The Richer Sex: How the New Majority of Female Breadwinners Is Transforming Sex, Love and Family Hardcover – Mar 20 2012
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“This thought-provoking exploration of the way women's expanding roles in the workplace is changing their lives at home is sure to create a stir. . . . Readable and poignant, Mundy's latest is the perfect starting-point for this timely conversation.” —Publishers Weekly
“Liza Mundy has written a visionary, optimistic, inspiring book about the future of gender relations in America. She writes with verve, rigor and a keen sense for the unexpected. This is the rare book about the future that not only tells you where we’re headed by why we should want to arrive.” —Steve Coll, Pulitzer Prize-winning journalist and president of the New America Foundation
“Liza Mundy has done something remarkable: she has taken all the major social and economic threads of the past decade, and woven them into a tapestry that explains, well . . . everything. About love, and sex, and family, and work, and the past and the future, and men and women and children. And she has not only written a book that’s important, but also one that's a great read.” —Lisa Belkin, author of First, Do No Harm and Life’s Work
“It is an exciting time to witness changing standards in family life: women in charge, men raising babies, both longing for passion and affection. In The Richer Sex, Liza Mundy asks the poignant questions of how and why these changes are occurring. She deftly examines who wins, who loses, and who is left on the battlefields of love, sex, and money.” —Dr. Justin R. Garcia, author and Research Fellow, The Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender, and Reproduction
“Will the world change once women make up the majority of breadwinners? It assuredly will, and Liza Mundy gives us a fascinating advance report on the sweeping transformations—in romance, economics, politics and family life—headed our way. They will make all our lives better, and Mundy is the first to bring us the good news.” —Annie Murphy Paul, author of Origins: How the Nine Months Before Birth Shape the Rest of Our Lives
“Ambitious . . . Separating The Richer Sex from earlier manifestos and exposés about women . . . is Mundy’s fresh reporting and the reams of new social science research she summarizes to make her case.” —Rachel Shteir, The New York Times Book Review
"A fascinating look at a trend that promises major social changes." —Booklist
About the Author
Liza Mundy is the bestselling author of Michelle: A Biography and Everything Conceivable. A longtime award-winning reporter for The Washington Post, she is currently a Schwartz Fellow at the New America Foundation. She lives in Arlington, Virginia.See all Product Description
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This isn't serious research. With too many mentions of reality television and masculine stereotypes, the entire book is diminished. Mundy ends up doing women a disservice with this book, in my view. She makes it sound like women are only after money and nice, shiny consumer products (and men are only after sex). I do agree that we are experiencing a significant change in gender roles, and therefore society itself. Mundy does make some valid points; however, a few valid arguments scattered throughout a lightweight book do not validate her thesis. Upon closer inspection of her premise, there is no "there" there. It remains to be explored by a real social scientist. In the meantime, serious women and men are already living it.
In true sociological fashion, Mundy gains the meat for her book in a series of interviews. However, we are missing the point of view of men who may be dissatisfied with their new role as homemakers and of course those who have nothing in common with the new dynamic. Mundy acknowledges two types: the straying males, who without the need to work, spend their days out cheating on their breadwinners, and the good boys, who creatively devise new ways to feel whole without the mythical "male" power. "Cinderella has been rewritten," she claims, as men need to get married to pull themselves out of destitution... seriously? With quotes like this, we become immediately aware that this is no book of cold, intellectual exploration, but merely a self-serving "girls power" treatise that has obvious goals outside of an honest discourse.
Since Mundy makes clear she is interested in a fun, imagination of dealing with beta males in the New Way, lets enjoy some more of her musings.
- Women did not really need men in pre-history, because they brought in equal amounts of calories to the table in the form of gathering.
-Women are better at school because it requires "sitting, writing, and talking"
- Women must find new qualities to be attracted to in men because they are not alpha anymore. "He was doing a great job of getting them off the bus and packing lunches!"
