old Frank was there standing guard at the elevator, smiling, hand extended, welcoming them to NYC and the Kaplan Thaler Group. As the author's note, the presentation had been good, but the airlines comments, that if a company had a man likes Frank at their front door, they must be on the ball - the Thaler Kaplan Group won the account.
In life and business kindness and niceness goes a long way; and if consciously practiced, might have huge beneficial outcomes.
Good manners, please and thank you, listening with intent, honesty, put up with, and are nice to, those that irritate;
try to keep the focus of conversation away from yourself, listen with even more intent, give little gifts, chocolates or sweet items that can be eaten without guilt;
Swallow your ego from time to time and let it go, giving something you love to someone else that needs it more;
Compliment but with sincerity, smile, smile and smile again even though you don't feel like it because, more than likely, by forcing those lips to curve, you'll feel happy.
Attempt to feel what the other person is feeling, `walking a few steps in their sandals', and your point of view will change and you'll perhaps develop a bigger picture...
Thaler & Koval did not write this book to make a lot of cash. (Though they have because the advice is true and practical) Though, to be fair, being nice to someone will get you a lot further than neglect or arrogance.
One of the central lessons in this text, (one of the many) is that people remember acts of kindness and acts of selfishness and cruelty. One day you might be sitting in front of a potential employer, wanting the job, but in the past, you were not nice or even cruel to them or to someone they know. Guess what? Next?
I liked this book because its tenets are true and work in the day to day world.
To be nice or kind if you are not used to being so, like basketball, guitar or golf, takes practice to achieve any level of competency.
This book is age old advice, like a seasoned mature wine packaged in a brand new bottle...timeless and worthwhile.
does--or at least not often enough . . . and if that's the case in
your company or organization, then please get and read
THE POWER OF NICE: HOW TO CONQUER THE BUSINESS
WORLD WITH KINDNESS by advertising executives Linda
Kaplan Thealer and Robin Koval.
This is a small but powerful book, packed with
plenty of examples from the corporate world . . . however,
students and others would greatly benefit from reading it as
well, as what the authors have to say makes an awful lot
of sense in any situation.
For example, they talk about how this one little act of kindness
made a flight attendant's day:
While traveling on a business trip from Los Angeles to New York,
Rachel Pine noticed that the airline crew looked extremely harried.
So when the flight attendant came by to check her seat belt,
Rachel offered her a Fig Newton from her family-size pack. "She
took it, and was so grateful that she looked like she was going
to burst into tears," said Rachel. Soon after, the attendant returned
and asked Rachel to follow her--to first class. "The attendant said,
`You have no idea what our last flight was like. If just one passenger
had been like you, it would have been bearable.' "
I also liked this technique for getting people to pay money
that they owe:
Gail tried a number of tactics to convince her creditors to pay--from
letters that said "Please pay soon" festooned with smiley faces to
diplomatic phone calls--but nothing worked. Desperate, she
stumbled on what turned out to be a brilliantly effective idea:
bribing them with baked goods. "I would send out reminders
of past-due invoices with the enticement that if paid by a specified
date, I would reward the client with fresh baked cookies, brownies,
cake--whatever they wanted. And it worked."
And then there's this technique that I currently use (and suggest
that others do, too):
The next time someone close to you is feeling cranky or
disagreeable, try handing them a few chocolate Kisses or
offering them the candy bowl. Although scientists haven't
completely unraveled the mysteries of chocolate, they do know
it contains several organic compounds that produce feelings of
well-being in the human brain. The tryptophan found in
chocolate, for example, enables the brain to create serotonin,
an organic compound that can produce feelings of elation and
ecstasy. And the phenylethylamine in chocolate stimulates the
brain's pleasure centers and produces many of the feelings of
infatuation, including giddiness, attraction, and excitement.
Lastly, THE POWER OF NICE contained some great exercises
that anybody could utilize . . . this one, in particular, caught
Zip your lip
For one day, try to say as little as possible. Try to keep the
focus away from yourself. Where you're tempted to tell a
story, ask a question. Where you're tempted to say, "Oh,
that same thing happened to me...," ask, "How did that make
you feel?" Don't be obnoxious about it. If someone asks how
you feel about the new sports stadium the city is building,
answer the question. But then bring the conversation back to
the other person's opinion. At the end of the day, make a list
of everything that you learned. How much would you have
missed if you had spent the time talking about yourself?
The idea for individuals to be nice to each other and the rewards will come has been out there for a while. There's the "teachings" of Deepak Chopra, the movie "Pay it Forward," "The Power of Positive Thinking" (although this one is more on an individual level), Chicken Soup for the Soul and Random Acts of Kindness. These are simple ways of living in which we can be nice to one another and "karma" or the univers will see to it we get our just rewards.
Well now the business world can take heed. "The Power of Nice" has a business approach to being nice can help your business grow faster than dog-eat-dog. The authors have cited their own examples of how this has worked for them and have gathered real-life examples from others in the business world. You will read examples from Donald Trump (yes he can actually be nice) to Jay Leno.
Now, the really interesting part of this book is not the examples but they have exercises at the end of the chapters, which they call "Nice Cubes" that can help you actually put it into practice. They have also created "The Six Power of Nice Principles" which are a great way to refresh your self and your co-workers on how to be nice in the business world.
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