40 of 42 people found the following review helpful
4.0 out of 5 stars
An integrated set of solutions to take control of your life, Dec 25 2010
By M. L Lamendola - Published on Amazon.com
This review is from: The Solution: Conquer Your Fear, Control Your Future (Hardcover)
This book contains advice that I personally give others, plus much more. The text is well-researched, accurate, and complete. What Ms. Basset says draws on a wide range of authoritative literature, and her advice works. Many of the pearls of wisdom in this book have stood the test of time; others are newer, yet producing positive results.
Rather than hit on some "magic bullet," the author provides an integrated approach to gaining and maintaining control over one's life. So, this work is not some "new age gimmick" that you'll give up on after reaching frustration. It's real information for real people who are trying to make it in the real world, despite real problems that seem to defy solution.
I read many books, and this is the first one in a long time in which the author provides diet advice and there aren't any errors. It was like that throughout the book, though--everything was accurate. No guesswork or tapping into poor information sources.
The one thing I don't like about this book is the author's repeated use of "In order to," rather than simply "To" (these mean the same thing). She would make Strunk and White proud if, in a future revision, she does a mass search and replace. This style gaffe doesn't ruin the book, especially considering the enormous value this book brings, but fixing it would improve the reading experience.
In the martial arts, students are taught that the most powerful enemy you will ever face is the one inside you. That is also where your most powerful ally resides. This philosophy may seem simple, but it plays out in many layers and permutations. This philosophy lies at the heart of this book, and Ms. Basset lays out a means of applying it so the reader can gain true happiness, personal security, and fulfillment.
Ms. Basset's main approach is that of identifying "your core story" and then moving forward from there. What she's referring to are your deepest-held beliefs and how you came to hold them. As with everything else she discusses, this comes from established practice that has stood the test of time. This particular concept forms the basis for talk therapy (a general term for various kinds of psychotherapy).
Talk therapy has proven itself to be very effective, partly because it gets you to confront some basic facts about yourself. The weakness of talk therapy is the person under therapy must have a desire to identify and solve his/her problems (the other options being to take drugs, just stay messed up, or--as is more often the case--a combination of the two). So if you want to gain control of events in your life rather than let them control you, this book should be very helpful because it's on solid ground. If you're fairly apathetic, then this book probably won't make any difference. Probably nothing else will, either.
The text contains explanations, examples and personal stories (many from famous people). It also contains a daily "Pro-active Action" item that threads its way through the book until you get to the last one for Day 21. Interestingly, the book does not contain a bibliography. However, readers of the books that were the sources for this book will see familiar facts and tidbits (no, Ms. Bassett did not plagiarize; she merely drew facts from authoritative sources).
This book consists of twelve chapters in 265 pages. Note that 12 of those pages are chapter title pages. The first six chapters are devoted to describing the problem, thus Part I is titled, "The Problem." As you may have already guessed, Part II is titled, "The Solution."
I found this text easy to read (the exception being the style gaffe mentioned earlier). It's upbeat, yet serious. It's upbeat, because the author's message is that you can do this (and here's how). It's serious, because the research behind it is obviously exhaustive. Fortunately, the reader isn't left feeling exhausted--quite the opposite, actually.
If you're having problems dealing with life's constant stream of annoyances, this book can help you sort them out and slow that stream to a trickle. Or perhaps you know someone who is always in crisis; if so, this book would be an ideal gift.
19 of 19 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars
Clear, concise, and usable, Jan 12 2011
By Marianne Clyde - Published on Amazon.com
This review is from: The Solution: Conquer Your Fear, Control Your Future (Hardcover)
Lucinda Bassett has written a thoughtful book about how to overcome anxiety. She gives practical, usable techniques that, once applied, can diffuse panic and chronic anxiety. She encourages personal responsibility and soul searching so we can understand how we allow anxiety to take over our lives, which empowers the reader to then use that responsibility and power to overcome it's debilitating effects on our jobs, our relationships and our joy.