- "high earning women will have the sex they want, will look the way they want, not the way their boyfriends want them to look. If men want to date these women, it's the men who will have to watch what they eat and how much they weigh and what they look like"
- Women must be more vigilant when, after they kick men out after sex, the men tend to be clingy
- "at the end of the workday, wives will come home to find the house clean and dinner cooked, and they will relax and enjoy the company of their family over a game of Uno and braving drink of their favorite alcoholic beverage"
- "Men will feel liberated and enlarged. Those who hate office politics and competitive alpha posturing won't have to put up with it........Husbands who help will be considered widely desirable"
What if the sex is bad? Go out and find a man who LOOKS conventionally manly. If you let him shovel snow and chop wood, he will retain just enough alpha energy to bed you with the vim and vigor required of a Queen. Now, without holding back any longer, I must admit that this book is pure rubbish. I would be worried if this male-female dynamic was actually expanding, but we know that these notions are obviously flawed to the point of farce. I hope that you may come to a similar conclusion through my quotes, because reading the book is not recommended in this short time we occupy on this Earth.
Mundy relies to heavely on anecdotal data and it's predictions. She discounts other factors and takes data that shows trends and statistics on the rise for something and she makes it to be, to put it simple, like an out of controll juggernaut with no end in sight. Just like women rises in all areas of life it was due to many factors in their controll and out of their controll like the changes from and industrial economy to service based and how women were able to change the attitudes about being able to obtain there dreams has lead up to todays reallity.It's like going back to the fifties and see data on how men dominated everything at the time and taking statistics that showed men on the rise and making statements that it would never change and would be on the rise for every. At the time most couldn't predict the change in economy, the women's right movement and other social changes. But none of that stops Mundy for making grandiose claims about the new to come working family.
But my biggest complaint with the book is that she views marriage as a dictatorship not as a partnership. Just like the men of old Mundy see marraige just like a typical man saw it decades ago, as a one party system with one spouse saying jump and the other saying how high. Which of course we all know that in large part lead to the women's movement because of this dissatisfaction with how they were perceived and not being able to have a choose. With a few changes and by eleminating a few modern themes, this book could have been easily been writing for the 1950's sexiest man instead of Mundy's "modern women". I found it ironic that there was nothing modern or fresh with her ideas. Instead they were old sexiest theme and standards done over with a careful facelift and new image.
Before this become to long winded, Mundy over simplifies and draws to many overly optimistic and unrealistic conclusions and dismisses out right premises like social pressure, tradition, men desires to succeed, how men's attitudes will and will not change and how womens attitudes will and will not change to make the bases of the claims in her book.
Women have fought hard and long to be able to go to school, have a career and to be sucess in work and family. These are the things they find important and should find important. But now all of the sudden men no long need education, a career, or to be sucessful in work and family. The last several thousand years of sucessful men were all just a dream, or just a case of men not knowing any better. We men will just walk quitely into the night. This is want Mundy would have you believe. I prase successful women, I love my wife success and other women I encounter at my work and aboard. But to all of the sudden to think that men in general will not stop striving for this is just plane ignorant. Men will find there way eventually as are women now. Just give us some time and we will be the successfully leaders, parents, business people, educators etc and stand along side or women in all these endeavors.
As to the issue of whether women really make more or less than men, well, it depends. It depends on how you measure it. It depends on the profession. It depends on market demand for skills. It depends on geography. It depends on commitment (hours) in the job. It depends on education, though comparing "all Bachelor degrees" is not statistically valid. A B.S. in Engineering gets a higher paycheck than a B.A. in Marketing, regardless of gender. And sometimes it depends on a bit of luck - being in the right time at the right place - whether you are "leaning in" (the latest fad) or not. I am a breadwinner wife of many years, but I am astounded by
The truth in all of this is that there is no one answer to who makes less or more at an individual level, it depends on a lot of different factors. But I do believe there is a solid and evolving 20+ year trend in the US to breadwinner wives at the macro level. I also believe that our genetic male and female behaviors frequently run solidly contrary to the workplace behaviors, and so behavior that might make you successful at work can ruin a marriage, and behaviors that make you successful at home can suicide a career. To make each arena work, women in particular need to learn to differentiate these behaviors because in general we are not raised to compartmentalize in such a way. In turn, men are not uninvolved or unaffected by these changes in the work world. It requires the evolution of a different marriage model, and some men are even encouraged by the greater choices they are now allowed. But women not going to gain the corporate power as quickly as Mundy predicts (I've been hearing these predictions for 35 years...). And men are not going to be irrelevant or trivialized anytime soon, nor would I want them to be.