The Relationship Revolution: Are You Part of the Movement or Part of the Resistance? [Paperback]

I agree with the reviews below and don't have a lot to add except my experience of the book. Having been in a rocky marriage for 33 years I have read many relationship books and this is by far the best. I found myself constantly saying, "Oh my god, I do that. No wonder my relationship is in trouble." and "That's what she does and it really hurts me (or pisses me off)." This book really showed me the error of my ways but also provides a practical path for improvement. I only wish I could get my wife to read it (sigh). Highly recommended.

Drawing from his experiences having gone through what must have been an immensely interesting past, as an individual and then as a therapist, Owen Williams has skillfully littered his book with amusing anecdotes that kept me turning the pages. Admittedly, at times I had to stop in embarrassment at my own inabilities and limitations. It helped me see how simple things could have been in many areas of my life.

Unlike some other self help authors, he doesn't painfully over elaborate any topic. It very simply provides ways to shed our resistance and judgements of others in order to arrive at the core of what we all strive for in a relationship.

For personal reasons I have book marked the chapter on how to express anger as I have a feeling I will be referring to it a lot. This book, with its appropriate title, promises you so much more from your relationships.

Required reading for all.

Having been a client of Owen's, I can attest from personal experience that applying the principles in this book will create magic in your relationships. Although my husband and I couldn't save our marriage, the new relationship we have co-created for the sake of our children is phenomenal. The couple who arrived to their first session was barely speaking and feeling hurt, angry and resentful. Three years later, we have created a trusting, loving, and respectful relationship with laughter and mutual admiration. I now work ON all my relationships instead of IN them. It takes the pressure off the other person to be what I expect them to be, as I create a vision of what I want the relationship to look like instead of what I want the other person to be like. I then base my decisions and behaviours on attaining that vision which gives both people room to be themselves within the relationship. The one simple principle of being curious is life-altering. If I am being curious about a behaviour, mine or the other person's, I can't be judgemental at the same time. It's that simple.

My new romantic relationship is a work in progress, but what a magical relationship it is. Every day I feel grateful for the priceless gift of self-awareness that was sparked by my time spent with Owen. To quote him, "Relationships are simple, not necessarily easy". It's so thrilling to have Owen's direct and simple approach to building a better relationship in a book! If you are serious about creating the relationships you want, and willing to put in the time and energy to build it, buy this book. It will revolutionize the way you approach relationships.